FFFC!

Sept07b2b

preggersINschool25:

MrMrsandBaby:

I have another one.nbsp; My sister is going to baptize my niece.nbsp; NBD right?nbsp; Well it bugs the *** out of me because she NEVER goes to church.nbsp; She doesn't even do the Christmas/Easter thing.nbsp; The only time she goes is when she is being an AW like when my parents announced that she was pregnant, she was there that day.nbsp; It REALLY bothers me when people who don't attend church and have no desire/plans to come in and baptize their baby.nbsp; I've mentioned this before, but baptisim in my church means the the congegration is promising to help raise the child in the ways of the church, to help him/her grow spiritually.nbsp; How the f can we keep that promise if you don't attend?nbsp; Also, the parents promise to raise the child in the church.nbsp; Ummmm....can't do that if you never show up. I guess my FFFC is that I can't stand when people do things because it is "tradition" or expected and that is the only reason.nbsp; If you are goin gto baprize your child, do it because you BELIEVE in the scantity of baptism.nbsp; Not because you want attention.

I was going to baptize Grant and I don't believe in it. My hubby's parents and grandparents are very catholic as are mine. They keep bugging me. I would go more in depth but it sucks to type on my phone.

I already responded to your post when you asked why some people would baptize their kids if they don't go to church regularly, so I don't think I need to go into detail about it again.  In fact, a lot of people chimed in on that post.  But I will say that I think it's a pretty big leap to assume that someone who baptizes their LO without being someone who goes to church regularly is just doing it for attention. Just because that's what your sister is doing, doesn't mean that's why everyone else does it. 

Tradition and family are very important to a lot of people, so I wouldn't discount that as a legitimate reason to do something.  A lot of people get married in a church who don't go to church regularly.  What's the difference?  Baptism and marriage are both sacraments.  

Also, religion can be interpreted by different people different ways.  I agree that going to church regularly is an important part of being religious, but I don't think it's fair to assume that just because someone doesn't go to church on a regular basis means they don't believe in God or aren't spiritual or don't want to have those things for their kids. 

MrMrsandBaby

Sept07b2b:

preggersINschool25:

MrMrsandBaby:

I have another one.nbsp; My sister is going to baptize my niece.nbsp; NBD right?nbsp; Well it bugs the *** out of me because she NEVER goes to church.nbsp; She doesn't even do the Christmas/Easter thing.nbsp; The only time she goes is when she is being an AW like when my parents announced that she was pregnant, she was there that day.nbsp; It REALLY bothers me when people who don't attend church and have no desire/plans to come in and baptize their baby.nbsp; I've mentioned this before, but baptisim in my church means the the congegration is promising to help raise the child in the ways of the church, to help him/her grow spiritually.nbsp; How the f can we keep that promise if you don't attend?nbsp; Also, the parents promise to raise the child in the church.nbsp; Ummmm....can't do that if you never show up. I guess my FFFC is that I can't stand when people do things because it is "tradition" or expected and that is the only reason.nbsp; If you are goin gto baprize your child, do it because you BELIEVE in the scantity of baptism.nbsp; Not because you want attention.

I was going to baptize Grant and I don't believe in it. My hubby's parents and grandparents are very catholic as are mine. They keep bugging me. I would go more in depth but it sucks to type on my phone.

I already responded to your post when you asked why some people would baptize their kids if they don't go to church regularly, so I don't think I need to go into detail about it again.  In fact, a lot of people chimed in on that post.  But I will say that I think it's a pretty big leap to assume that someone who baptizes their LO without being someone who goes to church regularly is just doing it for attention. Just because that's what your sister is doing, doesn't mean that's why everyone else does it. 

Tradition and family are very important to a lot of people, so I wouldn't discount that as a legitimate reason to do something.  A lot of people get married in a church who don't go to church regularly.  What's the difference?  Baptism and marriage are both sacraments.  

Also, religion can be interpreted by different people different ways.  I agree that going to church regularly is an important part of being religious, but I don't think it's fair to assume that just because someone doesn't go to church on a regular basis means they don't believe in God or aren't spiritual or don't want to have those things for their kids. 

So your arguements are a little off to me.  I said it makes me nutty when people do things if they don't believe in them.  You mention above that people may believe in them but not attend church, etc.  Yeah, that is sort of what I was saying.  And I didn't say I assume it is for attention, I said don't do it for attention.  Big difference.

And I 100% guarantee my sister is doing it for attention.

As for doing things because of family pressure, I say, it is your child...if you don't want to do something (be it a birthday party, baptize, wear yellow, whatever) then don't do it.  I've had this conversation with my mom many times...she had her chance to raise 4 children, now it is my turn to raise my daughter the way I want to...not the way she thinks I should.  That goes for baptism too.

Finally, I don't assume people who don't go to church don't have a spiritual/religious side.  Never said that...I said it bugs me when people who don't attend come in and baptize their LO - because of the way my church does it (like I mentioned) they promise to be a part of the church.  Well, if you promise to be a part of the church and then never come back...yeah, that bugs me.

runrinserepeat

MrMrsandBaby:

NatnDyl:

hizah05:

Starbuck128:

-I don't have any warm, patriotic feelings about jury duty. I think DH and I get called up in a year about as often as the average person gets called in a lifetime. I have two special clips on the fridge just for our jury duty reminders and summons. It's a hassle. I get stabby when old people say they've only been called a couple of times and would love the experience. Take mine and come back in a couple of months for another one.

I have never been called for jury duty, ever. I'm pretty indifferent at this point but now I'm just curious how it works. Why have I never been called and you so many times? Interesting.

I've also never been called. I want to go and try it out once, but it sounds like a PITA from what everyone else has said.

When people don't use their turn signals it makes me super irritated. Does this even count as a confession? I don't know, whatever. If you don't use your turn signal, can you explain why you don't?

Silly Nat...it is because they are arrogant, self-absorbed idiots who think the rest of us should just move out of their way.  Didn't they cover that in your drivers education course?

Honestly, these people make me stabby.  Turn signals are standard on all cars, even the super luxury ones who are usually the morons who don't use them.  why is it so flipping hard to use it?!?!?!!?

Clearly I have road rage today!  Don't even get me started on the assholes who go on the shoulder to get around you when you are turning...

When I first started dating DH, the turn signals on his car were broken. It drove me nuts.

MrMrsandBaby

kleMcK:

MrMrsandBaby:

NatnDyl:

hizah05:

Starbuck128:

-I don't have any warm, patriotic feelings about jury duty. I think DH and I get called up in a year about as often as the average person gets called in a lifetime. I have two special clips on the fridge just for our jury duty reminders and summons. It's a hassle. I get stabby when old people say they've only been called a couple of times and would love the experience. Take mine and come back in a couple of months for another one.

I have never been called for jury duty, ever. I'm pretty indifferent at this point but now I'm just curious how it works. Why have I never been called and you so many times? Interesting.

I've also never been called. I want to go and try it out once, but it sounds like a PITA from what everyone else has said.

When people don't use their turn signals it makes me super irritated. Does this even count as a confession? I don't know, whatever. If you don't use your turn signal, can you explain why you don't?

Silly Nat...it is because they are arrogant, self-absorbed idiots who think the rest of us should just move out of their way.  Didn't they cover that in your drivers education course?

Honestly, these people make me stabby.  Turn signals are standard on all cars, even the super luxury ones who are usually the morons who don't use them.  why is it so flipping hard to use it?!?!?!!?

Clearly I have road rage today!  Don't even get me started on the assholes who go on the shoulder to get around you when you are turning...

When I first started dating DH, the turn signals on his car were broken. It drove me nuts.

HA!  You should have made him use hand signals!  That would have been awesome!

Shawnee11507

My post count should be over 5000 and this morning I only needed 10 posts to get to 3000 and now all of a sudden I need 70? Is 3000 gold status? I never really post just to up my post count, but I think I am going to create one today just to get those 70 in. I am sick of the bugs and broken polls in the bump!

preggersINschool25

MrMrsandBaby:

Sept07b2b:

preggersINschool25:

MrMrsandBaby:

I have another one.nbsp; My sister is going to baptize my niece.nbsp; NBD right?nbsp; Well it bugs the *** out of me because she NEVER goes to church.nbsp; She doesn't even do the Christmas/Easter thing.nbsp; The only time she goes is when she is being an AW like when my parents announced that she was pregnant, she was there that day.nbsp; It REALLY bothers me when people who don't attend church and have no desire/plans to come in and baptize their baby.nbsp; I've mentioned this before, but baptisim in my church means the the congegration is promising to help raise the child in the ways of the church, to help him/her grow spiritually.nbsp; How the f can we keep that promise if you don't attend?nbsp; Also, the parents promise to raise the child in the church.nbsp; Ummmm....can't do that if you never show up. I guess my FFFC is that I can't stand when people do things because it is "tradition" or expected and that is the only reason.nbsp; If you are goin gto baprize your child, do it because you BELIEVE in the scantity of baptism.nbsp; Not because you want attention.

I was going to baptize Grant and I don't believe in it. My hubby's parents and grandparents are very catholic as are mine. They keep bugging me. I would go more in depth but it sucks to type on my phone.

I already responded to your post when you asked why some people would baptize their kids if they don't go to church regularly, so I don't think I need to go into detail about it again.  In fact, a lot of people chimed in on that post.  But I will say that I think it's a pretty big leap to assume that someone who baptizes their LO without being someone who goes to church regularly is just doing it for attention. Just because that's what your sister is doing, doesn't mean that's why everyone else does it. 

Tradition and family are very important to a lot of people, so I wouldn't discount that as a legitimate reason to do something.  A lot of people get married in a church who don't go to church regularly.  What's the difference?  Baptism and marriage are both sacraments.  

Also, religion can be interpreted by different people different ways.  I agree that going to church regularly is an important part of being religious, but I don't think it's fair to assume that just because someone doesn't go to church on a regular basis means they don't believe in God or aren't spiritual or don't want to have those things for their kids. 

So your arguements are a little off to me.  I said it makes me nutty when people do things if they don't believe in them.  You mention above that people may believe in them but not attend church, etc.  Yeah, that is sort of what I was saying.  And I didn't say I assume it is for attention, I said don't do it for attention.  Big difference.

And I 100% guarantee my sister is doing it for attention.

As for doing things because of family pressure, I say, it is your child...if you don't want to do something (be it a birthday party, baptize, wear yellow, whatever) then don't do it.  I've had this conversation with my mom many times...she had her chance to raise 4 children, now it is my turn to raise my daughter the way I want to...not the way she thinks I should.  That goes for baptism too.

Finally, I don't assume people who don't go to church don't have a spiritual/religious side.  Never said that...I said it bugs me when people who don't attend come in and baptize their LO - because of the way my church does it (like I mentioned) they promise to be a part of the church.  Well, if you promise to be a part of the church and then never come back...yeah, that bugs me.

Okay I'll elaborate a little more...

My dad put it to me this way. If sprinkling a little water on his head is going to make everyone happy, then why not? Plus if I'm wrong about God, it covers Grant from orginial sin.

preggersINschool25

MrMrsandBaby:

Sept07b2b:

preggersINschool25:

MrMrsandBaby:

I have another one.nbsp; My sister is going to baptize my niece.nbsp; NBD right?nbsp; Well it bugs the *** out of me because she NEVER goes to church.nbsp; She doesn't even do the Christmas/Easter thing.nbsp; The only time she goes is when she is being an AW like when my parents announced that she was pregnant, she was there that day.nbsp; It REALLY bothers me when people who don't attend church and have no desire/plans to come in and baptize their baby.nbsp; I've mentioned this before, but baptisim in my church means the the congegration is promising to help raise the child in the ways of the church, to help him/her grow spiritually.nbsp; How the f can we keep that promise if you don't attend?nbsp; Also, the parents promise to raise the child in the church.nbsp; Ummmm....can't do that if you never show up. I guess my FFFC is that I can't stand when people do things because it is "tradition" or expected and that is the only reason.nbsp; If you are goin gto baprize your child, do it because you BELIEVE in the scantity of baptism.nbsp; Not because you want attention.

I was going to baptize Grant and I don't believe in it. My hubby's parents and grandparents are very catholic as are mine. They keep bugging me. I would go more in depth but it sucks to type on my phone.

I already responded to your post when you asked why some people would baptize their kids if they don't go to church regularly, so I don't think I need to go into detail about it again.  In fact, a lot of people chimed in on that post.  But I will say that I think it's a pretty big leap to assume that someone who baptizes their LO without being someone who goes to church regularly is just doing it for attention. Just because that's what your sister is doing, doesn't mean that's why everyone else does it. 

Tradition and family are very important to a lot of people, so I wouldn't discount that as a legitimate reason to do something.  A lot of people get married in a church who don't go to church regularly.  What's the difference?  Baptism and marriage are both sacraments.  

Also, religion can be interpreted by different people different ways.  I agree that going to church regularly is an important part of being religious, but I don't think it's fair to assume that just because someone doesn't go to church on a regular basis means they don't believe in God or aren't spiritual or don't want to have those things for their kids. 

So your arguements are a little off to me.  I said it makes me nutty when people do things if they don't believe in them.  You mention above that people may believe in them but not attend church, etc.  Yeah, that is sort of what I was saying.  And I didn't say I assume it is for attention, I said don't do it for attention.  Big difference.

And I 100% guarantee my sister is doing it for attention.

As for doing things because of family pressure, I say, it is your child...if you don't want to do something (be it a birthday party, baptize, wear yellow, whatever) then don't do it.  I've had this conversation with my mom many times...she had her chance to raise 4 children, now it is my turn to raise my daughter the way I want to...not the way she thinks I should.  That goes for baptism too.

Finally, I don't assume people who don't go to church don't have a spiritual/religious side.  Never said that...I said it bugs me when people who don't attend come in and baptize their LO - because of the way my church does it (like I mentioned) they promise to be a part of the church.  Well, if you promise to be a part of the church and then never come back...yeah, that bugs me.

Okay I'll elaborate a little more...

My dad put it to me this way. If sprinkling a little water on his head is going to make everyone happy, then why not? Plus if I'm wrong about God, it covers Grant from orginial sin.

lancyjo

Shawnee11507:

My post count should be over 5000 and this morning I only needed 10 posts to get to 3000 and now all of a sudden I need 70? Is 3000 gold status? I never really post just to up my post count, but I think I am going to create one today just to get those 70 in. I am sick of the bugs and broken polls in the bump!

Nah, gold is 5000 or 6000. I have no idea why TB can't count. My PC isn't right either.

cbaglini

EmmaBoBemma:

I was going to post this on my other bmb, but they're not very understanding...and I know y'all are so...

I am petrified about having another baby. A small part of me wishes that I wasn't pregnant. I would never end my pregnancy for any reason, but a part of me wishes that I didn't have those kinds of convictions. We are happy about another baby, but I am nervous as helllll and haven't expressed it to DH. He would be understanding, I think... he just doesn't understand what this means for me. I never got breastfeeding down with DD and ended up pumping for 6 months, I would not be able to pump like that with an 18 month old, and learning to breastfeed is going to be even harder with an active 18 month old. If I am unable to bf the next one, I will have even more regret. There are just so many things that I have to deal with, that dh doesn't. He wants 5 children and originally I did, too...but I am not so sure anymore. ugh...maybe it's just the hormones, but I am going crazy with nervousness. 

 

I am terrified. And I share your same feelings.  It's crazy because it was our plan to start trying in Nov. When Nov rolled around I told him I wasn't ready yet but for whatever reason I didn't pay attention to the calendar and here we are. Really it was me who didnt pay attention but I am so mad at DH as if its his fault. For the most part I am happy it happened this way, does anybody ever truly feel "ready" again?!? Yet sometimes I am SO frustrated. Probably because I am exhausted, I have a lot of headaches, I feel uncomfortable in my clothes, I am on and off nauseous every day and I am a complete scatter brain right now... Makes me wonder how the F I'm going to be able to keep it together when #2 gets here. 

jldubb0626

cbaglini:

EmmaBoBemma:

I was going to post this on my other bmb, but they're not very understanding...and I know y'all are so...

I am petrified about having another baby. A small part of me wishes that I wasn't pregnant. I would never end my pregnancy for any reason, but a part of me wishes that I didn't have those kinds of convictions. We are happy about another baby, but I am nervous as helllll and haven't expressed it to DH. He would be understanding, I think... he just doesn't understand what this means for me. I never got breastfeeding down with DD and ended up pumping for 6 months, I would not be able to pump like that with an 18 month old, and learning to breastfeed is going to be even harder with an active 18 month old. If I am unable to bf the next one, I will have even more regret. There are just so many things that I have to deal with, that dh doesn't. He wants 5 children and originally I did, too...but I am not so sure anymore. ugh...maybe it's just the hormones, but I am going crazy with nervousness. 

 

I am terrified. And I share your same feelings.  It's crazy because it was our plan to start trying in Nov. When Nov rolled around I told him I wasn't ready yet but for whatever reason I didn't pay attention to the calendar and here we are. Really it was me who didnt pay attention but I am so mad at DH as if its his fault. For the most part I am happy it happened this way, does anybody ever truly feel "ready" again?!? Yet sometimes I am SO frustrated. Probably because I am exhausted, I have a lot of headaches, I feel uncomfortable in my clothes, I am on and off nauseous every day and I am a complete scatter brain right now... Makes me wonder how the F I'm going to be able to keep it together when #2 gets here. 

Ladies. I'm going to say this nicely as possible. You are entitled to your feelings. Having a baby is hard and stressful and the prospect of 2u2 IS terrifying. But, PLEASE be mindful that there are people on this board who would DIE to be in your shoes and to see you both complaining about it is like a smack in the face. Just thank your lucky stars you both were able to get pregnant quickly and that you both are still pregnant. Some of us don't have that luxury.

lancyjo

jldubb0626:

Ladies. I'm going to say this nicely as possible. You are entitled to your feelings. Having a baby is hard and stressful and the prospect of 2u2 IS terrifying. But, PLEASE be mindful that there are people on this board who would DIE to be in your shoes and to see you both complaining about it is like a smack in the face. Just thank your lucky stars you both were able to get pregnant quickly and that you both are still pregnant. Some of us don't have that luxury.

((hugs))

Still praying for you and your family honey. You're being so strong, and I have so much respect (and love!) for you through all of this.

Shawnee11507

lancyjo:

Shawnee11507:

My post count should be over 5000 and this morning I only needed 10 posts to get to 3000 and now all of a sudden I need 70? Is 3000 gold status? I never really post just to up my post count, but I think I am going to create one today just to get those 70 in. I am sick of the bugs and broken polls in the bump!

Nah, gold is 5000 or 6000. I have no idea why TB can't count. My PC isn't right either.

  No fair

jldubb0626

lancyjo:

jldubb0626:

Ladies. I'm going to say this nicely as possible. You are entitled to your feelings. Having a baby is hard and stressful and the prospect of 2u2 IS terrifying. But, PLEASE be mindful that there are people on this board who would DIE to be in your shoes and to see you both complaining about it is like a smack in the face. Just thank your lucky stars you both were able to get pregnant quickly and that you both are still pregnant. Some of us don't have that luxury.

((hugs))

Still praying for you and your family honey. You're being so strong, and I have so much respect (and love!) for you through all of this.

Thanks love. I wasn't just talking about myself, I hope I didn't come across that way. I'm just assuming that I'm not the only one who is going through an emotional time right now. 

Mistifier

I'm eating salt and vinegar chips and Jonah kept grabbing for them so I let him have a couple.  

kittyh8r

jldubb0626:

cbaglini:

EmmaBoBemma:

I was going to post this on my other bmb, but they're not very understanding...and I know y'all are so...

I am petrified about having another baby. A small part of me wishes that I wasn't pregnant. I would never end my pregnancy for any reason, but a part of me wishes that I didn't have those kinds of convictions. We are happy about another baby, but I am nervous as helllll and haven't expressed it to DH. He would be understanding, I think... he just doesn't understand what this means for me. I never got breastfeeding down with DD and ended up pumping for 6 months, I would not be able to pump like that with an 18 month old, and learning to breastfeed is going to be even harder with an active 18 month old. If I am unable to bf the next one, I will have even more regret. There are just so many things that I have to deal with, that dh doesn't. He wants 5 children and originally I did, too...but I am not so sure anymore. ugh...maybe it's just the hormones, but I am going crazy with nervousness. 

 

I am terrified. And I share your same feelings.  It's crazy because it was our plan to start trying in Nov. When Nov rolled around I told him I wasn't ready yet but for whatever reason I didn't pay attention to the calendar and here we are. Really it was me who didnt pay attention but I am so mad at DH as if its his fault. For the most part I am happy it happened this way, does anybody ever truly feel "ready" again?!? Yet sometimes I am SO frustrated. Probably because I am exhausted, I have a lot of headaches, I feel uncomfortable in my clothes, I am on and off nauseous every day and I am a complete scatter brain right now... Makes me wonder how the F I'm going to be able to keep it together when #2 gets here. 

Ladies. I'm going to say this nicely as possible. You are entitled to your feelings. Having a baby is hard and stressful and the prospect of 2u2 IS terrifying. But, PLEASE be mindful that there are people on this board who would DIE to be in your shoes and to see you both complaining about it is like a smack in the face. Just thank your lucky stars you both were able to get pregnant quickly and that you both are still pregnant. Some of us don't have that luxury.

I am so sorry that you have gone through another m/c, I cannot begin to understand what you have been going  through. I really am very sorry if what I said was a smack in the face, it wasn't intended to be that way. With all that said, I am expressing my feelings/fears of having 2u2. It is petrifying and exciting all at the same time. I think a lot of people can agree that being pregnant esp with their 2nd, 3rd, or whatever child, is an emotional roller coaster.  Maybe posting on FFFC wasn't the best place because you have just gone through something so difficult, so I should have posted elsewhere, or kept it to myself, but I can't help but feel like y'all are the only group of people who I can tell that will be the most understanding. I can and will tell DH how I am feeling, but after him there is no one else that would understand my fears. My family would just tell me to get over it and suck it up. My DH's family would think I am being a horrible person for not being 100% excited about it. Truthfully, I am scared! I know there are a few other KU mom's on this board so that's another reason why I felt comfortable bringing it up here. I shouldn't have said anything, though. Again, Jdub, I am really sorry that it felt like a smack in the face. I really do not want to ever make someone feel that way, ever. I hope you don't think I am a complete insensitive b!tch. 

jldubb0626

EmmaBoBemma:

I am so sorry that you have gone through another m/c, I cannot begin to understand what you have been going  through. I really am very sorry if what I said was a smack in the face, it wasn't intended to be that way. With all that said, I am expressing my feelings/fears of having 2u2. It is petrifying and exciting all at the same time. I think a lot of people can agree that being pregnant esp with their 2nd, 3rd, or whatever child, is an emotional roller coaster.  Maybe posting on FFFC wasn't the best place because you have just gone through something so difficult, so I should have posted elsewhere, or kept it to myself, but I can't help but feel like y'all are the only group of people who I can tell that will be the most understanding. I can and will tell DH how I am feeling, but after him there is no one else that would understand my fears. My family would just tell me to get over it and suck it up. My DH's family would think I am being a horrible person for not being 100% excited about it. Truthfully, I am scared! I know there are a few other KU mom's on this board so that's another reason why I felt comfortable bringing it up here. I shouldn't have said anything, though. Again, Jdub, I am really sorry that it felt like a smack in the face. I really do not want to ever make someone feel that way, ever. I hope you don't think I am a complete insensitive b!tch. 

No, I don't think that at all. Like I said, you have ever right to feel the way you do and this is certainly the place to voice your concerns! Your other BMB is cray cray! I would never discourage you from posting your concerns or fears here. I just was trying to offer another insight to this so hopefully the FFFC thread didn't turn into the "KU'd moms complaining thread". I'm not saying it was going there, and I know that was never your intent. But we all know UO and FFFC threads sometimes have a way of taking off on one specific tangent and if it had turned into a complain fest, it could possibly be very hurtful to some of us to see a bunch of pregnant women venting their frustrations. Especially when all we want is to be in your place.

Please, don't quit posting about your pregnancy. I'm living through every single one of you who are pregnant right now and I'm genuinely excited for all of you.

pinkshades05

Jdubb--I'm always thinking about you and praying for your family. I can't imagine what you are going through

Jury Duty--I've never been summoned, but my DH has been at least 3-4x. I don't understand how they choose you! How does one person get summoned every year and the next person not at all and they both should qualify equally?? Not that I would volunteer for it, but it seems like the system is broken.

Confession--I'm super excited about starting my new job! Like--I'm super excited to get some time away from Nat and spend time with other people.

jja0812

1) This song that y'all quote all the time--the one that goes, "I don't know you and this is crazy"... yeah, I don't know that song at all. I don't know the tune, who sings it (guy or gal? who knows?), or any words other than the ones that get thrown around on here all the time. In fact, when MrsGlaedr showed up for the "first" time, her post really confused me at first because I didn't get that it was song lyrics.

2) I haven't showered in two days. This is very unlike me. I have hair that really needs to be washed every day, and not even at night either. It only looks remotely decent if washed in the morning. I've used dry shampoo, which doesn't really do that much for me, but I guess it's something. Yesterday I ran some errands close to home and today I took Julian to the park. There was a time where I wouldn't have even walked to the mailbox without a shower. Times have changed.

3) I finally got around to taking down my Christmas decorations today.

hizah05

Jessicameron:

3) I finally got around to taking down my Christmas decorations today.

We have 2 Christmas trees. One went down yesterday, the other is still up...sigh. 

pinkshades05

Oh! My confession: I get very excited when ordering Nat food at restaurants. It's like she's a person now! Even if I just order her a bowl of fruit, applesauce, etc. It just reminds me how much she's growing!

MollySm

pinkshades05:

Oh! My confession: I get very excited when ordering Nat food at restaurants. It's like she's a person now! Even if I just order her a bowl of fruit, applesauce, etc. It just reminds me how much she's growing!

Me too! 

HattieLove

allisons1014:

2chatter:

I buy into replacement level fertility and was allll about it. I have two children, I was done. Then came DH, and he is not close to his kids and they are very much not like DH or I (loooong story) and I feel really, really bad for him.He really, really, really wanted a baby.  He wore me down and we had DS.

So I have three bios.  And I ethically think I should only have two.  Between us we have five.  We should only have four.  Of the five, two may or may not be productive members of society, even more reason I should have said nope.  But I have no regrets, just have to live with being a hypocrite.

This is one of the stangest FFFC I have ever read.  I am so confused.  I trying to wrap my brain around everything you wrote.  You had your DS as a do-over becuase your DH doesn't feel close to his kids?  So does this mean that your DH has no interest in repairing the relationship with his first 2 kids? Why doesn't he feel close to them and doesn't the responsibility lie with him to make it right?   

This breaks my heart for your step children and the fact that you feel that 2 of the 5 probably won't be productive members of society.  Who's fault is that? 

Maybe I am just naive and obviously there is more to the story, but this is one of the harshest things I've seen written on here in a long time.

I agree with Allisons1014. You say you have no regrets, but this whole thing sounds like a regret. Why would your DH have a third kid if he isn't close to his first two? If he isn't close to this one will he just keep having kids until he connects with one? Maybe this is just an opinion, but I think the blame for kids not being close to a parent is entirely on the parent. 

And 2 of the 5 won't be productive members of society???? That seems like an incredibly insensitive comment to make about either your children or your step children. Both of whom you should be being supportive to.