My 11-Month Old HATES Me...

pjasper77

Okay...maybe "hate" is a strong word but she goes gaga when she sees her day sitter, then she seems none-too-thrilled to come to me when I go pick her up after work.

 She usually smiles and acknowledges me, but when I extend my hands to take her home, she turns her head/body and refuses to look at me.  When I go to pick her up, she totally leans into the Nanny and has no interest in coming to me.

Do I think she really hates me?  No.  Do I get bummed when she seems to reject me?  Yes.  My husband and I both work (out of necessity) and we try to spend as much time with her as possible on the weekends and after work.

It just kinda seems like she's not as attached to me as I would like for her to be.  Any other moms out there who have/had babies who seemed distant but then grew to have a close relationship in the long run?  I want us to be close and I'm just hoping this isn't a sign that she doesn't feel "close" to me.

Sigh...

ldcoffel

Aww. She doesn't hate you. It's just a phase. Just think of the security she feels with her nanny. Sounds like she has a good time. Give it a few weeks and it will be totally different.

beachgirl24

ldcoffel:

Aww. She doesn't hate you. It's just a phase. Just think of the security she feels with her nanny. Sounds like she has a good time. Give it a few weeks and it will be totally different.

 Exactly my thoughts.  I'm sure that's hard, I'm sorry you feel badly but I'm sure your LO loves you and like the PP said this is probably just a phase.   Hang in there!   This too shall pass!  ; )

CheezeFace

Aw.  Don't get too upset over it.  First, as another poster suggested, you know that your child feels safety and love when you aren't able to be with her.  That's priceless.  Second, we have a bit of the same situation in my house. My DS adores his father.  ADORES. I'm chopped liver when Dad is around. NOT kidding.  While it can be bothersome, I just focus on he positive and love watching the two of them together.  I never had a Dad so I think it's pretty darn cool.

 Another friend said she has the same issue and she suggested it could be that bc her DH doesn't do as much of the grubby work - she's a SAHM- that her DD plays with her Dad more.  Mom is more about feeding, diapers, laundry, schedules, etc... She might be on to something.  Your nanny is paid to keep things interesting and fun.  While you have to manage your home, your life, etc...all while taking care of your DD.

cecilyandgautam

She probably doesn't like the transition, not you in particular. 

SweetRachel

My mom watches DD and she totally prefers my mom over me when I pick her up. It's 2 sided....I am glad she is so happy at my moms but at the same time I want her to b as excited to c me as I am here. I knew this would probably happen, I just thought she would b older.