? for those who acknowledged m/c on FB

kelly321

I'm gathering up the courage to announce this pregnancy on FB in the next couple of days, but would also like to acknowledge my loss. Partially because I don't want it to be something I'm ashamed of or try to hide (not that there's anything wrong with not going public with it!!!), and partially because with DD and this LO being 22 months apart, plenty of people who are struggling might assume that I'm one of those lucky ones who has no problems being pregnant, and I'd like them to know they're not alone.

What I was thinking was something along the lines of: "After a miscarriage in April, we're happy to announce that we're expecting DD's little sister in February." Short and sweet, nothing fancy, but for some reason it doesn't hit the right chord for me.

So for those of you who acknowledged your m/c on FB, how did you do it? What did you say? Maybe some of you will be able to give me ideas.

KikiCohen

We pretty much had to put our m/c on FB b/c we had announced my pregnancy after seeing the baby's heartbeat.  After we got home from the ER, we both posted to ask everyone for their thoughts and prayers and just said that our LO had went to heaven.  It was really, really hard to do, but so much better than explaining it to everyone in person.

I think what you have planned definitely works.  I usually do an "I'm thankful for..." status every day in November, and my EDD would have been the 29th.  I think that day I'll say something along the lines of being thankful for those short 12 weeks of joy and acknowledge the baby we lost.  Then on the 30th, I'd like to say something about being thankful for the LO inside me.  I'm not sure I'm ready to announce that early though.

Mom2anAngel2

I haven't announced yet, but have been planning on coming out about our loss on the 1 year anniversary.  I have thought about this for the past year.  Everyone knows about our loss, but I have never acknowledged it of FB and friends that I do not see often may not have heard. 

kread8

I love what you are planning to write.  I actually am *hopefully* going to announce our pregnancy the same way - acknowledging our first pregnancy as we tell the FB world about our current one.

sewinteresting

I announced all 3 pregnancy and losses on FB because I am close with just about everyone on there. I kept a blog through the entire process that saved me from depression and let me vent whatever I needed to. I didn't hold anything back and posted my blog entries so that people could see what it was like. I had a lot of friends come out and tell me they understood what I was going through and how heartbreaking it was, and thanked me for the blog and sharing... I don't know if anyone is interested, but the link is 

 https://myflappinggums.blogspot.com/

If anyone wants to read... 

I decided to announce this pregnancy right away... I am at a different place in life with a different guy, and just take it as it comes now. I was only about 5 weeks and I feel great about this baby....nothing has come back irregular and my doctor says everything looks great... Whenever I get paranoid I try to remember all of that, snd not let the past get away from me but not take over either.

luvmyducks

My last m/c was in May '10 so that October 15th I came out on FB.  But when I announced DD's pg, I just put " DH and I are so blessed to announce that we will be welcoming a baby around September 7, 2011. Thank you in advance for all your thoughts and prayers."

Everyone already knew so I didn't see the reason to call attention.  Maybe something like, "After a long and hard journey filled with loss and sadness, we are feeling so joyous and blessed to announce we will be welcoming a little girl in February." ?? 

ConnieRob

I've all ready announced on FB and I wanted to acknowledge my loss and the long road to conception. This is what i said:

After 17 cycles and sadly a loss in November of last year, I am excited to (Finally!) announce I'M PREGNANT! I know it is early and we have a long road ahead of us so we would appreciate your thoughts and prayers for a happy, healthy baby. We are due early June 2013.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP

When I did my announcement after my A/S, I said something along the lines of:  "After some bumps along the way, we are proud to announce that come the end of December, DS will have a baby sister!"

I didn't specifically use the words miscarriage just because most everyone that I know and actually see/talk to on a routine basis already knew about it, so would know what I meant about bumps along the way, and I didn't really care if the rest of them knew what I was talking about specifically.

I didn't want to use the specific word miscarriage while simultaneously announcing the new pregnancy, it just didn't seem to go together right that way, I felt it was more important to focus on the announcement of the new pregnancy than the acknowledgment of the miscarriage.

kpowers982

I came out about my loss on my EDD.  I said something about how I should be holding a newborn in my arms, but instead I am grateful for the one baking in my belly, and that I was hopeful she would be our take-home baby.