LIES

+just+j+

H is a lying sack of sh*t.

Hopeforthebest

Uh Oh!

+just+j+

LOL!  I am so mad, I hit enter and posted before I was ready.

He's such a damn liar. He's been really brushing me off about the job thing, and his cousin.  I tried to find this all out so I'd know for CS and for DD if she ever went down there.

So a mutual friend calls me and she mentions how H is moving, and am I okay with that, and she started talking about his girlfriend and how she can't figure out why after only dating H for a few weeks, she'd haul him off to Texas. I said, "Um. Excuse me? Girlfriend? And she's taking him down there???"

She got real quiet and says, "OMG, I thought you knew..."

Uh. No.

I am annoyed on so many levels.  And at the same time, I need to just let most of it go.  It's his business if he's using this woman. Not mine. I am the kind of person that feels for her and wants to warn her, but it's not my business. And she won't listen to me anyway becuase I am sure she is madly in love with H.  It's not my business how he gets down there. He's not asking me for money, so that's all I care about. But he's lying to me about it.  He said his "cousin" is getting him. And I also question that.  I have never heard of this cousin and why would she be so damn generous to let him move there, give him a job, etc.

My instincts are telling me that it's a potential girlfriend. But that's none of my business either.  It's the lie that's getting to me.

But it is my business is where he is living and I will be PO'd if I don't get a flippin' address from him within the week he arrives.

Hopeforthebest

Yikes!

Unfortunatley I don't hold hope for the address thing since this is the same guy that couldn't figure out forwarding mail. UGH!

Maybe him being open with this friend will be a good way to get a little necessary information. I'd keep the friend in your back pocket for sure. I wouldn't let him know you know the true story of how/why he is going to TX.

I'm so sorry he is being a jerkwad. I am glad you are in control though.

+just+j+

I don't care to fight wtih him about it and I know it will get me nowhere. So that's not going to happen, but I'm pretty ticked.

It's the beginning of the BS.

And he tells me I need to be nicer to him if I want us to get along. Well how about YOU being honest first ***???

Hopeforthebest

Any idea why he thinks the lying is necessary? Habit? Money fears?

I really truly hope you are wrong, but yeah seems like the beginning of the BS for sure. Bright side, you have DD and not to sound harsh but ALL the power to protect her/shield her. I'd almost be relieved he will be so far away. But I know that is selfish to say.

 

 

Littlejen22

wendilea:

So the tiger is staying true to his stripes.nbsp; You're not really surprised, are you?nbsp; There's a reason SS and SD are the way they are I think they learned a lot from their daddy.I'm sorry that you're dealing with this.

Ding ding ding.

So sorry J

+just+j+

I am a little surprised, but not really. This is what he does when he can't justify his crappy choices.

He knows what he's doing is sh*tty and he's trying to justify it to me, as well as blame me for his decision. I apparently backed him into a corner.

Whatever.  I do not feel guilty in the slightest. If anything it's only justifying my decision and if it's even possible, lose even more respect for him. 

socloudy99

I am all for children having a relationship with both parents as long as no abuse or safety issues stop that. So I really hate to say this but I really feel this way. I hope he goes to TX and never sees your DD again. He is like a cancer on every relationship he has. It is borderline abuse with these games he plays. I do feel a little bad this lady doesn't know what she is getting into but that is her lesson to learn. Keep taking care of yourself and that little girl. Mentally prepare to do it 100% by yourself because I don't think he is going to be involved much longer. It cuts into his manipulating, lying, and being an a$$ time!