How would you handle this?

MrsEllis10

I keep a 16 month old in my home during the week and today I found out that she hasn't had her 12 month vaccinations. I only started keeping her 3 months ago and I didn't even think to ask something like that beings she didn't seem like the type of person that wouldn't vaccinate her kids.
She asked me if I had a scale to weigh her daughter. I said no, how much was she at her 15 month checkup. That's when she told me she hasn't even been to her 12 month checkup because her childs dad had lost his job and gotten another and their is a lapse for insurance. I advised her to check into the COBRA law. Her attitude was that it wasn't a big deal so I reacted with no concern. The childs dad got a job a month ago and there is a 3 month employment wait until he can get insurance with the company. That would put her months behind on her vaccinations. After she left I realized omg her child hasn't been vaccinated and now I'm not sure how to approach her about this.
I do not like confrontation or questioning people, especially about their parenting. I know this concerns my children as well, but I'm just not sure if a call, text or just mentioning it in person is how to approach it. I'm a nervous wreck about this because I love her and her child dearly and do not want her to get mad or just stop bringing her, but if she isn't going to get her daughter up to date on vaccinations I may have to ask her to stop bringing her.

Please, moms lend me your best advice!!

MrsEllis10

SandAndsSea:

If you plan to continue watching thenbsp;girl, I wouldnbsp;inquire to ensure thenbsp;vaccines will be done if that's o

yssej7

What is the "type of person to not vaccinate" like?  I wasn't aware that a parenting decision she made for her family and her child puts her in a negative "TYPE of person" stereotype.. I think  if you're that uncomfortable and concerned about

MrsT2008

yssej7:

What is the "type of person to not vaccinate" like?  I wasn't aware that a parenting decision she made for her fa

gracefulruby33

yssej7:

What is the "type of person to not vaccinate" like?  I wasn't aware that a parenting decision she made for her fa

Margaret Lemon

In my state, the health dept gives free vaccines to those in need. Share this with her. 

 

chardonnay24

gracefulruby33:

yssej7

Nel11

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lovemyminions

From the point of view of someone who waited to vaccinate until our child was a little older to start vacinating (we have a family history of severe reactions to the vaccines ) what I was advised by our doctor that there isn't a lot to be concerned about

thechickencoop

I would do what pps said and check with your health department or the laws in your state because those well-baby check ups and routine vaccines should be free.  Also, I would call your pedi to see if there really is a reason to be concerned.  It

MamaToFinley

Why do you need to approach her about this? If your children are vaccinated, it should not impact you. If I were in this parent's position and you made a big deal, I wouldn't drop you as a childcare provider because you made me feel uncomfortable about

laurakaz13

chardonnay24:

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MrsEllis10

MamaToFinley:

Why do you need to approach her about this? If your children are vaccinated, it should not impact you. If I were in t

NickKaylee

First discuss the issue with your pediatricianc; it may be ok but clarify that. Although it is every parents choice of when to vaccinate their children and not something others should judge; if you are offering to watch her child and this is a stipulation

Venuschild

It seems like this conversation  is over, but just to add my own 2 cents, I would call your pediatrician'soffice and speak to the dr or nurse get sound medical advice before talking to the mom....

angegary

Going back to the original question.....I would start by having a discussion with the parent about your concerns. This will help you know whether her family situation has made it difficult to make scheduled appts for well visits and vaccinations or if sh

angegary

angegary:

Going back to the original question.....I would start by having a discussion with the parent about your concerns. This w

Haley.Beth

Assuming the child is up to date on her vaccines up to 12 months, the only new vaccines she would have received would have been MMR, varicella, and Hep A. Out of those, the only disease that really occurs regularly and under normal circumstances

boogerbearoriginal

Haley.Beth:

Assuming the child is up to date on her vaccines up to 12 months, the only new vaccines she would have re

bets2011

Any child in the US who does not have insurance that covers vaccinations can get free vaccines under a program called Vaccines For Children.  She will probably have to go to a health department or certain clinics in her area that participate, but

poppy33

Booger+Bear:

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tanyaspid

mbenit4:

God damn there is some judgy bitchiness going on in here. I am so glad life has never thrown any of you curve balls w

ASmallWonder

poppy33:

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CLL1001

tanyaspid:

mbenit4:

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Nel11:

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tanyaspid

CLL1001:

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DawnJM25

yssej7:

What is the "type of person to not vaccinate" like?  I wasn't aware that a parenting decision she made for her

MrsEllis10

Thank you everyone for your responses. 

1- I do not judge people that do not vaccinate their kids. That is their business, however, I choose to vax my children and I would like the children that come in to my home to be vaxx'd as well.

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RayRay007

Aside from ditto mbenit, I wanted to say I'm not scared of unvaccinated kids so I wouldn't do anything about it. I don't think it's necessarily irresponsible to not vaccinate your kid. But if you get the impression that she wants to vaccinate, but can't a

KaliChick

Wow, came to check out the board and this is the first post I saw. 

I guess I'm in the ignorant, uneducated category because I have my kid on an alternative schedule.  By alternative I mean that we don't do 4-6 vaccinations at one tim

COMomma81

Booger+Bear:

Haley.

LatteLady5

MrsEllis10:

Thank you everyone for your responses. 

1- I do not judge people that do not vaccinate their kids. That