Pregnant after 35

very bad news...

I started spotting today, called midwife and went for ultrasound...no more heartbeat and development stopped. So, I'm at home resting and will see her tomorrow to discuss management of this process.

 

 I'm sad of course but I don't regret having tried to have a baby now...if we hadn't tried we've always have wondered, I guess. I just hope to get through this process quickly and without complication. I'd prefer to let it all happen naturally, we'll discuss all this tomorrow, right now I'm mind-boggled.

Re: very bad news...

  • I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  Thoughts and prayers.
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  • I'm so sorry. That's such sad news. Rest up and take care.
  • I'm so sorry for your loss.
    TTC since Dec. 2010. Me: 37, DH: 38...unexplained RPL
    BFP #1 - missed m/c 4.18.11 found @8w3d, d&c @13w 
    BFP #2 blighted ovum found 8.2011 @8w, misoprostol
    BFP#3 - missed m/c 6.11.12 @ 9w3d, d&c revealed extra chromosome 15
    BFP#4 8.10.12, DD born 4/26/13
  • I am so sorry. It can be so painful. Usually, it takes awhile to heal from this. Please take good care of yourself. 
  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you take the time you need to mourn your loss so you can move forward. ((hugs))
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    TTC #2: BFP 4/22 but stalled growth and no HB at 9w3d on 5/30        

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  • Oh no, that is very sad news. You're in my thoughts.
    Me: 38, DH: 35
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  • Thank you all. I am ok right now. The midwife presented three options for me to consider-D&C, a medication, and natural...I'm tending toward med or natural, but I just want to get it going.
  • I am so sorry......I know there are no words.  Will be keeping you in my T & P.

     

    TTC since 10/09 Me-43 DH-44 RE and testing 10/10-11/10, Recommending IVF 1/11 New RE AMA and DOR-DH low motility IVF #1.1 cancelled 3/11 due to poor response IVF #1.2 May 2011, one perfect 8-cell embryo, 3dt-BFN, IVF #2.1 Converted to IUI d/t poor response. New RE 9/2011. IVF 2.2 completed using HGH,EPP,DHEA, Q-10 and accupuncture. Transferred one 8-cell, grade one embryo on 10/19. BFP 10/31/11 Chemical pregancy on 11/2/11. Started stims for IVF #3, our final try, on 12-2-11. ET on 12/18. Transferred 3 Grade A embryos-BFFN Planning DE IVF, late March/early April- Donors ER expected to be 4/2-4/4. PAIF/SAIF welcome
  • I'm so sorry for your loss.

    Me:40 AMA, DH:36 0% morph, TTC#1;
    BFP#1 4/2011, MMC 6/2011 11wks Trisomy 13;
    BFP#2 11/2011, CP
    FSH: 17.9, AMH: 2.2
    IVF#1 w/ICSI: ER 4/3: 5R,4M,4F
    ET 4/6 All 4 (1-8A+, 2-8A-, 1-3A) BFP#3
    Two weeks of beta hell = Blighted Ovum
    IVF#2 Aug/Sept: ER 8/27: 4R,3M,3F
    ET 8/30 (1-8A+, 1-6A+)
    Beta#1 9/10: 350; Beta#2 9/12: 796; Beta#3 9/20: 9155
    Expecting Boy/Girl Twins! My babies were born 4/23/13 at 36w1d!

     
     

  • I'm very sorry to hear this. Please take care of yourself.
  • AbeilleAbeille member
    I'm so sorry for your loss.
    Me: 38, PCOS/ DH: 37

    DD born 12.21.09, conceived w/ injects and IUI



    TTC#2 since Nov 2011

    BFP 2.6.12 m/c 6w5d | BFP 5.25.12 c/p

    -Back to the RE-

    3 medicated IUIs, all BFN

    -Taking a break from treatment-

    BFP 11.20.12 ~ EDD 7.28.13

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  • I'm very sorry for your loss. 

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  • I'm so sorry:(
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  • GuennieGuennie member
    I've been where you are now and know the shock and heartache, I am so very sorry and wish you a timely outcome. There are many phases in the grieving process, give yourself the time you need. You will be in my thoughts. Hugs.
    Me:41, DH:41 Positive for MTHFR mutations- one copy C677T, one copy A1298C. One daughter born on Thanksgiving in 2013. Six losses.
  • kje120kje120 member
    I'm so very sorry for your loss.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. :(
  • Sorry....
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  • Thank you everyone. I decided to use cytotec, but actually I was already in progress anyways which was good-it was not a long process and I was at home, fairly comfortable. I felt better yesterday and even more so today.

     

     Dh and I are disappointed but not devastated. We are glad we tried, despite the outcome. We are not going to try again at this time-we both feel the same about it. 

     

     We are getting a new apple tree to plant in baby's memory-we had a couple beautiful ones when we moved here but the freak October snowstorm a few years back toppled them. So the new tree will blossom every year around this time...I'll look forward to that every year and it will be a positive memory.

     

     I do wish I could figure out how to get rid of the ticker ...

  • GuennieGuennie member
    Go to your signature and simply highlight and then delete the link to your ticker.  It's sometimes slow to update but if you click save a few times it should do it.  All the best to you, glad it went quickly.  Hugs. 
    Me:41, DH:41 Positive for MTHFR mutations- one copy C677T, one copy A1298C. One daughter born on Thanksgiving in 2013. Six losses.
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