I hate to dump a random rant on random people, but I am feeling exceptionally snarky and I don't think any of my non-TTC friends could even fully grasp how annoying this situation is:
Last night, I got a call from my father in law, who really doesn't call us ever, and he started making small talk. It was awkward for a bit and then he proceed to tell me he just wanted to "throw something out there". He recommended that we try using 'Bodytalk' to help with our fertility. I was absolutely shocked because not only have we not told him that we've been TTC for 2.5 years (not sure how he even knows?), but we barely ever hear from the guy. And now he wants to give me advice on my fertility?
I know that this was well-intentioned, but given the lack of contact/closeness we have, I was almost biting through my toungue. Personally, it always feels like people are implying we know nothing and have tried very little (or that we're doing something wrong). Part of me wants to scream at those well-intentioned advice givers "We're not new to this! We know the options! We've read the research! If we wanted to do that, we'd be doing that!". As I said, I know that's hyper-sensitive and super defensive, and I'm fully aware that most people are simply well-intentioned but ignorant... but it's still the way I feel.
Anyways, I managed to stumble through the conversation and say I'd think about it (because I'm obviously passive aggressive) but I still get pissed just thinking about it. I suppose I'm just looking for some validation out there for a frustrated daughter in law receiving clueless advice from a 50 yr old man.
(BTW, no worries that this is something that will fester and cause grief and tear the family apart or anything, I just like to think I've earned the right to be grumpy about it for a few days)
Reserved a semi-known proven donor in August .
Waiting for consult/screening and protocols with estimated fresh cycle timing in October