WWYD? (infant loss mentioned)

MAtoNC

One of my son's favorite teachers from his old school delivered twins late last week (full-term). They discovered AFTER the children were born (boy and girl), that her son had a congenital heart defect (from what I have gathered, it sounds like it may be HLHS or something similar). He had surgery yesterday, came through that alright, but then took a sudden turn later in that day, and they lost him.

When I found out that her son would be in the hospital, I put together a NICU care package to deliver to her school for one of her friends/coworkers to bring to her. Obviously, I will not do that now.

I would like to put a different package together for her, and I am wondering if any of you might have some insight about what to include (I don't want to crash the loss board to ask this question). 

I would like to acknowledge the birth and loss of her precious son while also acknowledging the birth of her daughter. Sadly, this is not the first time that I have had the occasion to acknowledge a loss such as this, but never when they were a twin. 

Any insight anyone might have would be greatly appreciated. 

 

Junebug060609

I believe the Loss board has a link to a blog with helpful suggestions in it. Look in the header of the board, near the description.

Petunia844

Junebug060609:

I believe the Loss board has a link to a blog with helpful suggestions in it. Look in the header of the board, near the description.

this, you will find insight from lots of us here. 

4legsRbest

I don't have any suggestions, but she and her family are in my prayers.

Helenahhandbasket

I am mostly a lurker here, but I feel compelled to respond.

10 years ago my cousin gave birth to twin girls and lost one three weeks after she was born to a congenital heart defect.  To this day, she wears a silver charm bracelet with two little girl charms dangling off of it.  Her best friend gave it to her.

I don't know if something like that is too personal to give her (it might be) but I just felt like I had to share.

 

So sorry to hear stories like this.

Junebug060609

I had a moment while my DS was sleeping to grab the link to the page on the blog for you.  It has a lot of great suggestions.  Hopefully it helps.  You are wonderful for thinking of this family!

https://thelossblog.blogspot.com/p/how-to-help.html

MAtoNC

Thanks so much everyone. The loss blog and the ebook linked on the blog were especially helpful. 

Thanks also for the specific ideas for twins.