HI Everyone. I have been lurking for a while and hope you guys have some words of wisdom for us. We were working with a BM for several months, and all was going smoothly, etc. There were no red flags or any indications at all. We flew halfway across the country to be there for the birth, lugging around an infant car seat and anything else we thought we would need for an extended stay while waiting for papers to be signed. Baby was born, nurse reported the stats, etc. The mother did not want us to see the baby until the next day. This was the first red flag. The next morning we were told that she was going to keep the baby. We were just devastated. We are very happy we did not see or hold the baby as it would have been even harder. The sad thing is that this baby is now deprived of a chance. (be it with us or anyone else). We grieve the loss and feel angry that we were led down this path for so long and basically rearranged our entire lives to welcome this baby and now we are home with an empty car seat and lots of explaining to do to our friends and family.
We know this can happen but we never thought it would happen to us in this case. Even up until the moments before the birth we were reassured. We are almost thinking it was a scam to get the living expenses money from us. It is going to be much harder to trust from this point forward. Any advice or anyone who has gone through this before want to share some wisdom with us? We are going out later to return all the baby stuff we bought in preparation. I just don't want to look at any of it!
Thank you in advance for your support.