Question about getting Fraternals on a nap schedule

Journey33

My girls have similar sleeping patterns through the night.. they both go to sleep and wake up at the same time.. with no problems at all.

But during the day.. Im trying to work out a nap schedule.. and it just doesnt seem to be working so great. The morning nap is the only one that is a consistent thing.. but this week Im finding one will sleep much longer at this nap. (one sleeps about 2 hrs, the other only 30-40 mins) and then the rest of the day is anyone's guess.

Id like a structured nap schedule but don't know if Im asking for too much at this age. I also have IL's and my mom coming 4 days a week while Im working so part of me thinks thats some of the issue. They are much more lenient with letting them fall asleep in the bouncy seat/ taking them out of the crib is they dont get to sleep right away.

When Im home, i wait for drowsy cues and get them in the crib right away/ Sometmes they go to sleep without a problem. Sometimes I have to go back in 8 times to give a paci/soothe but they eventually get to sleep.

 What worked for you? I need some more predictability in my day.

If it helps, they are 14 weeks, 9 weeks adjusted, fraternal.

TIA!!

Mrs.Greg

It took a little while before my babies were on the same nap schedule.  One of them just needed more sleep than the other so she'd nap longer.  Just like yours, they'd go down for the morning nap at the same time but one would wake up after only 30-40 minutes and the other would nap for over an hour.  And then they were on different schedules the rest of the day.  I went back to work when they were 5 months old and we had JUST gotten them on the same/similar 3 nap a day schedule before my first day of work.  Now they are almost 17 months old and are taking 2 naps at the same time.  One of them (oddly enough, not the SAME one) needs more sleep than the other so she falls right out but the other one will chatter for 10-15 minutes before going to sleep and they wake up at the same time.  It's funny to think back to those early days when i'd wonder why they wouldn't sleep at the same time, they are exactly the same age, what was up?  Took me a little while to realize that even though they are the exact same age, they are two different people with different needs.    Hang in there, I'm sure they'll get in sync soon!

macchiatto

I think it might just be their age. We followed HSHHC with our fraternals (have you read it, or the twins version? Kind of sounds like it from your post but not sure if you're following any particular method) and Weissbluth definitely says to go by due date for sleep issues so yours are at the age where these things should be starting to regulate but it might take a while. We started following HSHHC advice when our boys were 8 weeks and it worked really well but for us it was nighttime sleep that took longer to regulate. I would try to keep things as consistent as possible and keep it up for a few weeks and see how it goes and then see if you need to adjust the timing at all. One of my boys does seem to need a little more sleep than his brother but they've been on the same schedule since 8w and now at almost 4 it still works fairly well.

Journey33

macchiatto:

I think it might just be their age. We followed HSHHC with our fraternals (have you read it, or the twins version? Kind of sounds like it from your post but not sure if you're following any particular method) and Weissbluth definitely says to go by due date for sleep issues so yours are at the age where these things should be starting to regulate but it might take a while. We started following HSHHC advice when our boys were 8 weeks and it worked really well but for us it was nighttime sleep that took longer to regulate. I would try to keep things as consistent as possible and keep it up for a few weeks and see how it goes and then see if you need to adjust the timing at all. One of my boys does seem to need a little more sleep than his brother but they've been on the same schedule since 8w and now at almost 4 it still works fairly well.

Yes, I am folowing. HSHHT! it was worked really well.. but like you said, I may need to wait a little longer for the naps to work out.. Im glad the problem is in the day, not at night

Journey33

Mrs.Greg:

It took a little while before my babies were on the same nap schedule.  One of them just needed more sleep than the other so she'd nap longer.  Just like yours, they'd go down for the morning nap at the same time but one would wake up after only 30-40 minutes and the other would nap for over an hour.  And then they were on different schedules the rest of the day.  I went back to work when they were 5 months old and we had JUST gotten them on the same/similar 3 nap a day schedule before my first day of work.  Now they are almost 17 months old and are taking 2 naps at the same time.  One of them (oddly enough, not the SAME one) needs more sleep than the other so she falls right out but the other one will chatter for 10-15 minutes before going to sleep and they wake up at the same time.  It's funny to think back to those early days when i'd wonder why they wouldn't sleep at the same time, they are exactly the same age, what was up?  Took me a little while to realize that even though they are the exact same age, they are two different people with different needs.    Hang in there, I'm sure they'll get in sync soon!

Thank you, Ill try to be a little more patient.. your girls are adorable!!

justlld

I usually wait until one of them shows sleepy cues, then I put them both in their swings for naps.  They definitely nap better in the morning (2-3 hours).  Also, napping in the swings hasn't affected their ability to go to sleep in their beds at night.