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acj4904

Hi, I'm new here and I'm not sure if this is where I belong. I've been on and off the bump over the past few years so I'm not sure what my tickers look like and I'm not sure how to check, so I apologize, I don't want to upset anyone.

My name is Allison and I'm going through my second miscarriage. I do have a daughter, and my first miscarriage was before I got pregnant with her. I remember being told it was "common" for women to have a miscarriage the first time, and that made me think things would be fine after that. So I had the first miscarriage, had my daughter and now this. My question is: Is this "common" too? The way everyone talked after my first miscarriage, I never considered I would have another--especially since my second pregnancy went fine.

I'm sorry to everyone else here.

panther422516

I'm not sure if its common but I have read about this by other posters....I'm sorry for your loss...I didn't think it could happen to me. I have a 6yr son and just lost 2nd baby at 12 weeks...I think I had a perfect 1st pregnancy how could this happen....thoughts and prayer

ardecarli

I just hate that word COMMON. I liked this website. It put all the research in one place and nailed down the statistics. https://sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/hormones-and-miscarriage/progesterone-research/progesterone-and-miscarriage

I wish I could be of more help but I have no idea what is right or wrong or "normal." None of what happened feels normal or common.  

Katie5295

I don't know how common it is. My mom had 3 miscarriages all together but not back to back. She had one, then had my brother, had my second brother. Then between my brother and sister had another. Then between my sister and I she had another. She had 4 healthy children all together.

I am suffering my second m/c. In a row. I had one back in November with twins when I should have been 14 wks. And now had another one at 7 wks. I too was reassured that this should not have happened again. Truth is, I don't think its something they know. I think testing should be done to anyone who has a m/c. First second or third shouldn't matter. If there is something we can do to prevent it why not find out sooner?

I am sorry your here and so sorry for your losses. Your not alone.

::HUGS::

Kay6519

I'm sorry for your losses. I'm not sure how common or normal it is. This is my 4th baby we've lost in a row. My doc told us that basically once you've had one m/c the chances are significantly higher that you will m/c again next time, and it continues to increase with each m/c. Rather depressing news to hear, but that is what I was told.

acj4904

Thanks everyone. Hugs to all of you too. I appreciate the love and advice. Makes me feel better to talk too. Thanks

LKswifey

I hate the word common too.  I had a son (4 1/2) then a miscarriage at 12 1/2 weeks.  Then went on to have another son (2) and just experienced another miscarriage at 12 1/2 weeks (again!).  My doctor said sometimes this just happens- common garbage.  I guess it could have been common.  Anyway, I pushed for testing even though mine were not consecutive losses.  Turns out I tested positive for the blood clotting disorder Factor V Leiden (homozygous meaning both parents gave it to me).  I would say sometimes it might look common, or accidental but in my case, probably not. They don't know for sure that's what caused mine but it makes sense when I think of symptoms I had/have, etc. 

And, for what its worth...the pregnancies with my two sons were relatively easy with no known issues.  I did have heart palpitations, which my doctor passed off as caffeine.  I didn't drink that much of it and it would happen when I hadn't had any so I just figured it was a pregnancy symptom I was going to have (had it with all of my pregnancies).  I think I read heart palpitations seem to be a symptom of blood clots, so maybe it was giving me issues and I just didn't know it.

Not trying to scare you into thinking you do have something wrong, just thought you might want to hear my story and how it wasn't "common" for me.

Hope you find answers, or at least comfort during this trial. T&P with you!