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April 2012 Moms
These are my terms... unreasonable?
So I work >full time while DH stays home. I BF. DD does not sleep through the night. She wakes around 1 am and again between 4-6am (just in time to feed her before I go to work).
DH wants to move DD from our room to her room. I don't want to, because it is easier just to reach over and grab her to feed her. So here are my terms:
my email:
When she wakes for her feeding. YOU will go upstairs, get her, and bring her to me to feed. When she is done, YOU will take her and put her back to sleep in the crib. You don't decide when to get her, I do. I will wake you up. And you will be pleasant, and not an @sshole.
If you do not agree to these terms, or you don't follow them, she stays in the bedroom.
Unreasonable?
PS: He thinks I should wake up, go to the nursery, feed her in the rocker, come back to bed.
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Re: These are my terms... unreasonable?
O RLY?
Well alright dear.
Allllll of this.
LOL! Okay.
I might have this viewpoint if a MOTN feeding didn't involve stairs. Or, a diaper change. I always change when they wake.
Maybe a good compromise would be to alternate nights. DH and I alternate nights up, but we're both working outside of the home. And, I FF.
Yes, you should do what he wants and then make him a sandwich. Or lots of sandwiches.
Lots and lots of sandwiches and smiles. Don't be botherin' him with your woman woes, woman!
Heh
I meant the "you will do this" "you will do that" "don't be an assh*le" stuff. I'm not saying you're being unreasonable (you are 100% correct in your demands, especially since you're the one working and he's home all day), I just would never talk to my husband like that. It just seems very degrading towards him.
This. I think he'd get the point without passive-aggressive caps.
He thinks she will STTN without me there to automatically put her on the boob. I think she is genuinely hungry with the voracity she attacks the boob.
Also, I know it is worded direct or harsh, but that is the best way to communicate with him.
AlsoAlso, I seriously LOLed at making him sandwiches.
Ohhhhh, so if this is the reason (and you want LO in your room), I think it should be his SOLE responsibility to fetch LO for you! He'll change his mind right quick!
Whoa, whoa, whoa... I may be wrong but it seemed like the issue was with how things were said, not what her demands are (which I think is reasonable)
Phew! Good thing you aren't married to him.
Lol, I guess so. Every relationship works differently and each couple communicate differently.
Yes, but OP was asking if her demands were unreasonable...not if the way she was speaking to her husband was appropriate in others' eyes.
What I think is that if you like to talk to your husband in a certain way that is cool. To tell another woman that the way she talks to her husband might be "degrading" to him is bullsh!t.
LOL. I am obsessed with that game show.
I agree. I feel it comes off a bit sanctimonious.
I agree! He can go get the baby, thats fine but the way you say it is atrocious! I would never talk to my husband like that out if pure love and respect. If he talked to me like that I would leave him. But we've got this thing called love between us and it makes us be nice to each other.
Do it, do it, do it!