toddler meeting baby

delwynne

hi there guys im just wondering how soon after a c section u mums who have toddlers had ur toddler come to hospital and meet the baby? i know i looked shocking and was still numb for a good few hours after having my first..and i dont wanna scare her by her seeing me in such a state, so wondered how long after u think is a good time to bring her down to meet her sister? u mums who have already been there will know what i mean

tawillers

We had our 2 kids (they were 10yrs and 23 months) come meet the new baby pretty quickly.  I had to be sewn up and spent about an hour in a recovery room where DH and I had some alone time and I breastfed.  The kids came in while we were still in recovery, as well as our parents.

They all accompanied us to my private room and were there maybe another hour or so.  They all left so I could rest and they took our kids back home (our 2 year old was getting restless at the hospital).

The only thing that might have been weird to the 2 year old is that she couldn't climb on me.  I don't think I looked horrific and my stomach was completely covered.

I have to add that the parent and kid visits were what we planned and it went really well.  Do what you think will be best for your child and family.

magdalina.h

We'll have him come back after an hour or two.

emberlee3

DD was born at 3 pm and I had some trouble that required a longer time in recovery than is typical.  I was just too wiped out to see DS that night.  My parents brought him the next morning.  He was excited to meet DD, but I was in a lot of pain and DH ended up having to take DS on a little errand because he was getting scared.  He came to the hospital the next day, and it was much better. 

~Kat~

I wanted DS1 there right away. I just was feeling emotional and wanted my whole little family to be together. He wasn't able to get there for a few hours. We had the baby in the bassinet over against the wall and I had DS curl up in bed with me and tell me all about his night with Nana and Papa. After a few minutes we asked him if he wanted to see the baby. He wanted to hold him, but if he hadn't it would have been ok too. 

Kie310

My second son was both at 9:11am. My oldest son came to visit around 3pm that day!

sabrina69barnes

My boys are all around 3 years apart so for my last two c-sections I had a child who was around 3.

When DS2 was born I felt horrible. The meds made me feel very sick and dizzy and it lasted for the rest of the day. DS1 and my SK's came to see me a few hours after surgery. I was able to pull it together but I felt really horrible. DS1 was excited to see the baby but wanted to see me more. He really wanted to get on the bed and cuddle with me. DH and MIL tried to tell him no but I said it was fine. I put a pillow over my belly just to be safe. He didn't notice how bad I felt and cuddling with him actually made me feel better.

When DS3 was born it was completely different. I didn't think I would be ready for visitors for a while so I told MIL I would call her when I was. They adjusted my meds and I felt great both during the surgery and after. My younger kids came to visit as soon as we got to our room. DS1 was excited to see the baby but DS2 didn't really care. He just wanted to play on the chairs and the bathroom door.

I had two very different experiences with both siblings and what I was up for. I couldn't have predicted how things would go until they happened. I would wait to have your DD visit until you feel up for it. Don't set a time. Just tell whoever has her that you will call. Let them know that it might not even be that day. It's much easier to have people come earlier than they expected and be excited than to come later and be disappointed. 

MommyMelDay

My case toon is scheduled for 7 am on a Friday. My daughter is going to be taken to school by my mom and then come visit after school. Keeps her routine the same but adds a surprise before the weekend and gives me plenty of time to rest. 

JG362009

We had ours come the next day but it was stressful and a little awkward and I kind of regret doing it.  We did get one cute picture out of it, so maybe that's the reason it happened, but my DS (not quite 2 at the time) was scared of being in the hospital and didn't want to meet his sister and it was just no fun for anyone. 

LovinTim912

Our 3-year-old DS came the next day and I saw that he was very nervous.  He kept asking me if I was ok and looking around the room with a very fearful look in his eye.  He did, however, seem to enjoy meeting his baby sister and he was smiing as he was talking to her.  But he kept looking over his shoulder at me.  

It's a hard situation... I really wanted him to meet his sister and I missed him so much (yes, after only one day!!), but I don't think it was a great idea having him visit that early on.