Separation anxiety?

sanbry

I took DD to AZ to visit my mom this last week. She's been there before, even 2 weeks before that. She's normally super easy to get to sleep and sleeps all night. About 2 days before we left, she started to wake up once in the night. I figured she was starting to teethe again. But as soon as we got to my moms, she refused to nap or go to bed at night without rocking, patting and a hand on her back. Once she was asleep she was fine, even slept through some nights. We just got back today and I had to pat her in her own crib to get her down:( could this be separation anxiety? She's never given me this much trouble for sleeping in her life. 

namara5532

Since she started having issues before you left, I doubt it's separation anxiety.  Like you said, she's probably teething.  Sleep habits don't stay consistant, even for adults.  Ever have a bad night where you couldn't get back to sleep?  Same thing happens to babies.

BTW, consider yourself lucky you have a LO who STTN.  DS has slept for 6 hours ONCE!

wychets

namara5532:

Since she started having issues before you left, I doubt it's separation anxiety.  Like you said, she's probably teething.  Sleep habits don't stay consistant, even for adults.  Ever have a bad night where you couldn't get back to sleep?  Same thing happens to babies.

BTW, consider yourself lucky you have a LO who STTN.  DS has slept for 6 hours ONCE!

Great advice!

bigbear

That doesn't sound like SA. Especially, like PP said, the change happened before you even took off. The thing with babies is that nothing is consistant.

My DD now also has to be rocked to sleep. And I'm sure that will change again, too. But this new thing is when she started teething hard core. Prior to that, she was in her crib, pinching my hand until she would go out, only to wake up 2hrs later and repeat the whole thing, prior to that she would be put in her crib awake and would go to sleep on her own. Prior to that, I had to stand and rock her. Prior to that, she just needed the nuk and to feel your hand for a few minutes. And prior to that she wouldn't sleep at all ;P

So things will change all the time I have the feeling...

mrs.larry

we are going through this too. DS2 used to be fine going to sleep on his own and putting himself back to sleep. Suddenly he needs to be rocked and rocked and rocked and sometimes that doesn't even work.

I think there are so many things going on with them right now that interfere with their sleep. Object permanence (and resulting sep anxiety) is certainly one. But just learning new skills and having new perspectives can mess with their sleep.

I've had success with Ferber for my kids, so I'm going back to that for the most part, with my own personal tweaks. But we are traveling this weekend (just one night) and I'm dreading that night. I know it's going to be rough. I can't let him cry in a hotel (for multiple reasons).

GL! I hope the phase passes soon!!

 

mrs.larry

bigbear:

That doesn't sound like SA. Especially, like PP said, the change happened before you even took off. The thing with babies is that nothing is consistant.

My DD now also has to be rocked to sleep. And I'm sure that will change again, too. But this new thing is when she started teething hard core. Prior to that, she was in her crib, pinching my hand until she would go out, only to wake up 2hrs later and repeat the whole thing, prior to that she would be put in her crib awake and would go to sleep on her own. Prior to that, I had to stand and rock her. Prior to that, she just needed the nuk and to feel your hand for a few minutes. And prior to that she wouldn't sleep at all ;P

So things will change all the time I have the feeling...

definitely this, too!!

sanbry

Thx guys. We had a crap night last night, she was up for 2hrs from 230-430. I tried feeding, changing,gas drops, letting her cry for a bit. I think she didn't feel good and we just got home from our trip yesterday. But she did go to bed fine and down for her first nap today without any rocking or patting. 

Im pretty much the worst with coping with change:( I know it'll pass like all the other phases but it's always hard for me to see it when I'm sleep deprived. 

sanbry

mrs.larry:

bigbear:

That doesn't sound like SA. Especially, like PP said, the change happened before you even took off. The thing with babies is that nothing is consistant.

My DD now also has to be rocked to sleep. And I'm sure that will change again, too. But this new thing is when she started teething hard core. Prior to that, she was in her crib, pinching my hand until she would go out, only to wake up 2hrs later and repeat the whole thing, prior to that she would be put in her crib awake and would go to sleep on her own. Prior to that, I had to stand and rock her. Prior to that, she just needed the nuk and to feel your hand for a few minutes. And prior to that she wouldn't sleep at all ;P

So things will change all the time I have the feeling...

definitely this, too!!

bigbear, I can never see your responses unless someone quotes them:/ I can't even read most of your board posts either. Anywho, the waking through the night did start right before I left, but the screaming everytime I laid her down for naps or bed only started once we were out of town. I'm out of ideas as to the cause, we will just have to get through it. I don't see any top teeth yet, but the bottom came in with no real signs either.