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bat crap crazy MIL...
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DD and I went to visit DH a few days while he was working out of town. Innevitably this meant MIL and BIL, who lives with MIL, dh set up to watch our dog...
Upon arriving home I had to pick up our pup since dh would be home too late. Initially I was going to have BIL put the crate in the back of our vehicle so DD and I could leave as quick as possible. He was being more than civil, somewhat kind and MIL just got out of the hospital so I decided to make the respectable choice, bringing dd inside for her to visit...despite MIL has made no effort to see her since a few mns after she was born.
Of course immediately she had one negative comment after another. Wanted to talk about some horrifying story she saw on the news in front of DD instead of focusing on the excitement like most grandparents when they get to see their grandbaby. Always feels the need to comment and emphasize on how DD looks like my BIL and nothing like DH nor I, emphasizes on that...which is absurd and crazy! Her house was filthy with dog hair covering the tile and faught me on wanting to put dd on the flr. O.O when I said no. Stuck her thumb in dd's mouth, when she hadn't bothered to wash her hands... gross!
I'm just over her crap and trying with her. It's unfair to dd, the way she acts, so immature and soulless. It's unfair to DH and me. I just don't get why some ppl strive for nothing but negativity in life. The last thing dd needs is a self complex stemming from MIL when she gets older, when everyone else states otherwise on how cute she is and how she resembles DH and I beautifully. She's truly just an awful, horrible and disgusting human being. It just saddens me how tons of grandparents rarely get to see their grand child and would do anything to see them whil MIL takes everything she has forgranted and abuses what she has to a point she'll have her privladges revoked.
Upon arriving home I had to pick up our pup since dh would be home too late. Initially I was going to have BIL put the crate in the back of our vehicle so DD and I could leave as quick as possible. He was being more than civil, somewhat kind and MIL just got out of the hospital so I decided to make the respectable choice, bringing dd inside for her to visit...despite MIL has made no effort to see her since a few mns after she was born.
Of course immediately she had one negative comment after another. Wanted to talk about some horrifying story she saw on the news in front of DD instead of focusing on the excitement like most grandparents when they get to see their grandbaby. Always feels the need to comment and emphasize on how DD looks like my BIL and nothing like DH nor I, emphasizes on that...which is absurd and crazy! Her house was filthy with dog hair covering the tile and faught me on wanting to put dd on the flr. O.O when I said no. Stuck her thumb in dd's mouth, when she hadn't bothered to wash her hands... gross!
I'm just over her crap and trying with her. It's unfair to dd, the way she acts, so immature and soulless. It's unfair to DH and me. I just don't get why some ppl strive for nothing but negativity in life. The last thing dd needs is a self complex stemming from MIL when she gets older, when everyone else states otherwise on how cute she is and how she resembles DH and I beautifully. She's truly just an awful, horrible and disgusting human being. It just saddens me how tons of grandparents rarely get to see their grand child and would do anything to see them whil MIL takes everything she has forgranted and abuses what she has to a point she'll have her privladges revoked.
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Re: bat crap crazy MIL...
So, you dropped in unannounced, when she just got out of the hospital, and are complaining about the condition of her home?
And, you're concerned about your 7 month old baby hearing a bad news story?
I'm sorry, but no one, and I mean not even a child's grandparents, are obligated to fawn over them, oohing and aahing non-stop. Get over it.
Erm. No. She knew very well I was headed over. Check your script o.O ***... ppl like u need a reality check.
No, you said in your post you didn't plan on going inside, until your BIL was nice to you. And you also said in your OP that she just got out of the hospital. Maybe you should remember what you posted?
Thank you for saying this! It's so sad how us women are quicker to judge and put down each other than to be empathetic and supportive. I though that's what these boards are for?
This is much appreciated! As stated above is just the tip of the iceburg...
Whoever questioned about the dog hair...no she has 2 lrg dogs of her own. Even still, why argue with me about placing DD on tile flr covered in dog dander and hair?? It's a fact of the matter case and so much more to the situation...sigh
And no I planned on not going in b/c I know how she is. But I decided otherwise so she could see her Granddaughter...in which she spited me on, that's why I'm b!tching, b/c I did her the favor instead of bailing, how does one not comprehend that?? Instead she uses the opportunity to be a manipulative jerk... it's complicated and I need to vent
She's gaga over her twin Goddaughters. Now ages 5... she blatantly told me when she found out DD is a girl, "well, it's your fault it isn't a boy!"...crap like that has always been and clearly will always be an issue. As for the news story, focus on the special moment, who gives a crap, stop being a negative douche, is my point. She has a grandbaby, be flipping grateful...
She knows, she is a working nurse. Re: goddaughters, yes since their birth.
I don't understand the point of the rest of your statement? Her attitude and actions hurt DH more than anything. It bothers me how her actions may affect DD emotionally in the future, point blank. She's only gotten worse over the 7 plus ongoing years I've known her, sadly. Her attitude is pathetic.
But she isn't obligated to be grateful for your child. Would it be nice? Obviously. But you know how she is, why get all worked up about it.
I'm not on here to hold your hand and stroke your hair. Sorry.
this.
1. My MIL's hospital stay for one was bogus and is continuing to try and milk sympathy... Hospital nurses were complaining about her to DH and BIL.
2. She begged for me to go to the hospital, that she forced herself to stay LONGER in against dr. orders and went above her drs. head to a dr. Friend so she could stay, asking me in the end to see her despite there was a severe case of mersa going around. DH and I were in agreeance of not taking dd to a hospital... all because she wanted to hang out. Um. Nope. Sorry...not going to cater to bad behavior. No I'm not making any of this up, she's a flipping nutbag!
3. I knew she was in good condition for a visit, considering she begged me to bring DD to the hospital. So I went in for a few minutes so she could see her granddaughter she's shown no interest in until hospital nonsesne...sue me. Had I not brought her in that would have been twisted into how evil I am for not even saying hi. Big deal!
4. I have every right to complain about soulless individuals. As I've seen other women complain about far less! But hey that's today's society, incompetent know it alls.
5. I expect none of you to stroke my hair, arse, but do expect respect in a response. But at least I still have long lucious hair.
6. Don't assume you know everything.
7. I have every right to keep DD off nasty floor. No reason to argue with me! Period. If she doesn't want to hold her fine, I have no problem holding my own daughter. I could careless what's on a dirtyman's flr until they request I put my child on...and seriously watch your kids so they aren't putting dirty food in their mouth...that's just gross. Gag.
8. I maintain composure, let it roll and *** later...smh. kinda like now.
9. I gurantee if any of you were in the situation you'd complain. As some of you complain about far less more ridic nonsense