How to get husband on board with one and done

kimberlybethh

Hi!

I am a big lurker but once I saw this board I had to post. I have found that it is really hard for most people to understand why I only want to have one child. I grew up in a big family and loved it but that is not in the cards for me. I have an 8 month old daughter (tomorrow) and had really bad PPD. I am just starting to feel like myself again. Also, my daughter was an extremely difficult newborn. She has MSPI and cried literally for 6(+) hours a day for the first two months. After switching to the specialized (and expensive) formula she has done a complete 180 and is now a very enjoyable baby.        

My problem is that my husband really wants to have another child. I am 99.9% sure that I want to be one and done. How have you all dealt with this? My husband is a great father and part of me feels bad that he won't have another child and my daughter won't have a sibbling. However, there are so many more things we could do if she were an only child. How did you get your spouses on board with being one and done?                                                     

missymo

I wish I had good advice for you! My husband left it up to me. He would have been fine with another, but is also totally content with one.

If I were in your shoes I would sit him down and have a really open and honest talk. Explain why yo

mben1119

Luckily, DH and I were on the same page. Before we had DS, we both wanted 2+ kids. Afterward, we both looked at each other and were like "I can't go through all this again." We've been in agreement ever since.

urbanflowerpot

He was always on the fence - like if things were different in Once Upon a Time Land, we might have a different story. I talked to him about it which is what you should probably do. Listen to his thoughts, share your own. I told him that it's very importan

Tink112011

mabenner1:

Luckily, DH and I were on the same page. Before we had DS, we both wanted 2+ kids. Afterward, we both looked at eac

seahorse102410

Things can still change too.  When my son was 8 months no way was I thinking about another baby.  Then suddenly he was walking and I really couldn't wait to have another one.  It took us a year to get pregnant again only to lose that pregna

kimberlybethh

Thanks for the responses ladies! I have been putting off talking to my husband because I know it will cause some conflict. It is something I need to do though and probably the sooner the better. Looking forward to getting to know you all! Happy Monday