Gender appt upset

almostmoore2012

There are so many people that said Its sex not gender so I'm not gonna quote. Look up the definition of gender. That's the only thing annoying me on this topic lol.

gen?der

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1. somebody's sex: the sex of a person or organism, or of a whole category of people or organisms

WashingtonQueen

tallywah08:

   How did I act like a *** at all? I didn't even say anything to him about it? The ultrasound took him literally two minutes to do. I asked if it would be a problem they said no. He came in and said he was sure from last time then I proceeded to say oh then don't worry about it. And he continued to do it with a bad attitude I did not demand anything nor was I bratty about it. I'm a grown woman who had a two year old with me. Why would I have acted nasty about it? Apparently you people don't find it appropriate to want to know the sex. Are more worried being smart asses to someone than look at the real topic of what I was saying. It wasn't okay for him to act like that when I certainly did not in any way elicit the behavior he displayed. If he did not think it was necessary he could have said so he is a grown man who has been in his profession for many years so I trusted what he said. But he chose to instead make me feel uncomfortable about it instead of simply stating no I'm sure it's a girl so lets not worry about the ultrasound and do what was planned which I'm sure would have taken just as long as the ultrasound he did do. So before you negative people keeping blowing crap out of proportion read with your mind. And absorb what i have said and quit trying to make someone sound bad. Hardcore with the keyboard much?

Trying to make someone look bad? Ha! Yeah, this whole time you have been trying to make your doctor look bad. He was grumpy, not nasty. Nasty would be cursing and yelling at you, which he did not do. Get the fluck over yourself! You got what the hell you wanted you little brat.

runningpenguin

Darbie914:

OP, I'm just curious and not even trying to be snarky. nbsp;You said you were on a very tight budget. nbsp;But you also said you understood if you ended having to pay for the U/S because it was not a regularly scheduled U/S.So how does it make sense to potentially spend a few hundred dollars for something that wasn't needed instead of spending that money on baby items that ARE needed?nbsp;

That's what I've been wondering too! Also, I'd like to know why knowing the sex would make it easier to shop on a budget.

WashingtonQueen

mewebster59:

Also, the insurance isn't just paying him, the OP is paying him. Whether that is through an insurance company or not is not important. If he wanted to bill out so that the sex scan wouldn't be covered, and would be the OP's responsibility, he could. Either way, the OP pays for her healthcare (unless she is on government healthcare, and then I have a totally different outlook).

I guarantee you she is. That is why she wanted her doctor to do another one instead of going to an elective ultrasound place, she wanted it done for "free".

mben1119

WashingtonQueen:

mewebster59:

Also, the insurance isn't just paying him, the OP is paying him. Whether that is through an insurance company or not is not important. If he wanted to bill out so that the sex scan wouldn't be covered, and would be the OP's responsibility, he could. Either way, the OP pays for her healthcare (unless she is on government healthcare, and then I have a totally different outlook).

I guarantee you she is. That is why she wanted her doctor to do another one instead of going to an elective ultrasound place, she wanted it done for "free".

I really really hope he bills her for the entire cost. Unnecessary procedures, including excessive u/s, drive up health care costs for the rest of us.

jorkz821

Yeah, but Burger King tho.

CaliforniaDream87

MissLauraPants:

lol at this whole crazy post and people responding =

yea, like you.

ROLLS EYES

Kristonita12

almostmoore2012:

WashingtonQueen:

tallywah08:

Yes I know it's not really a gender appt that's just what I came up with to put as post title. People are very big on correct terms here aren't they. People seem to go through post just to tell people off or something ha ha. But thanks for your input everyone. I'm just too hormonal about it and expected to much.

That is never an excuse for stupidity.

I don't think anything she has written has been stupid.

 

ditto. It's also not an excuse for being a tool.  

EmJ&B

NRyan55:

alkvoelker:

GIFSoup

I see your yorkie and raise you a pug:

I see your pug and raise you a boxer:

Amjoy25

EmJ&B:

NRyan55:

alkvoelker:

GIFSoup

I see your yorkie and raise you a pug:

I see your pug and raise you a boxer:

I see your Yorkie, Pug and Boxer and raise you a bunch of corgi puppies

WashingtonQueen

 

 

LOL! I have both of these breeds.

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coraggiosa

mabenner1:

WashingtonQueen:

mewebster59:

Also, the insurance isn't just paying him, the OP is paying him. Whether that is through an insurance company or not is not important. If he wanted to bill out so that the sex scan wouldn't be covered, and would be the OP's responsibility, he could. Either way, the OP pays for her healthcare (unless she is on government healthcare, and then I have a totally different outlook).

I guarantee you she is. That is why she wanted her doctor to do another one instead of going to an elective ultrasound place, she wanted it done for "free".

I really really hope he bills her for the entire cost. Unnecessary procedures, including excessive u/s, drive up health care costs for the rest of us.

Agreed. The OP might be paying for part or all of her insurance, but performing procedures that aren't medically necessary drive the cost of healthcare up for everyone. Insurance functions off of risk pools, and the more people use it, the more it costs. So while she MIGHT be paying for it, when she uses care that isn't medically necessary, it drives the cost up for everyone. I absolutely hope she gets the entire bill for the ultrasound. 

Mrs. Mo

OK, so, the most important question of all: Did he confirm that the baby is, in fact, female???

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ahellums

It does not surprise me at all of the responses on here. And it is always the SAME people who always respond in the same way. So annoying.

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PrimRoseMama

Scout2005:

 

tallywah08:

Something that isn't your business nor did I ask your input on it.

Per your OP:

 

tallywah08:

Should I just let it be accounted to maybe he had a bad day?

 

You expressly asked for input and directly made it the business of everyone on the Internet.

Attempting to slant this as people flaming you for wanting to find out the sex (and OMFG it's "sex" and not "gender") of your baby is making you look silly. I haven't done formal polling or anything, but I would wager that Team Find Out outnumbers Team Green here on TB. We all understand being eager to know the sex of the baby.

You're being chided for your attitude about the doctor's reaction to your actions. Either you're too far gone being defensive (despite asking for thoughts on the situation) or you're quite dense and this is somehow escaping you.

God, thank you Scout!

I'm voting on incredibly, woefully and irrevocably dense. So very dense.

As usual, a newbie princess being self involved, outraged and butthurt even though they came here asking for advice and opinions on how they handled a situation.

They expect to be told "oh you poor thing! You are SO right". They don't get what they want to hear and so begins the son story and complaining of supposed Internet bullying.

Here's a hint: if you don't really want opinions then don't put this out there. If you put it out there then don't complain if it doesn't go your way.

I really wonder how these people cope with life.

MrsQueale

WashingtonQueen:

PrimRoseMama:

That's the thing. I don't think he was out of line. I think she was asking him to do an extra measurement that had been done previously. If this was a follow up anatomy scan [which is what it sounds like] then there is no need to go back and look at a measurement that had been completed successfully. Just because she wasn't satisfied doesn't mean he didn't do his job right. An anatomy scan is not a trip to Burger King. You can't always get things your way with special sauce. His job and what the insurance pays him for is to take measurements to ensure the health of the baby. It is not to take orders from patients that cannot see the Forrest for the trees and are hung up on sex in order to shop. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. I get it. She wanted to double check. That doesn't mean that the doc is required to acquiesce to her request with a smile on his face. He's a medical professional and not a trained poodle that is there to do what a patient wants. You are allowed to your opinion. I am allowed to mine. You think she was justified. I do not [and I am not alone]. If it was me I would STFU and stop wasting a medical professional's valuable time. Then I'd go plunk down money for an elective ultrasound if I cared that much. If you have money to shop you have money to spend on an elective u/s at Stork Vision. This is less about a snarky doc and more about the OP [and others] thinking they get to dictate orders during a medical procedure. It's not for your entertainment or so you can shop. It's a medical evaluation.

Oh, Wise Prim, I do think I love you!

I agree with Prim. I really think you should take the time to consider what she said. She is pointing out the facts from a medical stand point. You're not his only patient and you are no more special than the rest of them.

PrimRoseMama

jorkz821:

Yeah, but Burger King tho.

Seriously now I want a burger so bad.

PrimRoseMama

ahellums:

It does not surprise me at all of the responses on here. And it is always the SAME people who always respond in the same way. So annoying.

But you are SO incredibly helpful, witty and entertaining? Lawlz at your 4 posts and stuff. Be the change you want to see and all that jazz.

PrimRoseMama

MrsQueale:

WashingtonQueen:

PrimRoseMama:

That's the thing. I don't think he was out of line. I think she was asking him to do an extra measurement that had been done previously. If this was a follow up anatomy scan [which is what it sounds like] then there is no need to go back and look at a measurement that had been completed successfully.

Just because she wasn't satisfied doesn't mean he didn't do his job right. An anatomy scan is not a trip to Burger King. You can't always get things your way with special sauce. His job and what the insurance pays him for is to take measurements to ensure the health of the baby. It is not to take orders from patients that cannot see the Forrest for the trees and are hung up on sex in order to shop. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.

I get it. She wanted to double check. That doesn't mean that the doc is required to acquiesce to her request with a smile on his face. He's a medical professional and not a trained poodle that is there to do what a patient wants.

You are allowed to your opinion. I am allowed to mine. You think she was justified. I do not [and I am not alone]. If it was me I would STFU and stop wasting a medical professional's valuable time. Then I'd go plunk down money for an elective ultrasound if I cared that much. If you have money to shop you have money to spend on an elective u/s at Stork Vision.

This is less about a snarky doc and more about the OP [and others] thinking they get to dictate orders during a medical procedure. It's not for your entertainment or so you can shop. It's a medical evaluation.

Oh, Wise Prim, I do think I love you!

I agree with Prim. I really think you should take the time to consider what she said. She is pointing out the facts from a medical stand point. You're not his only patient and you are no more special than the rest of them.

WashingtonQueen

Mrs. Mo:

OK, so, the most important question of all: Did he confirm that the baby is, in fact, female???

Haha! I am pretty sure the baby is still a girl seeing as how she didn't state otherwise. Further showing how unnecessary another $400 ultrasound was.

lthumma12

WashingtonQueen:

tallywah08:

Yes I know it's not really a gender appt that's just what I came up with to put as post title. People are very big on correct terms here aren't they. People seem to go through post just to tell people off or something ha ha. But thanks for your input everyone. I'm just too hormonal about it and expected to much.

That is never an excuse for stupidity.

All she did was ask a question, admitted she is hormonal and you call her stupid? Wow, class act.  

lthumma12

tallywah08:

WashingtonQueen:

tallywah08:

Yes I know it's not really a gender appt that's just what I came up with to put as post title. People are very big on correct terms here aren't they. People seem to go through post just to tell people off or something ha ha. But thanks for your input everyone. I'm just too hormonal about it and expected to much.

That is never an excuse for stupidity.

Rude.

Couldn't agree with you more. 

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PrimRoseMama

ButthurtBetty:

But you guyz!!!11111!!!! Of course the gender (barf) is the most important thing! How dare the doctor not cater to her every whim????? Who cares if that wasn't the point of the appointment? We're supposed to get what we want when we want it. Just because the rest of us are all to cowardly (considerate/knowledgeable of how the real world works) to ask? Shame on us for being b!tches!!!11111!!!!eleventy!!!

Maz:

Wow, this is the first post I have read.  You people are HORRIBLE!!!!!  Just because someone wants to know the gender of their baby doesn't mean they don't care about the health of the baby.  Nothing this woman has said was stupid.  Doctors should have a good bedside manner.

 

I feel very bad that you (OP) have been treated this way.  I thought the purpose of this board was to provide support for the people on it.  I can't believe people are calling the OP stupid etc.

 

I think I am done here.  I'm off to find a board with decent people on it. 

A GBCB on the first post? Awesome! 

 

WashingtonQueen

lthumma12:

WashingtonQueen:

tallywah08:

Yes I know it's not really a gender appt that's just what I came up with to put as post title. People are very big on correct terms here aren't they. People seem to go through post just to tell people off or something ha ha. But thanks for your input everyone. I'm just too hormonal about it and expected to much.

That is never an excuse for stupidity.

All she did was ask a question, admitted she is hormonal and you call her stupid? Wow, class act.  

runblondie26

Oh please, being excited to know the gender in no way means the health of the baby is not important to the mother.

 OP, you had a good appointment other wise, yes? The nurse made it sound like the confirmation u/s was no big deal to have done, yes?  You would have no reason to think the quick u/s was an issue then, correct?

If the doctor has always had a good bedside manner otherwise, I'd just chalk it up to the him having a bad day.

LuciiLovesHanz

You find out real quick who's posts to ignore on other boards. These women are trolling, trying to find someone to belittle, and I have made their list. I am sure that they will have a hay day with this post as well, but I DON'T REALLY CARE! It is clear from this thread who the ones are who are here to give legitimate advice and those are here to troll and make fun of a predicament the OP is taking very seriously. As women, we should be SUPPORTING each other, but I don't see a whole lot of support. I am with the gal who posted "i may find a new board" and idgaf if "no one will miss me" because I won't miss these trolls.

WashingtonQueen

LuciiLovesHanz:

You find out real quick who's posts to ignore on other boards. These women are trolling, trying to find someone to belittle, and I have made their list. I am sure that they will have a hay day with this post as well, but I DON'T REALLY CARE! It is clear from this thread who the ones are who are here to give legitimate advice and those are here to troll and make fun of a predicament the OP is taking very seriously. As women, we should be SUPPORTING each other, but I don't see a whole lot of support. I am with the gal who posted "i may find a new board" and idgaf if "no one will miss me" because I won't miss these trolls.

You should probably know what a troll is before you call people one. You are making yourself look even dumber.

Here is your support -

DinoMama

People can be incredibly rude on here. If you want to vent, vent, but I think if the doctor isn't sure, they shouldnt tell you one way or the other.

At this point, I think it would be best to discuss this with your doctor rather than going through the hassle of finding a new one.  At least baby is healthy!

For the record...Im dying to know what we're having. A lot of people told me it'll be easier to connect once I know what the sex is...so if it will help me to connect with my child I think it matters a ton. 

Mrs. Mo

DinoMama:

People can be incredibly rude on here. If you want to vent, vent, but I think if the doctor isn't sure, they shouldnt tell you one way or the other.

At this point, I think it would be best to discuss this with your doctor rather than going through the hassle of finding a new one.  At least baby is healthy!

For the record...Im dying to know what we're having. A lot of people told me it'll be easier to connect once I know what the sex is...so if it will help me to connect with my child I think it matters a ton. 

Please tell me how this is supposed to work???? I found out with both and have felt the same connection both before and after knowing the sexes.

Want to really connect with your baby? Wait until you feel that first kick (esp if it kicks your bladder or cervix). That will be enough to feel a connection.