So, uh...

JayandEmm

Tonight's experience made me realize, I'm totally one and done.

A friend and her H came over with their brand new baby and I gave her a break while she ate. Her ds was very colicy. He cried and screamed the entire time while they were here. I swayed, bounced, walked, and had white noise just to keep the crying at bay. If I stopped, he cried.

I told H he could go ahead and schedule a vasectomy. Lol. [I'm only kind of kidding...]

lady_tytah

Lol...ppl keep asking are we're sure we're only having 2. I babysat my friend 20 month old.
Yea....nah.
I was so freaking stressed...I'm good. I don't desire another baby.....not at all
So fo' real!

kokokat

I've seriously been traumatized by how intense DS's first 3 months were.  People tell me I'll change my mind when I say DS is the only kid I'm having.  Those are the people who don't understand what it's like to have a baby who cries 9 hours a day and doesn't sleep at night.  I wouldn't trade DS for anything, especially these days, but I was seriously depressed during the days of colic and no sleeping.

CLeigh03

Wait it out...I was SO done after my first. I was also quite young. By 29 I was DYING for another baby.

JayandEmm

lady_tytah:

Lol...ppl keep asking are we're sure we're only having 2. I babysat my friend 20 month old.
Yea....nah.
I was so freaking stressed...I'm good. I don't desire another baby.....not at all
So fo' real!

Lol! I babysat H's friend's 2 year old when I was pregnant, and I was traumatized! I remember crying to H, like, "omg! What have we done?"

lady_tytah

Bahaha...if I baby sat my friend's child when I was pregnant with my first. I'm sure I would have said the same thing.

twoitalians

LOL Right now, there's a possibility for wanting to have two. We'll see if I feel the same way come March when two of my friends have their babies.

Andreabks

My DH is sure he's 1 and done.  we started really bad colic at 3 weeks, that went through Thanksgiving when she finally started doing better and then we started teething (still no teeth!).

after such a long couple of first months, DH is sure he doesn't want to do it again, not when added to our M/c history.

has your friend tried "Colic Calm"? this was amazing with DD and the only thing we found that helped her in the end.

https://coliccalm.com/101/?gclid=CKWJyYK75LQCFUjZQgoduxYAgw

bigbootyjudi

Ambsies:

DS is finally growing out of his colicky phase.  It's been rough.  If DD had been as difficult as DS, it would have taken some major convincing for me to have #2. 

Yea, we're only having another one because I want a girl. If the next one's a boy, I'm done. 

danielle2583

kokokat:

I've seriously been traumatized by how intense DS's first 3 months were.  People tell me I'll change my mind when I say DS is the only kid I'm having.  Those are the people who don't understand what it's like to have a baby who cries 9 hours a day and doesn't sleep at night.  I wouldn't trade DS for anything, especially these days, but I was seriously depressed during the days of colic and no sleeping.

I could have written this. There are still days when I just want to walk away for a few days to rest and recooperate.

But I know in my heart we'll have one more; we both want two...I just wish there was some way of knowing that a 2nd would be laid back, low maintenance, easy BF, easy sleeper...oh that baby doesn't exist...dang!

Crossingfingers

If all babies were like that, families would be much smaller! Sometimes I very sweetly tell Carson that if he had been first he could have been an only child... 

byrne15

this is exactly how ds#2 is/was.

after ds#1 being so good, I didn't know they made babies like this

xxbabycakesxx

I cannot calm a baby that isn't mine.  I wouldn't have any kids if I based it on that lol.  My kiddos give me a rough time sometimes but I definitely want at least one more in the far future.

yvdukana

danielle2583:

kokokat:

I've seriously been traumatized by how intense DS's first 3 months were.  People tell me I'll change my mind when I say DS is the only kid I'm having.  Those are the people who don't understand what it's like to have a baby who cries 9 hours a day and doesn't sleep at night.  I wouldn't trade DS for anything, especially these days, but I was seriously depressed during the days of colic and no sleeping.

I could have written this. There are still days when I just want to walk away for a few days to rest and recooperate.

But I know in my heart we'll have one more; we both want two...I just wish there was some way of knowing that a 2nd would be laid back, low maintenance, easy BF, easy sleeper...oh that baby doesn't exist...dang!

Here too! DS went from intense colic the first 3.5 months to finally being diagnosed with reflux, going on Zantac, then teething. He's never been a content baby. Never sleeps, cries more than any baby should, and we've run the gamut with BFing issues, so much so I almost think I'll be a LC in my next life. Seriously, I'm not sure I can do this all again. And the thing is my DH has been home a TON the last 5 months, he's transitioning careers, so he's had a lot of leave to burn up, next time if there is a next time I'll probably be completely on my own. I know I miss being pregnant and having a tiny, squishy baby. But ugh, I don't know if I can handle the high needs baby a second time especially if my current high needs baby turns into a high needs toddler...