Pregnant & Possibly Facing Single Parenthood

utahbaby

So just this week I found out I was pregnant.

 The problem is, my husband never wanted kids, and is now completely freaking out, to the point he is thinking of leaving me. I love my husband, I don't want him to leave, and I'm hoping that he calms down and comes around.

 I'm really just at a loss of what to do, but I feel so distant from him and it's just killing. Has anyone ever been in this situation?

Lcherry937

I have never been in this situation, but, if you just found out this week that you two are expecting and you knew he never wanted children then this is still a very new, fresh, and quite schocking situation. Give him some more time to warm up to the idea.

blueyedsweety28

you love him, if he loves you .. he'll come around .. it may take time .. hopefully it all works out! in the mean time try not to stress yourself out for the baby's sake .. 

letzgoracing81

Just remember men process things differently....and this will take some time.  Just don't constantly be pushing him to 'react properly' because you feel he is not warming up to parenthood fast enough.  I know you are feeling rejected and this is very painful right now....but you have to give him some space to make these decisions for himself.  I know you want him to 'want' this baby as badly as you do....but that may not happen quickly or neatly.

A week is NOT long enough to make these kind of decisions or wrap his brain around the idea of being a parent.   It may take him a couple months to warm up to this....just be patient.

mandi195

Give him time. This is a huge change for him, especially since he made it clear he never wanted children. Maybe he is feeling betrayed, wondering how you got pregnant if you had already discussed and knew that the plan was not to have children.

I am in NO WAY saying that him leaving you over this is ok or acceptable; what I am saying is that this is complicated and he is probably very confused and scared right now. Give him some time to adjust to and accept the news, and then talk with him openly about this. 

Just to make sure, you didn't get pregnant on purpose without being honest with him, did you?

Anne1989

Give it two or three weeks but I would also consider looking into family counseling if you can afford it.