Do you get upset when gifts are not reciprocated?

REOM

I know that you shouldn't give gifts for the purpose of getting gifts, but I am a little hurt by this and I can't help it.

When DH's cousin had their second baby in March, we went to visit them and the baby, bearing gifts.

Well, they haven't even acknowledged our second baby, who was born 7 weeks ago. No visit, no gifts.  We went to their daughter's third birthday tonight and nothing.

shopgirl78

No.  I assume that they may not be able to recipocate at the present time. 

Heidisean

I would be hurt also!

Purrrfect433

I know you're not supposed to, either, but I do..

Jen2124

Yes, only because I think it is common courtesy. I don't understand how people can do stuff like that!

FeatherFire

I try not to, but yeah I notice and sometimes I feel hurt.

Amanda&Chris

In that case, yes I would be hurt.  Even if they can't afford a gift or don't want to give one, a card and/or a visit would be appropriate to acknowledge Emi.

Goose51504

In a situation like what you just described, absolutely.

jessicaclare

Sometimes I just don't even notice. Or I assume they couldn't afford to get my me a gift, however in this case, a card would have been nice.

cooker71

I know I shouldn't be, but in a situation like that I would feel the same as you. Just a bit hurt and slighted.

Mrs.Saxy

I wouldn't be upset about that gift, but I'd be upset about birthday or christmas.  I've told everyone not to get me anything and I won't get you anything.

REOM

Thanks ladies. I thought for sure I would get flamed for this but I just get crazy when I feel like my kids get slighted

niecy

I would be hurt too

sweetie1528

don't get me started.  you know that you and I are identical when it comes to things like this!

minnasmommy

in one word, yes.

I'm sorry!

Mrs Manners

The "no gift" part wouldn't bother me at all. However, the lack of congratulations or acknowledgement would bother me terribly.

cornichon

The gift part would not bother me but the lack of acknowledgment/excitement would really bother me. ?I feel the same way about my kids being slighted.

co18co

In general, no.  But that situation would totally bug me, and definitely hurt my feelings.

kjlrs

I would feel the same way as you. It's not all about the gift, it's just about the effort and acknowledgment. If in the situation you described, they came over to visit and gave a nice card, etc, then I wouldn't feel so slighted. 

 

I also am a little disappointed when I realize that a friend who I gush over their baby and ask tons of questions seems disinterested in my DD. I have one somewhat selfish friend in particular that I notice these things about and I always feel hurt.

breezee_bean

not at all. I don't really get offended by much.  However, not acknowledging your DD's birth, I can see how that would hurt your feelings. 

 

ellemoney:)

REOM:

Thanks ladies. I thought for sure I would get flamed for this but I just get crazy when I feel like my kids get slighted

?

That's the kicker, I think. ?It's not really that you're pissed that a gift wasn't reciprocated, it's that you feel the child wasn't acknowledged. ?I'd be SUPERpissed, too!

[[hugs]]?

UBMyBaby

I get upset when acknowledgments are not reciprocated.  Whether it is in the form of a visit, a card, or a gift...I don't care.  But it's just common courtesy to show an interest in someone who has shown an interest in you.  So I get why you are hurt. I would be too.

winery

Late, but just had to tell you that it wouldn't be the gift as much as a card or even a "hey, cute kid!".

I'm sorry, that totally sucks.