Anyone planning a repeat C-section?

AliciaR777

I'm planning on having a repeat C-Section for this LO, since my last labor was a horrible experience & my DD was in serious distress.  After the last few weeks of the worst morning sickness I've ever experienced, I'm seriously considering getting my tubes tied when they take this baby out!  I know it's still super early to start planning for the rest of my life, but I feel like this will be our last baby anyways, so why not have it done. 

I'll be 35 when this baby is born, and the thought of not having to worry about birth control for the rest of my life is very appealing right now!  My DH really wants a boy, but I don't think I could go for 3 if this one is a girl.  He also thinks I'm talking crazy for bringing the topic up so early in the pregnancy. 

Anyone else considering this?  I don't really know if it's 'normal' to start planning on sterilization while pregnant with a planned baby, so any input would be helpful.  I feel like I've already made my mind up, even though my husband isn't 100% on board, and that makes me feel terrible. 

chapmanwedding

If we knew we were done having kids, then yes I would totally consider getting my tubes tied during my c section. (I'll also be a repeat c section this time around) Probably not this time, but talk to me when I'm expecting #3

And I don't think it's weird that you're already thinking abut it, you have many more months to weigh the pros and cons. Just be sure that whatever you do, you consider your dh too. I'd hate for it to come between you two.

BabyPennyluv

I am also having a repeat C-section.  However, I know that I am not done having children after this LO so I won't be getting my tubes tied. 

FWIW, I don't think you are crazy at all for bringing up the topic this early in your pregnancy.  If you know in your heart that you are done having kids than I think it's completely normal for you to be having these thoughts.  Just make sure that whatever you decide to do, you & your DH talk it over & are on the same page before you end up doing something so permanent.  GL with your decision!

MrsJ723

I will be having a repeat c-section, but haven't really thought about permanent birth control.  I had a friend who had her tubes tied after her 3rd baby was born and she said it made her recovery more difficult and she had some swelling, but was happy to have it done.

sweetie645

When I was pregnant with DS2, I was also convinced that I was done.  I even told the doctor I wanted her to tie my tubes when she was in there for the csection.  Something in me made me change my mind though...I was still sure I only wanted 2 kids, but I was only 98% sure instead of 100%.

When DS2 was only 6 weeks old, I realized how much easier having a baby is when you know what you are doing (I had a REALLY hard time with DS1) and I realized that I didn't want him to be my last baby.  

So, here I am, pregnant with #3 and really glad I changed my mind.

That said, I really am done after this one and for sure plan on having my tubes tied this time!

SO, my advice is, if you are 100% sure you don't want more, do it.  But if there is even and inkling of doubt, don't.  

hogrefea

I'm with Kate.  I loved my IUD and it's a five year fix that gives you some time to be absolutely certain.  I am also generally opposed to making any big decisions while pregnant.  I vow to not even change my hairstyle while pregnant.  :-)

AliciaR777

Thanks ladies!  I have quite a few months to make sure this is something I really want to do   In my mind, it makes complete sense to just do it, but I know that I need to consider my DH's wishes as well.  I've told DH that if I don't get my tubes tied & we decide we're done, he's going for the big V.  He's not impressed with that idea, but I can't handle the thought of an oopsie (we're real big on planning things!).   I just want to know that we're absolutely done or that we're absolutely trying for 3.  I dislike the gray area, haha!

maymomma2013

I am having a repeat and plan to talk to my dr about getting my tubes tied. Dh and I are both 100% sure we are done after this one.

I just need more info on the recovery after getting them tied. If it will make it worse I may not do it b/c DH had to go back to work after a week off and I will have two to take care of. Dh is totally fine with getting the big V though.

ansleylibrarian

I had to have an emergency c-section with my son, so I would really like a VBAC this time around. I am not vehemently opposed to another but would like to try a natural birth now. 

stephieCA

You'll have to come back about six weeks after the c-section to have your tubes tied. Most doctors won't do it at the time of c-section because it has a lower success rate that way.  So, you'll have plenty of time to consider your options.  If you aren't sure, I would just go with a non-permanent form of birth control until you are sure.

babyonthebrain2010

I know my OB does it at the same time as a c-section because I was asked last time around if I wanted it done.  I didn't then and I won't this time because right now I'm about 75% sure I don't want to have any more biological children after this one, but I'll only be 27 at the time of delivery and I feel like there is plenty of time for me to change my mind on that. 

Ceefome

I don't think it's too early to be thinking about it.  I'm not planning an RCS, but if I were, and I was sure we were done, I'd definetly give serious thought to having a tubal while they were in there.  I know my OB practice will do it.   DH is on board for a V, so I think that is the route we'll take after this baby is born.  I'll be 36 when this kid arrives.  I can't see myself at 40 with 4 kids 8 and under. 

If you're delivering at a Catholic hospital, they won't do it (obviously). 

Essure is also a permanent type of birth control that can be done in your doctor's office, should a tubal not be in the cards.  I hadn't seen anyone mention it, so I thought I'd throw it out there. 

lumosmaxima

sorry, edited to delete post meant for a different topic! (embarrassed)