Thinking of having another?

amyc216

There's a similar post on the toddler board, but I'd rather discuss with you all.... Anyone thinking of TTC again?  I'm starting to get the feelings, but I just don't know if it's feasible.  I really want DS to have a sibling and I think I want one more child.  Right now, my mom keeps DS while we work, but she can't handle keeping two.  We'd have to put them in DC or I'd have to quit my job.  I'd love to SAHM, but my job is definitely better and more stable than DH's.  I don't think DH is cut out to be a SAHD and even if he did, I'd be so jealous.  Putting them in DC wouldn't be the worst thing, but I'm so nervous about the idea of it.  Sorry, this post is a lot of thinking it out!  What's going on with you all?  Are you done?  Thinking about another?  

mamaZbo

We are starting to try for another. I want DD to have a sibling and I am not getting any younger. I am not quite sure how we will afford 2 in daycare, but I am sure we will work something out. I would have liked to have them closer in age, but being the bread winner I can't be out of work and needed the time to build up enough leave to take 12 weeks off. I definitely have the baby itch.

joolz17

I'm done now, as my almost three week old is asleep on my lap! I wanted two (though would have been happy with one) and we are through. 

So far this has been great but G has stayed with the nanny and will till July, so ask me again how it is then! And my husband has been seriously unbelievably awesome at being a completely equal parent when he's home from work, which has also made it easy. 

We plan to get a nanny when I go back to work next spring.  

pennysuedog

One more child would make us certifiable here, but we knew we were done after three.

nittanyllama

I really started with the itch around 18 months and it hasn't gone away yet. I really want another. However we are in the process of moving living with my ILs right now until we get a place and trying to see if we can get by on just MH's income so I can SAH. I think as soon as we get a place I want to talk to MH about TTC. I'm youngish but I have PCOS so I don't want to wait terribly long. We plan to be 2 and through.

missyishere

Thanks no thanks.  I am good with my goose and her sister.

morsey2011

I definitely want another child, maybe two more. I am not on birth control and we haven't been good with using condoms, so I guess you could say we aren't preventing, but not actively trying either.  

kagl08

We are 2 and through. I'd be committed if we had a 3rd. We wanted 3 but after the issues we had with L's birth, then his 1st year it's not worth the risk of having another. I'm happy with 2. 

lisamonkee11

We'll very likely be done when DD2 arrives. 2 in daycare will cost us about 500 weekly so 3 would be impossible unless we waited until one is in school and that would make me over 40 so no thanks.
I'm wondering about mirena for after. Anyone have experience with it?

pennysuedog

lisamonkee11:

We'll very likely be done when DD2 arrives. 2 in daycare will cost us about 500 weekly so 3 would be impossible unless we waited until one is in school and that would make me over 40 so no thanks. I'm wondering about mirena for after. Anyone have experience with it?

My neighbor is 9 weeks pregnant with her mirena baby.  That is all the experience I have with it.

joolz17

Woodsie:

 We are only having two, and this might sound horrible, but we also wanted to be done with the pregnancy/infant stage sooner rather than later.

If that's wrong, I don't want to be right! That is what I'm happiest about with having these two so close together.  

colliebabe

I think about it sometimes, but we are both in no rush.  There are a lot of things I want to do this summer that I don't want to be pregnant for.  We might think about it more seriously in the fall.

For me, I really just love having one kid right now.  I know I want a sibling for DD eventually, maybe even two, but right now I really enjoy just having my one kid.

anasazi17

We will be done {for sure} after #2 arrives in December.  While I'm scared sh!tless of having 2 so close together, I will be glad to get it over with.  Does that sound bad?  I mean, I cant wait to get rid of all the saved baby clothes & baby junk...not to mention be done with diapers, night wakes, tantrums etc. 

On a cheery note, I can't wait for A to have a sibling so close in age, I am so looking forward to their interaction as well as family fun as they get older.  I'm very happy it happened for us..I was beginning to think it wasn't meant to be :-) 

 

thetheisens

We were going to wait a couple more years before ttc #3, but life(and booze and drunk sex) changed that. I am nervous about having two so close together and we will have to find a new dc to be able to afford two full time in dc. Dh will be getting snipped after this baby is born.

I understand the pros of having children close in age, but I have a huge age gap now and it's really nice.

katecham

pennysuedog:

lisamonkee11:

We'll very likely be done when DD2 arrives. 2 in daycare will cost us about 500 weekly so 3 would be impossible unless we waited until one is in school and that would make me over 40 so no thanks. I'm wondering about mirena for after. Anyone have experience with it?

My neighbor is 9 weeks pregnant with her mirena baby.  That is all the experience I have with it.

A girl I work with has a 6 month old mirena baby too. She already had 4 boys. He's her 5th. I've never seen anyone so ready to rip off an OB's head. 

 

amyc216

mamaZbo:

We are starting to try for another. I want DD to have a sibling and I am not getting any younger. I am not quite sure how we will afford 2 in daycare, but I am sure we will work something out. I would have liked to have them closer in age, but being the bread winner I can't be out of work and needed the time to build up enough leave to take 12 weeks off. I definitely have the baby itch.

I feel this way too.  I'm 35 so I'm not super-old, but I know I'm not getting any younger!

katecham

DH and I are torn. I'm about 40% sure we will have another. I have an 8.5 year old stepdaughter and 19 month DS. I'm completely content being one and done, but still think about having another. I was so sick the entire time I was pregnant that I really don't want to go thru that again and I'm not sure I could take care of DS while being so sick. My commute to work is an hour and all highway - When I was pregnant with DS it was 20 minutes and I'd have to pull over to puke two times at least on the way to work. 

On top of that, I'm selfish.  I like seeing the silver lining for diapers, and I don't think I can love another kid as much as DS. He is awesome (90% of the time). He was a great newborn, has been a decent toddler, and is hilarious. I'm pretty sure our next kid would be the spawn of satan to make up for having such a good kid this time. Plus I HATED the damn pump. I like that the kiddos are old enough to enjoy activities. I like that they can play by themselves or together without much intervention. 

I think DH is concerned he won't love another baby as much as he loves DS and SD. He had a rough time when SD was born getting "attached" to her (part of the reason they divorced - it's not an issue now) and admitted that he didn't love DS as much as SD after DS was born. It really hurt me, and although I know he would do anything for DS now and loves them both completely, I don't want to go thru that again and I am afraid I won't be able to love another baby as much as DS.

We need some Dr. Phil assistance over here.  

cantalopes24

Daycare is part of the reason we have the age gap we do and our waiting longer between kids. Our families watch the kids for free and while they could handle it I don't think it's fair to ask them to watch two babies especially since my brother is getting married this year and I'm assuming they'll have a baby quickly so that would leave my Dad with three under three if we did. Baby daycare here is 1200 to 2000 a month. MH being back in school, me wanting a SF home and the fact that I don't like babies are our other factors. I love my children but I'm not a "Ohhh look at the squishy baby" person and I can't do two whiney diaper wearers at the same time lol. I also feel like we're just now getting to enjoy Lo so I'm not ready to start over.

lisamonkee11

Ahhhh! Guess it's a no on mirena! Yikes! Must convince DH to get snipped.

I'm very much looking forward to getting my body back. I've been pregnant or nursing for nearly my entire marriage. Would be nice to feel sexy again.

Nita2603

We will be thinking about it in September, when Aidan is a year old. If he sleeps through the night by then. And number three is the last one....
I also want to be done being pregnant and with diapers and all that.

kagl08

Woodsie:

joolz17:

Woodsie:

 We are only having two, and this might sound horrible, but we also wanted to be done with the pregnancy/infant stage sooner rather than later.

If that's wrong, I don't want to be right! That is what I'm happiest about with having these two so close together.  

I'm glad I'm not alone! I am actually giddy at the thought of never being pregnant/nursing again. The wine! The clothes! The travelling! 

We had 2 close together to be done with the baby stage also. My 2 are 13.5 months apart and this year is the 1st year we can do things together and they are both so independent. I am so glad to be done with the infant stage.

And lisamonkee... I have the Mirena, and have had it since DS was 6 weeks old. No issues with it and I LOVE it! No surprise pregnancy for us here.  

Mrs. Mo

After this one, we will definitely need to think if we want a third. If we do, it won't be for 2-3 years. For me, pregnancy is just a means to an end. I do not enjoy being pregnant one bit. If I were rich, I'd probably just have experianced it that once (with DD) then paid for someone to carry any others for me.

thetheisens

cantalopes24:

Daycare is part of the reason we have the age gap we do and our waiting longer between kids. Our families watch the kids for free and while they could handle it I don't think it's fair to ask them to watch two babies especially since my brother is getting married this year and I'm assuming they'll have a baby quickly so that would leave my Dad with three under three if we did. Baby daycare here is 1200 to 2000 a month. MH being back in school, me wanting a SF home and the fact that I don't like babies are our other factors. I love my children but I'm not a "Ohhh look at the squishy baby" person and I can't do two whiney diaper wearers at the same time lol. I also feel like we're just now getting to enjoy Lo so I'm not ready to start over.

I am the same way about babies, expect I like looking at other people's squishy babies that I don't have to take care of. I like ds as a toddler much more than as a newborn.

thetheisens

BrittAnnie19:

We'll be done when this one arrives. Part of me thinks that 3 would be perfect, but part of me is terrified of just having two and adjusting to devoting the attention necessary to 2 kids. Is it bad that I also really like my new car and would hate to have to go minivan if we had 3? In terms of finances and life plans this works well for us. We knew we wanted them close together due to our ages and because DH is a SAHD and we wanted him to be able to get the early childhood thing done and go back to work sooner than later. He is a great SAHD, but I am very jealous of him. Especially when my hated alarm goes off at 0520 and he's loudly snoring away.

I'm trying to really embrace and enjoy the LO and toddler stages because I know that I'll probably get baby crazy in a couple of years and really miss it when that ship has sailed. I'm also keeping a detailed journal to remind me of how much pregnancy sucks and all the nasty symptoms so I'm never tempted to have a whoops-baby.

Damnit, BritAnnie!!! We will not buy a minivan!!! I just can't do it. I know they are practical, but they are ALL ugly. We are looking at an Acadia with second row bucket seats and a third row. Hopefully we can afford it and not have to settle for a minivan. I don't want to!

wilsontl19191

After this guy arrives, we are DONE!!!

kagl08

thetheisens:

Damnit, BritAnnie!!! We will not buy a minivan!!! I just can't do it. I know they are practical, but they are ALL ugly. We are looking at an Acadia with second row bucket seats and a third row. Hopefully we can afford it and not have to settle for a minivan. I don't want to!

I have the Acadia with bucket seats and a 3rd row and I LOVE it! I've had it for 18 months and it's been awesome. Highly recommend it.  

Fianschneid

Nope. You can find me on the One and Done board. Our family is just right the way it is.

thetheisens

Woodsie:

kagl08:

thetheisens:

Damnit, BritAnnie!!! We will not buy a minivan!!! I just can't do it. I know they are practical, but they are ALL ugly. We are looking at an Acadia with second row bucket seats and a third row. Hopefully we can afford it and not have to settle for a minivan. I don't want to!

I have the Acadia with bucket seats and a 3rd row and I LOVE it! I've had it for 18 months and it's been awesome. Highly recommend it.  

You don't need a minivan! I just got a Ford Explorer a few months ago with 3rd row seating and I love it. There are tons of options for mid-size SUVs with 3rd row seating.

Yes, there are other options, but used minivans are usually much more affordable than decent used SUV's. I blame it on the minivan ugliness. We are without car payments right now and it's so nice. So we will have to see if my cheapness or fear of minivans wins.

cantalopes24

We picked up a Dodgs Journey with 3 rd row seating and I loooove it! It gets great mileage for a V6.

jwls84

We are definitely excited for another baby over here. We aren't preventing right now and we will see how the summer goes with that. At the end if July if I am not already pregnant we will start taking TTC more seriously. I play baseball so I am not sure how I feel about being pregnant and playing so that is why we are just taking a laid back approach for the moment!

CMonkey515

The original plan was to TTC #2 pretty soon after we had DS. When the reality of a newborn hit me I decided to hold off. DH has been on my case about TTC again for close to a year now, but I'm just not ready. I definitely want another. Just not now. I thought for sure baby fever would kick in by now, but nothing. Even when my BFF got pregnant a few months ago. I thought for sure that would get me going. Then she found out she's expecting twins, and now I have even less desire to get pregnant. I would die if that happened to me! Originally I wanted 3 and DH wanted (still does) 4, but I can say almost definitely that I'm only interested in having one more.

I'm 35 so there isn't a whole lot of time for me to keep putting it off. I really want to lose at least a little weight first, and get a little more money in savings. We'll definitely need a bigger place since our tiny house is too small for the three of us now. I'm not sure when we'll start TTC, but I'm guessing within the next year. I said that a year ago though, so we'll see.

missyishere

cantalopes24:

We picked up a Dodgs Journey with 3 rd row seating and I loooove it! It gets great mileage for a V6.

We also have a Journey and love it! Tons of storage and space.

thetheisens

missyishere:

cantalopes24:

We picked up a Dodgs Journey with 3 rd row seating and I loooove it! It gets great mileage for a V6.

We also have a Journey and love it! Tons of storage and space.

I don't know what a Journey looks like. I will have to google. It must be better looking than a minivan if Lopes is cool driving it.

Ms.Jade

We are O&D and I have a million reasons why that I've talked about on the OAD board, but I can give you guys more details. Here are a few;

1. I have a small house and E (and her stuff) fit perfectly at the moment if I edit and stay on top of things. Two would result in an overflow and I can't move which leads me to...

2. We are finally in a good place financially and I just can't screw that up. We have a 15 year mortgage with only 11 years left on it so I am NOT interested in moving to something bigger or doing a costly add on and getting into more debt.

3. It took me 7 years to get through college 100% on my own so I have fought long and hard for my career. It's demanding but I am excelling and up for a major promotion. I cannot take off another 6 months in the foreseeable future.

4. I love that we can easily handle E and we each have time for our own interests and hobbies, as well as time for each other. That's the first thing to go with the 2nd kid and I'm just not willing to give up our flow.

5. We want to travel and I loved buying just 3 tickets for our trip this fall. No interest in trying to travel with 4 and I can't afford it anyway. We have our trips through 2016 planned (my sister's husband's family in from India and they're inviting us along to India, Tanzania, and Egypt to stay with family members in the next few years,a nd we have our own plans to go to Alaska in 2014 and Italy in 2015. Not screwing that up with another baby. 

6. I do want her to have a sibling - I am soooo close to my sister, but that's a sh!tty reason to have a baby. It makes me sad how many 2nd kids were created just for the first.

7. We can actually afford stuff with one. The schools where we live are ok, but the private schools have amazing arts and music and enrichment programs. We're thinking about private school and that's not feasible with two.  

8. Did I mention we only have 11 more years on our mortgage? We can afford college and to travel and maybe even early retirement. All of that gets shifted with another kid.

I have more, but isn't that enough? LOL! 

cantalopes24

thetheisens:

missyishere:

cantalopes24:

We picked up a Dodgs Journey with 3 rd row seating and I loooove it! It gets great mileage for a V6.

We also have a Journey and love it! Tons of storage and space.

I don't know what a Journey looks like. I will have to google. It must be better looking than a minivan if Lopes is cool driving it.

Yup! It sounds mean when you start it up and it sh!ts and gits when it needs to. There's in floor storage and its not crazy high off the ground. The radio is touch screen and we got a sunroof so it makes me feel like I have a fancy car lmao. We bought a lower end of the mid grade one and I think it was 25 all said and done brand new. I looked at a bunch and I really feel like for what we paid it was the best option. MH is hoping I'll change my mind on a van because he wants sliding doors lol.

amyc216

LaneyPoopers:

anasazi17:

We will be done for sure after 2 arrives in December. nbsp;While I'm scared sh!tless of having 2 so close together, I will be glad to get it over with. nbsp;Does that sound bad? nbsp;I mean, I cant wait to get rid of all the saved baby clothes amp; baby junk...not to mention be done with diapers, night wakes, tantrums etc.nbsp;On a cheery note, I can't wait for A to have a sibling so close in age, I am so looking forward to their interaction as well as family fun as they get older. nbsp;I'm very happy it happened for us..I was beginning to think it wasn't meant to be :nbsp;nbsp;

Pretty much this. Just got my BFP today so I better get ready. :

Congrats!!

wilsontl19191

LaneyPoopers:

anasazi17:

We will be done for sure after 2 arrives in December. nbsp;While I'm scared sh!tless of having 2 so close together, I will be glad to get it over with. nbsp;Does that sound bad? nbsp;I mean, I cant wait to get rid of all the saved baby clothes amp; baby junk...not to mention be done with diapers, night wakes, tantrums etc.nbsp;On a cheery note, I can't wait for A to have a sibling so close in age, I am so looking forward to their interaction as well as family fun as they get older. nbsp;I'm very happy it happened for us..I was beginning to think it wasn't meant to be :nbsp;nbsp;

Pretty much this. Just got my BFP today so I better get ready. :

This is exactly how I feel! And congrats poopers!

missyishere

LaneyPoopers:

anasazi17:

We will be done for sure after 2 arrives in December. nbsp;While I'm scared sh!tless of having 2 so close together, I will be glad to get it over with. nbsp;Does that sound bad? nbsp;I mean, I cant wait to get rid of all the saved baby clothes amp; baby junk...not to mention be done with diapers, night wakes, tantrums etc.nbsp;On a cheery note, I can't wait for A to have a sibling so close in age, I am so looking forward to their interaction as well as family fun as they get older. nbsp;I'm very happy it happened for us..I was beginning to think it wasn't meant to be :nbsp;nbsp;

Pretty much this. Just got my BFP today so I better get ready. :

Congratulations!

stardust317

I told DH we would try one more time.  He really wants a boy, but I'm convinced we're having 3 girls.  

 We can't afford 3 in daycare so it'll be 3-4 years before we try again.   

Junebug060609

Currently TTC#2...with a m/c since DS

mrs.lizzieb

I'm really torn on this one.  I think my heart wants another one, but I don't really want to go through the baby stage again, and I don't know how well I could handle 3 kids on my own with my H's crazy work schedule.  If we do decide to have another, it won't be for at least another year.  I would want DS in kindergarten so I'd only have 2 kids at home with me during the day.