If you're TTC...

AshD0608

I was just wondering...for those of you TTC, did it take your DH very long to come around to the idea or was he super ready from the beginning?  My DH is still cautious, nervous, scared, etc. I feel like and I don't know how long it's going to take for him to come around to the idea of TTC.  I don't know what to say to make him relax a little more or to help the situation.  I don't really understand where his fears are coming from besides the fact that I think everyone is a little scared when you're possibly going to become a first time parent, but other than that, we are in a good financial place, we are stable, we've been married almost a year, etc.  Did anyone else's DH have these sort of feelings when first discussing TTC?

Mysterious_wife

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victoria+james

We're coming up on a year and a half since I was first ready to TTC. DH has only recently decided that he is ready as well.

I tried to remind him of all of the wonderful parts of TTC since I know he often worries about what can go wrong. I also worked as hard as I could to meet goals, financial and otherwise, that he thought would make him feel more ready. But I really think that the thing that helped him the most was probably just time.

I havent waited very patiently, but the wait has been worth it to see him now getting excited about TTC and having a baby. GL, I hope YH comes around to the idea soon!

saraeric

I think my DH was a little apprehensive at first but we had always "planned" to start trying this year. When we found out that our best friends were expecting, he was definitely more on board!

amandoza23

For the past two years we have always talked about it but we were never really on the same page with things. Right after Thanksgiving we decided we would try in the Spring. He's been ready and he's excited, it really didn't take too much to convince him since we decided together. I hope he gets over his fears so you can start trying!

mamathefox

It took my DH a year after marrage to give the go ahead, then it took almost a year to conceive. I want to start to TTC again now but he wants to wait. I try to not be overbearing bc that never helps the situation. But I do mention how it took us a year to conceive last time. I am hoping to get off BC in a few months...

little_bren

DH was ready our entire marriage aka long before I was, but the timing wasn't right. GL, but make sure DH is truly on board.

FayB31

Mine was really nervous about it. He was excited but nervous about how much our lives would change. I actually JUST took a positive test yesterday and this morning, and neither of our reactions were what I'd expect. The nerves continue even after you're pregnant. It's the best feeling but it's a little scary too. I think it all comes down to them putting a ton of pressure on themselves to be a great father. They just need reassurance and to know that you're in it together. It's just the gray area that scares people. Not knowing what to expect can be really scary. I definitely know where you're coming from

aesisson88

My DH actually brought up ttc. It was me that took a while to get used to the idea. Now we're 6 weeks along today.

palm513

My DH was very apprehensive about TTC... he wanted another baby but he was worried about it being the wrong time, to soon... and then over the holidays we were around my cousin and her baby girl and seeing her and watching her play he decided that he wanted a baby girl more than he was worried about not being ready.

 

bluestrawberryrice

It took us 4 years of marriage before we started TTC. I was originally the one who wasn't sure if I wanted kids until one day I suddenly wanted them. It was almost like a chemical thing in my body is how it felt. Maybe it is because we moved on from our fun partying college days and decided we want a family that consists of more than 2 people and a cat. Now "babies" has become the hot topic in our house.

sem71587

I was so shocked when I approached my DH about TTC a little over a month ago. I was thinking we'd go off BCP in the next 3ish months or use condoms while I go off just to try and jumpstart things... my DH was like I'm ready now. I was literally so surprised. I think it's different for everyone. We have been married 9 months but together for over 5 years. We started TTC a month ago. I would definitely take his concerns into consideration becuase you are going to need his support and help! Good luck!

MrsG1989

I'm currently 4days overdue my at home test was negative now Hubby is disappointed more so than I am.. He was ready way before me..