Sleepeasy Fail - Advice?

sneakersandstilettos19

I read Sleepeasy Solution and No Cry Sleep Solution.  We decided to go the route of Sleepeasy.  DS used to go to bed without incident and sleep until about 4am.  About a month ago he started fighting bedtime and only going to bed without screaming if I nursed him to sleep and laid him down completely out. 

Now, after we are done nursing he just cries and cries even if we try rocking him.  So, we decided to try their version of CIO.  Last night we did the first check at 5 minutes, then again at 10 minutes and I caved.  Seeing him crying looking around for us killed me.  I know he needs to learn how to fall asleep on his own.  Question is how do you get through those nights letting them cry? 

bitsybubbles7

We did Sleepeasy and it took about 3 days to work, with some good crying.  We modified a bit though and would touch him; since he moves a lot in the crib we would move him back to the middle and rub his back for a couple seconds. The first night lo cried for 28 minutes, but less than 5 minutes when he woke in the middle of the night (we got rid of the middle of the night feeding and his pacifier while doing this).  His first nap, he cried for 43 minutes.  The second one, 11 minutes.  He fell asleep in the playpen by himself at his grandmother's.  Now, he falls asleep with about 2 minutes of "fussing."  If it's longer than 2 minutes, he isn't tired yet. 

Listening to him cry isn't easy; but I figured he was crying in my arms anyway, he might as well cry in the crib and learn to sleep by himself.  Take turns with your so checking in, if it helps.  Good Luck!

llc730

We basically did the same thing DD1. let her cry 3 min, 5 min, 7 min, then every 10. I would go in and pat her back or rub her tummy and sush her for a minute then try again. It only took 3 nights but I won't lie to you. Those nights SUCKED. I felt like a huge bully letting her cry. I basically laid in bed totally awake begging her to fall asleep. I had to stare at the clock to keep myself from cheating and going in early. The second night was the worst. She made it all the way to the second 10 minute stretch til she fell asleep. After that it was so much better and we were both happier getting a good night sleep.

andricjl

Our LO cried almost bloody murder on and off but mostly on for 54 minutes the first night.  I hung out downstairs with the tv on loud and the video monitor on but no sound on.  She was a terrible sleeper and something had to be done and I knew that in the long run this would help her and I just kept telling myself it would only be a few nights.  The first night I followed the book to a tee..5 min, 10min, 15min check ins.  I just tried to put a happy face on, go in there for 20 seconds and just tell her everything was ok and quickly got out so I wasn't tempted to comfort her.  It was the toughest night of my life.  Night 2 was so much better...went from 54 minutes down to 20 minutes and the third night was 5 minutes of crying and by the 4th night no crying or fussing at all and she continues to go to sleep with no fussing or crying.  We are all so much happier now..she sleeps better, we sleep better.

Our only problem is naps.  We were unable to stick with the sleepeasy solution for naps as she is in daycare 3 days, at my parent's house 2 days and then home on the weekend with us.  Daycare can only let her cry for so long because of the other kids so they wind up picking her up while she is crying and I believe now she knows how to push everyone's buttons and just cries till someone gets her and she really won't nap unless she is on you.  It's awful but I really don't know what to do about it.  I try to use the sleep easy solution on weekends, but I think she is getting confused since daycare picks her up and comforts her.  I'm not sure if naptime will ever get easy or change for her.

Jessica

nunzchucks

kbruington:

You cry too! lol

It's very, very hard but consistency is key, trust me on this one. No matter which method you choose, stick to it. Your LO will be even more confused if you try one version one night, then something else the next night, but end up picking him up in between and not sticking to it. I totally understand how hard it is but my hubby and I stuck with CIO and after a few nights, my LO knew what he needed to be doing and has been a great sleeper ever since. Luckily he never cried for longer than about 15 minutes before he fell asleep. He doesn't mess around at bedtime at all and STTN with no problems. Well, except for teething, that messes everything up! Hang in there! Be strong.

This! I cannot stress consistency enough.  It took us 5 days to see results.  Nothing is worse than those first 2 nights, though.   

sneakersandstilettos19

kbruington:

llc730:

We basically did the same thing DD1. let her cry 3 min, 5 min, 7 min, then every 10. I would go in and pat her back or rub her tummy and sush her for a minute then try again. It only took 3 nights but I won't lie to you. Those nights SUCKED. I felt like a huge bully letting her cry. I basically laid in bed totally awake begging her to fall asleep. I had to stare at the clock to keep myself from cheating and going in early. The second night was the worst. She made it all the way to the second 10 minute stretch til she fell asleep. After that it was so much better and we were both happier getting a good night sleep.

Hahaha, I would lay in bed and beg for my LO to go to sleep too! It's so hard but worth it for everyone. It's not just the parents that need sleep but baby too!

 

Haha, Last night I was picking up the house and getting dinner ready and every time I walked past his bedroom I was silently willing him to fall asleep and also silently apologizing to him for letting him cry.  I felt awful... but like another poster said if he's crying when you're holding him anyway if you leave him in the crib at least he'll be learning  this skill.  We gotta get some sleep.  Thanks for your replies!

buzzbee24

sneakersandstilettos19:

I read Sleepeasy Solution and No Cry Sleep Solution.  We decided to go the route of Sleepeasy.  DS used to go to bed without incident and sleep until about 4am.  About a month ago he started fighting bedtime and only going to bed without screaming if I nursed him to sleep and laid him down completely out. 

Now, after we are done nursing he just cries and cries even if we try rocking him.  So, we decided to try their version of CIO.  Last night we did the first check at 5 minutes, then again at 10 minutes and I caved.  Seeing him crying looking around for us killed me.  I know he needs to learn how to fall asleep on his own.  Question is how do you get through those nights letting them cry? 

We are starting night 5 this evening. Last night, LO was down within 15 minutes of fussy cry, but we did modify it as well. The first few nights SUCK, but it does get easier and we are definitely seeing results in nap time and bedtime. Just stay the course, you'll get there. 

Good luck!!

LuckyBride06

You can't give in and pick him up bc then the poor kid just cried for nothing! Once you do it, you need to do it! I'm sorry, it's realllllly hard! I cried a lot and so did he, but it works. It was over a month before he got in a good routine. He had great days where he didn't cry or cried for 5mins, then he had days were he cried for over an hour! There will be some regression. Just stick with it if you want to do it. Good luck