Is this weird??

desertheart

My husband and I are trying to have a baby.  I love names, so I'm already thinking about this.

I thought we might name our baby after my uncle, who died several years before I was born.  He died in an accident when he was in high school.  He was definitely the family favorite since he was baby of the family.  He was so dearly loved and is still missed even today.

I've been seeing a counselor for other issues, but my uncle is something we talk about.  I mentioned the idea of naming a child after him.  She thought it was strange to name a child after an uncle I've never even met. 

It never even crossed my mind that it was strange.  What do ya'll think??

I mean my uncle was the sort of person you'd hope your child would be.  Smart, funny, kind, well-liked, involved in school.  An all around good person.  

 

 

 

Helenahhandbasket

Not at all.

I actually think it's weird that your counselor thinks it's weird.

One of the names DH and I love-- Augustus-- is after my G. Grandfather who passed almost 25 years before I was born.  

Stardust54

Same situation with us. DH's uncle died when he was 25 or so, DH never met him but apparently he was just awesome. I, too, wonder why your therapist thought it was strange??

desertheart

Love Augustus.  Such a strong name! 

cnomack

Not weird at all! It's nice to honor a family member, even if you never met them.  

Zimger

I think your therapists point of view is strange. People use family names all the time. I know several people who scan their family tree in order to come up with names.

EastCoastBride

MommyLizzy:

Lots of people name children after great grandparents they have never met.

This

Zimger

EastCoastBride:

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desertheart

I'm not for sure why she thought it strange. 

She said something about it strange for me, as a female, to have such a strong connection to a male relative I've never met. 

I think have this connection because I'm so close to my

tralfamadorian

sounds like a very strange thing for a therapist to say- she's not being paid for her personal opinion! weird! (and i'm a therapist...)

 

and also i don't think there's anything weird about using family names of people you haven't met.

Helenahhandbasket

shelia6:

I'm not for sure why she thought it strange. 

She said something about it strange for me, as a female, to

desertheart

tralfamadorian:

sounds like a very strange thing for a therapist to say- she's not being paid for her personal opinion! weird!

desertheart

Thanks, Helena and everyone else.

But now I can't get it out of my head.  

Helenahhandbasket

shelia6:

tralfamadoria

desertheart

Overall, I like her okay.  I might have to re-evaluate this though.  I've spilled my guts to her, but sometime I'm not for sure if we're a 100% fit. 

PinkLillyLover

MommyLizzy:

Helenahhan

ILoveBritney!

shelia6:

But, she did say that this connection I have/feel is unusual and interesting.  

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moonfaerie

ILoveBritney!:

shelia6

Elsa1984

I don't see an issue with it. I myself wouldn't do it.....but you are not me. If I never met the person and it seemed like with everyone who couldn't handle the person's passing, i would feel like my child would have to live up to the name. My daughter's

fish000

It's not weird at all!! It's a beautiful thing.

desertheart

My family has put the pain behind them, though like I said you can tell how much he's still loved and missed.  At my grandparent's house, there was honestly never a sad moment for me growing up.  My grandma and other family members will tell

mrs_tacos

moonfaerie:

ILoveBritn

MamaFantastic

Helenahhandbasket:

I actually think it's weird that your counselor thinks it's weird.

This!!! It's

desertheart

Well, there have been other things that I'm not thrilled with.  Not that she's told me things I don't want to hear.  She has and I accepted that. 

My main problem is I feel like there's a ton of wasted time.  And I thought th

cg2307

I do not think that's weird at all. He is family and you feel a connection to him nonetheless. My daughter will never meet my father since he died 18 years ago, but I always talk about him to her and show her pictures and I am honest with her about why sh