s/o settling

Sept07b2b

The post on settling below got me thinking - are you still physically attracted to your DH/SO and do you think your DH/SO is still physically attracted to you? 

I imagine some of us look a little different than we did when we started dating our SO or got married, especially since not all of us are lucky enough to have our bodies bounce back after having a baby.  And I know some SO's gain baby weight along with their wifes/SO, and they may not have taken off their baby weight yet!  

Is there anything physical your DH/SO could change to make you not attracted to them anymore or do you think at this point, your attraction to your DH is beyond physical?    

Full disclosure - It wasn't just the post below that go me thinking about this.   I was watching Kourtney and Kim Take Miami, and Kourtney's boyfriend was giving her a ton of smack for not losing the baby weight fast enough, so this was sort of on my mind. 

AshleyAnthony2B

Oh man. So I've vented about DH a lot lately, and this is just going to take it to another level, and you'll all think he is a 100% arse. I swear there are good qualities there.

A few months ago, we were in an argument and we ended up hashing out a lot of the changes we have been through in the past 2 years, and what was good and what was bad. He told me that he misses the way I used to look before DS. I gained a lot of weight AFTER having ds. I had hyperemesis, and then had an NG tube for a week, so my body was pretty much in starvation mode for about 10 months. After going back to eating normally, I packed it on. Just under 40 lbs. He told me he wasn't as attracted to me anymore. I have since lost 27lbs, and still feel like crap about myself.

And he just keeps getting better looking.

jldubb0626

The attraction is beyond physical now. I mean, I'd still be attracted to him if we weren't together, but we've been together for over 10 years now so our history together is a big part of that. We do both need to get back into shape since he gained weight with me when I was pregnant, but our physical appearance isn't the main attraction to each other anymore.

ssimon621

DH and I are definitely still physically attracted to each other.  Thankfully I lost all my baby weight pretty quickly, but the funny thing is that he says he loved me being pregnant and can't wait until I have a belly again.  He gained a few pounds when I was pregnant, but lost it pretty quickly.  We are both about to start working out more to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

DaizyMay22

I still think DH is HOT! His weight goes up and down depending on the season by about 15 to 20 pounds as it just gives me more to love ; I'm more hard on my changing body DH tells me to give my body time to bounce back. I'm still trying to lose the last 15 pounds from my pregnancy and I can't seem to he it gone.

jssica1013

We are both still very physically attracted to each other. His weight does fluctuate but he also works out 5days/week. I feel really guilty that since having DS I just don't have the energy/desire to put in as much effort into my looks as I did. My DH could careless and loves me, but I don't feel as attractive which I think effects my sex drive-- I keep thinking as DS gets older things will get easier but that hasn't happened yet.