Push gift

MagPie 1986

I was watching "one born every minute" and one of the women mentioned that she really wanted a "push gift" when her labor was all over with.  I assumed this meant she wanted a big gift (jewelry, purse, etc) for the labor and delivery? I'm not sure how I feel about this and was wondering what you ladies thought.  I think if my DH did something as a surprise that would be really sweet but the thought of expecting or demanding a gift b/c you labored just doesn't sit well with me.  Isn't that kinda what we all signed up for haha?  I've never heard of this before. 

Anyway, thought I would post b/c we seem to be in a debating mood today

Danyella1026

I didn't ask DH for anything, but he had heard about the "push present" fad and surprised me with a david yurman ring with DS's birthstone.  I didn't complain!!

 

pantherRN

All I want is a giant plate of tuna sashimi and a beer.

anvloveskme

I would never ask for a push present but DH did surprise me with one with DD.  I have a tiffany charm bracelet and he got me a lock with her initial on it.  I love that he thought about it and went out and did it on his own, but would never expect it.  DD was our gift!

MitsB707

pantherRN:

All I want is a giant plate of tuna sashimi and a beer.

I told DH I want a sushi platter!!!

MagPie 1986

pantherRN:

All I want is a giant plate of tuna sashimi and a beer.

LOL! and you other ladies have great DHs! That's sweet of them to do something, and I think even better when you haven't asked for it!

Cosmic+Love

Expecting a "push" gift is silly and I hate the name.

TurtleMomma

pantherRN:

All I want is a giant plate of tuna sashimi and a beer.

 

THIS! THIS! THIS!

Danyella1026

anvloveskme:

I would never ask for a push present but DH did surprise me with one with DD.  I have a tiffany charm bracelet and he got me a lock with her initial on it.  I love that he thought about it and went out and did it on his own, but would never expect it.  DD was our gift!

 

^love this! 

katharine25

All I want for  push gift is a crying healthy newborn. baby

I really don't understand all these gifts - either wanting one or giving on the husbands.  I think my husband would be like "WTF - a baby's enough" ...

Peridot0812

Cosmic+Love:

Expecting a "push" gift is silly and I hate the name.

 

This.  I thought the "push gift" was the baby.

pkaren

Getting somethind as a surprise is sweet. I know a lady who demanded diamonds. She told me she told her husband that there better be diamonds waiting for her after she popped her kid out. I think that's super tacky. They're divorced now.

mrsf123

Many here at TB are against it. I personally hate the term.  I mean, you still get it if you have a c-section right?

Anyway, my mom got a piece of jewelry when she had me, my sister and my brother.  When my sister and I turned 16, she gave each of us the piece of jewelry.  She plans to give the piece of jewelry she got when my brother was born to my niece when she turns 16.

I think that's really nice and DH liked the idea, so he did the same for me when DD was born.  I'll give her that jewelry when she turns 16 too. 

mrsf123

katharine25:

All I want for  push gift is a crying healthy newborn. baby

I really don't understand all these gifts - either wanting one or giving on the husbands.  I think my husband would be like "WTF - a baby's enough" ...

I think a lot of husbands like the idea because they realize how much we are going through and want to do something nice for us.  I don't think it's really about expecting a present for providing DH with a child.

Ladydianna

I have never asked. But for dd1 Dh gave me a heart necklace with a smaller heart on it.  The big one is us and the smaller is dd 1. After Dd2 he bought me a new one that has two hearts inside, I wasn't expecting it especially b/c dd2 was already 6 months old but he told me it took him that long to find it. I don't know if he'll get me another new one after BB, but I don't mind either way. 

Mrs.KMid

I mentioned getting a push present to my DH in the hospital so he brought me burrito from Chipolte, I love his sense of humor.  And now I'm craving a burrito....

kateisgreat

My "push gift" was DD. I didn't even get flowers. I know women who have demanded push gifts, I'm just not into jewelry. I'd rather have something useful. Like a maid service while LO is tiny and your house gets gross. That would be a great push present. 

ETA: That wasn't really clear that I'm not a fan of push presents, it's sweet if DH just spontaneously wants to give something to commemorate the moment,  but it's always tacky to ask for a gift IMO. 

Creedon778

I had never heard of a push present but DH got me one. It was DS' birthstone in an oval shape surrounded by tiny diamonds. He got it from blue nile. DH is typically not a gift giver...we don't do Xmas or vday gifts so I thought it was thoughtful and sweet.

MichelleDis

i think it is silly and expecting one is even sillier.  My baby was a gift in itself!!!!

amarissa85

This is the first time I have ever heard of this. DH told me that if I give him a boy he is going to buy my jewelry which I chuckled at and told him well it's probably a girl. Needless to say I don't expect not want anything but if he did get something I wouldn't be upset. I just want him to bring me some FOOD when it's all over because I am sure I will be starving. My XH had to go straight out to firehouse when I had my son because after 10 hours and they don't let you eat I was beyond starving.

bananatiff

MH heard about this from god knows where and ended up getting me an Amish made swing that he had hung on our porch so I could rock the baby outside.  It was one of the sweetest surprises.

purplepeanut6

just to cause some controversy....

In my circle and community push presents are very common. i get why it would seem weird, but since its common and the norm im used to it.

 Our community doesnt have baby showers, so to me its weird that people have showers. lol everyone has their own stuff and customs  

Ktbug613

pantherRN:

All I want is a giant plate of tuna sashimi and a beer.

This! X a million! 

MommyAmes2

Only thing I wanted when I was done laboring and delivering, was a freakin sandwich. I was starving!

My husband brought my flowers. Around here "push presents" are unheard of. If the husband surprises the wife with something, thats sweet. It's wrong though to expect or require something.

amarissa85

MommyAmes2:

Only thing I wanted when I was done laboring and delivering, was a freakin sandwich. I was starving!

My husband brought my flowers. Around here "push presents" are unheard of. If the husband surprises the wife with something, thats sweet. It's wrong though to expect or require something.

Lol!! This with my first. With DD I had her in the middle of the night and labor was 3.5 hours I couldn't care less about food rather sleep.

cekelly11

they seemed to be really popular when I had DD, I jokingly mentioned it to DH and he ended up getting me a mother and child necklace but I was not expecting it since I thought they were a bit silly

Melanieian

A push gift? Oh lawd the things people come up with. I have never heard of this and I think it is crazy it has a name. If DH wants to buy something fine, if not, fine but please please don't ever call it a push gift.

Boots0985

DH got me a push gift. It was an edible arrangement. It was perfect because fresh fruit sounded amazing right after not eating all day long. I didn't ask either and i don't plan on asking for one. But I will hint for fruit lol.

letitbelotus

A beer sounds like like the perfect push present!!!! LOL

cortneyloo

DH mentioned this the other day. He had heard about it and wanted to know how common a practice it was. I told him that I didn't expect anything on the day of our child's birth other than a healthy baby and plenty of encouraging words and back rubs from him during the process! Knowing him he'll probably get me something anyway just because he loves to commemorate special occasions, but I certainly would never demand anything. In case he does try to surprise me though at least he knows not to get me any jewelry with an August birthstone. I am really not fond of that bright green! lol

Manda422

It's a fun way to commemorate your pregnancy and birth besides the beautiful baby. I don't see anything wrong with it. For DS I got a Tiffany bean necklace because we called him our gummy bear jelly bean.

catskitch

I've heard of them, and I don't expect one. A friend of ours had a baby and they exchanged gifts with each other. I don't remember what she got, but he got fancy new camera equipment. I'm like...wtf did he do?

Soleil3

mrsf123:

katharine25:

All I want for  push gift is a crying healthy newborn. baby

I really don't understand all these gifts - either wanting one or giving on the husbands.  I think my husband would be like "WTF - a baby's enough" ...

I think a lot of husbands like the idea because they realize how much we are going through and want to do something nice for us.  I don't think it's really about expecting a present for providing DH with a child.

This. Some people's love language is gifts Some H's know that and respond accordingly.  

Monilee1017

I didn't get a push present but I did get a present for getting pregnant. I agree that I am not into expecting or demanding the gift. I feel like any gift you demand losing all meaning.  

kmr333

I'm not gonna lie. I think that "something" would be a really nice gesture. Even a card.

Sascha3

I never heard of a push gift before, but my husband's sisters are very pro-push gifts and so he is the one who brought it up.  I never expected anything but when he insisted that I needed a mom car, who was I to tell him no?    He hated my car and wanted to get me an Audi Q5 when I got pregnant last time.  Don't know if it was a push gift, or just a gift but it was greatly appreciated. 

His family doesn't celebrate birthdays or Christmas, so maybe that is why they enjoy push gifts.

beezybaby

I think a push present is sweet, but obviously not necessary.  My DH didn't really treat me any nicer or more special during pregnancy than normal, so I guess I sort of hoped he would do a push present.  When it didn't happen I wasn't upset, I had other things to focus on...

punkin05

Neither DH or I had heard of the term before DS was born, but he did surprise me with a beautiful ring shortly after he was born. He said he wanted to get something special to know how much he appreciated and admired me for bringing our son into the world. It was by far one of the sweetest things he's ever said to me.

BlueJewelM

I want a push present. I'm going to ask for my husband to grill out a HUGE ribeye. And buy the expensive potato salad I love from the deli and a beer. Served to me on our deck a week or so after baby is born.

Oh! And corn on the cob.

Yep. That's what I want. It's usually called "Sunday at the xxxxxxx's" but I will call it my push present.

Stizzle

With DD DH surprised me with a very pretty ring.  He had heard about "push presents" from some ladies he worked with.  He didn't quite understand that it's for after you have the baby, and ended up giving it to me when I was about 5 or 6 months along.  I thought that was really sweet and cute of him, and it was a bonus because that was around the time that I started feel less attractive so a pretty ring to wear didn't hurt!

Also, I love the idea that I can pass it along to DD.

lisamoe

My DH heard of the "push present" from one of his best buddies who had just had a baby.  His wife had "expected" a push present.

I actually never heard of it!  Anyways, DH bought me 2 charms for my pandora bracelet (one of a little boy and one of my DSs birthstone).  I thought it was sweet and totally unexpected.

My favorite present was a nice IPA beer when I got home from the hospital!