I'm open to replies from anyone, but anyone who has adopted an older child will probably be able to relate more.
If you've adopted an older child, how did you know *when* was the right time to adopt again? Kiddo is 6.5 and has been home for a year and a couple of months. He has a variety of special needs but has come a long, long way. He'll always need more than the average child, but our parenting style suits his needs well so it doesn't feel "hard" to us. We both want a big(ger) family, and kiddo loves other children that he knows well. I would like to adopt again soon, for a lot of reasons. Mainly, we are only requesting a child a few years younger than Kiddo due to his fear of larger kids. If we wait much longer, the gap between #1 and #2 will be even more significant.
But, I love Kiddo so much that I worry that a) I will resent kiddo #2 for taking me away from him and b) Kiddo hasn't had enough time with us all to himself. I'm told that everyone feels this way when considering #2, but the fact that we have so much control over starting the process again makes it harder to pull the trigger. If you've BTDT...is this just normal cold feet (I had cold feet big time with Kiddo, I'm a worrier)? Or are my fears legitimate?