I'm new to TheBump as my DH and I have just started TTC...are there any other birthmothers around here - or is this board just for adoptive parents?
I'm a birthmother to a 5-year-old daughter who I placed in a very open adoption and would love to connect with others!
Re: Any birthmothers around here?
I'm pregnant right now and considering placing my boys, don't know if that counts?
This board is pretty open to anybody affected by adoption.
Ah - good to know it's a place for anyone that's part of the triad.
Let me know if you ever need anything during this time for you - I know that it's comforting to talk with someone who has been there. Thinking of you!
DS 3/2016
EDD 4/29/19
Hi,
I'm a birthmom. I placed my birthson in an open adoption ten years ago. We have an open adoption with visits.
I have found this board very welcoming and have been appreciative of seeing all the perspectives on here.
Hello,
I mostly lurk but I'm a birthmom of a 15 year old girl. We too have a very open adoption. I also have 3 yo and 6 month old sons.
For me, having my sons brought out a lot of new feelings about my daughter and her adoption that I wasn't really prepared for and had a really hard time working through, despite the fact that I've always been really confidant in the decision I made back then. I basically went through the whole grieving process over again after the birth of my older son as it was only then that I was really able to process the loss of my daughter.
I'm not trying to project these issue on you at all, but I've tried a little to find some resources or support for this stage of the adoption journey and have so far come up empty on that front. So I guess my point is, please post if you find yourself in the same position and are looking for someone to talk to has been down this road.
Best of luck!
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See - this is my biggest fear about having another baby and probably why I've subconsciously put it off this long.
I, too, have always been very confident in the decision, etc. but you hit the nail on the head in how it can make so many things resurface.
Thanks for sharing your experience and being willing to support me!
DS 3/2016
EDD 4/29/19
DS 3/2016
EDD 4/29/19
I put off having my sons for a very long time and while sometimes it has been really hard and, in all honesty, there are things that will just always be hard, having my sons really helped me work through some of the things I had been sort of ignoring for a long time and I'm much happier in general now. I hope that you don't have a hard time with it, but if you do I would be more than happy give whatever support I can.
I can also tell you that now that my older son is 3 and a big brother he understands the significance of having an older half sister (which is the term her family used and took me a long time to get used to) and watching them together during our visits is probably the most beautiful thing I have ever experienced.