I told MIL yesterday that my husband and I want some time (an hour or so) alone with baby before we have visitors. And...a direct quote....she said "I think that's very weird. Maybe not weird...odd." UM, it's the same effing word! Oh my gosh, I absolutely LOST it! Is that weird that we want some time before we have visitors?
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Re: MIL Vent-Am I being unreasonable?!?
Nah, I don't think you're being unreasonable.
A friend wanted the same thing and had in-laws who were pushing to be there ASAP after the baby was born. She explained to them that the hospital had a skin-to-skin policy for 1-2 hours after the baby is born, and that visitors were discouraged at that time to allow the new parents time to bond with the newborn. That seemed to work for her, and her in-laws didn't show up until after they were prompted to come.
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On the phone....?? Now that's weird.
I don't think it's unreasonable. Although I can see that she might react weird if she didn't know this until you're already 39 weeks. (I think maybe she'd feel disappointed if she thought otherwise and not know how to react.)
Or maybe you've told her a bunch of times and she's just wacky.
Not weird at all... in fact, I think it's weird/odd that your MIL thinks that!
DH and I aren't having any visitors at the hospital; we made that clear to everyone. The only people who we want at the hospital besides us, of course, are my mom and DH's mom... and both are clear that when baby arrives, we will dictate when they can visit. Everyone else can wait.
She sounds ridiculous. NO one, including DH and the doctor, held DD for the first hour, much less visitors coming in. I didn't have clothes on for the first hour. We cuddled and then I breastfed.
Granted, the only reason I had visitors that first NIGHT were because I wanted DS to meet his sister as soon as possible.
Good idea.
Yes, it is, I laughed out loud at that idea.
You aren't being unreasonable one bit!! Stick to your guns...
This sounds like my MIL! I told my family that I only want DH in the room until we are all done with BFing and everything (about an hour or so after delivery) for bonding time. This last week he did mention that having my mom in there would not be a bad idea since this is our first and he wants to make sure I have all the support I need and he isn't sure how he will handle it. I KNOW my MIL will hate not being present... she's already mentioned how she's seen the births of all her grandchildren... but I'm not her daughter! She will just have to get over it and wait like everyone else. I will allow her and my dad to enter first, before friends etc., but definitely not until after DH and I have bonded with LO. It's my body, my labor, and my baby. End of story.
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HAHA!!!! Exactly!!! This made me laugh out loud! Thanks for the giggles!