How did you all do it???

HayleyBaker1122

Hey guys! I'm only 4w4d pregnant, and it's driving me crazy. I just want to skip to 12 weeks, and feel a little more secure about this pregnancy (my first loss was at 7 weeks). The time seems to be moving in slow motion, every cramp makes me nervous and every time I go to the bathroom I worry what I'll see. How did you guys get through the first trimester with pgal brain??  Any advice to help get through it?

zombiemommy

Keep yourself very busy with other things, treat yourself to an elective ultrasound (mine was $50) if you have a big gap between appointments, and try to remember that statistics are on your side.

But yeah, a time machine would be preferable. Good luck!

Junebug060609

All you can do is take it one day at a time.

Today you are pregnant, and you love your baby.

Meow7511

DH and I are in the home buying process, and I thought it would distract me but I thought wrong! Honestly, letting my fears out on here help the most. Sometimes you need to share with people who get it and wont be judgmental.
I've also been watching a lot of tv. It zones me out! Anytime I stress I watch a movie and eat.

pinktrojanbride120107

Time machine sounds good!

bananers

Honestly, this board is what got me through it. We too had a loss at 7 weeks (discovered at 8 weeks) and I felt like time was crawling this time around getting past our loss milestone to 12 weeks. Interestingly, in hindsight it feels like just yesterday that we got our BFP, even though it felt like it took forever at the time. Also, just to set expectations, for me the anxiety didn't go away after our loss milestone or after we reached 12 weeks. It got a little better at each milestone, but I'm still scared every single day. Maybe you'll feel differently, and I hope you do, but be afraid to keep leaning on these women for support. ((hugs)) 

jbg23

zombiemommy:

Keep yourself very busy with other things, treat yourself to an elective ultrasound (mine was $50) if you have a big gap between appointments, and try to remember that statistics are on your side.

But yeah, a time machine would be preferable. Good luck!

OMG... yes... someone please invent a time machine!!

Mmm79

Isn't it cruel that this is also the time when you're not allowed to have alcohol?!

But seriously, it sucks.  For me, I came here and tried to keep busy the best I could.  I think it also helps a bit when you get past your loss milestone.  So maybe don't think of it as twelve weeks, but making to (and past) smaller milestones.  Loss milestone, first u/s, first appointment, etc.  

Hang in there.  ((Hugs)) 

manda37

I'm still trying to figure it out. We terminated our first pregnancy at 13w5d (fatal diagnosis discovered at 12w5d.) It took a really long time for us to be emotionally ready to even try for another baby. We got pregnant the 2nd month we tried and got our BFP on 10/22/12. It feels like FOREVER ago. Time is crawling and I'm nervous. Like you, every discomfort is exaggerated in my mind. Every time I go to the bathroom I'm afraid to look at the toilet paper. My symptoms have subsided the last few days and that too has me freaked out. Everything makes me scared and I'm not sure when it's going to get better.

This board and these woman really help.  I'm also trying to stay positive and enjoy my little poppyseed. I am so thrilled for this baby and even if something does happen, I want to enjoy every minute of growing this little life.

H&H for the next 9 months! 

BarooGirl

You just do. The waiting stinks but I kept reminding myself to enjoy evey moment.

I hope the time goes by fast and easy for you.

BritsyB8

It's not easy that's for sure!! With my first loss it was around 8 weeks and my second it was around 9 weeks. Now, I am sitting here at not quite 6 weeks, looking into every single symptom, twinge, etc. I keep reminding myself that this is a different pregnancy and it can have a different outcome. For now, I am just going to take it one step at a time and just try to keep breathing!

ProfessorPedals825

I know it's tough but you really do have to keep yourself busy.  I actually went on vacation with DH around 7-8 weeks and by the time I was back, I was 9 weeks.  That really helped the time jump!  Just take it a day at a time and we'll help you get through the rest.

jbranden12

Junebug060609:

All you can do is take it one day at a time.

Today you are pregnant, and you love your baby.

this!

weaslewam

Yeah, if you guys figure out the time machine thing that would be great...

lioness13

I was glad that when I found out I was 6 weeks (I tested at 4 weeks and was negative so I think I ovulated late). It took a little time off the wait. I am just taking it one moment at a time. Some days I have moments where I freak out and then I'm back to normal. I know 12 weeks will be here before I know it. The hardest part is not telling people.  I wish you the best!

AudUy

I wish I had an answer. I also found the first week or two after the bfp to be the most anxiety-provoking. Now that I'm approaching my loss milestone I'm feeling very anxious again. There seems to be no way around it, you have to go through it. I do find this board helpful as it reminds me that I'm not alone.