Waiting to adopt check in- 09/03

jillianmb

This is a place for anyone in the waiting-to-adopt phase to check in.  Lurkers welcome! Whether you're still checking out different agencies and programs or you're bringing your child home tomorrow, this is for you! 

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? 

2) In what phase of the process are you? 

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?

4) How are you feeling this week?

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family?

Ginger71

jillianmb:

 

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages?  We are doing domestic infant

2) In what phase of the process are you?  We are HS approved and have been waiting since 6/4/12

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? nothing adoption related

4) How are you feeling this week? I've been feeling anxious and a little depressed. I had stopped posting on the boards and I think I was missing the support-giving and receiving. So thankful we have a place to connect.

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family? We kept it low key and tackled some projects arond the house in prep for the colder weather, I do feel like we will at leaset be matched by this time next year. I was starting my last IVF cycle this time last year and we have come such a long way.

cogbot

jillianmb:

 

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages?

domestic infant adoption or toddler adoption from foster care 

2) In what phase of the process are you? 

waiting 11 months 

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?

not really

4) How are you feeling this week?

I start the pre-op diet for lap band surgery this week.  Surgery is set for Sept 20th.  I'm getting nervous and excited.

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family?

 

I'm going to a picnic at my mother-in-laws this afternoon.   I hope this is the last baby-less labor day  

jmoka7

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? Foster to adopt ages 2 months to 9 years.2) In what phase of the process are you?  Waiting for my first placement call. 3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? Meeting with my FYS caseworker and the director of the agency.4) How are you feeling this week?Very anxious and a little scaredl. I'm just worried about where I'll be at when I get my first call and about getting them registered for daycare and/or school.  

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family?

My Labor Day celebration is being lazy and doing some extra cleaning since it's a three day weekend. I do feel like it's my last Labor Day before a placement. I was told to be ready this weekend, so it's just a matter of time! 

DaisyZH

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages?

Adoption from Foster Care, 0-3ish

2) In what phase of the process are you?

Very beginning - research and reading
 

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?

I finished reading "One Small Boat" a personal story by a foster mom about her foster and adoption experiences - very good, she is such a good writer

4) How are you feeling this week?

Pretty good : )

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family?

We went to a museum, very fun!  I don't think we'll have a new addition by next Labor Day, but I guess it could happen!

srmmm09

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? 

IA from Uganda; younger than DS 

2) In what phase of the process are you? 

waiting on our 171H - I want it to come nooowwwww. But I don't expect it to. 

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?

Nope. 

4) How are you feeling this week?

Whale (imagine that as a "well" in a southern accent), I just got freaked out by a woman who's adopting from Uganda with a different agency. They were originally told 6 months, then at 6 months they were told another 6 months, and now they're at a year of waiting and they're still only #6 on the wait list. I don't know if they're wanting a baby or if the baby's home is really small, or what's going on. I'm just now kind of afraid of waiting more than twice as long as the agency estimates - I don't think I can do that!

you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family?

I hope it's our last labor day without baby A, but we'll see. IA is unpredictable, especially in countries like Uganda.

crene84

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? Domestic Infant Adoption

2) In what phase of the process are you?  Matched, waiting for our baby to arrive

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? I am pretty excited that our BM is starting to be very responsive and helpful.  I was worried we might not hear from her again until she went into labor but we've had several e-mails back and forth the past few days. 

4) How are you feeling this week? I am feeling very anxious and excited.  I can't believe our baby is due in 2 weeks.  Mostly I can't wait, but part of me is overwhelmed by the process and worrying things won't go as planned.

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family? If this match works out, this will be our last childless Labor Day! I have already been thinking about how my next Halloween, my next Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc..I will have a baby!

Foster1Mom

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? 

Foster 0-6

2) In what phase of the process are you? 

Licensed

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?

Placement of 5 week old little boy. 

4) How are you feeling this week?

Last almost 48 hrs...sleepy...LOL

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family?

We have had several family stop by to see little J. DH's aunt is bringing dinner. Thank goodness. 

 

ellekae

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? 

Domestic infant 

2) In what phase of the process are you? 

Pre home study  

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?

Got the first on many clearances back in the mail this week! 

4) How are you feeling this week?

A little sad... Spent the weekend with family, and now I am sad tha we live so far away from them. Boo! We have to pay off a lot of edu debt before we can move, so I have to be patient for 5 or 6 years...

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family? 

Got some pics taken of DD and my nephew for my mom & dad... Hung out with my sisters and cousin at the mall, and then drove back to the 'burgh... 4 hours on the Turnpike!  

Rachel Sonnier

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? DIA 0-6 months or a sibling group younger than 3 2) In what phase of the process are you?  waiting to find out if our HS has been approved 3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?not this week 4) How are you feeling this week?pretty good, just waiting and crafting :-) 5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family?YIKES! Hopefully so, but I really have no clue. I know that some families that already have children wait longer, so we are prepared to have a year+ wait. 

jackieo1309

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? 

Domestic infant adoption 

2) In what phase of the process are you?  

Homestudy approved 6/28 and final version of our dear birthmother letter was approved. We're waiting for them to approve the hard-copy proof of our letter so we can be actively waiting. 

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?

The final version of our letter was approved last week! 

4) How are you feeling this week?

Impatient. I'm happy that we finally have a finalized copy of our letter but I just wish this would have happened 2 months ago. I'm finding it so hard to be patient because I feel like the agency had drawn out this process for WAY too long. 

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family?

We went to Boston this weekend and came back today. We haven't been back since we moved back to NY 6 months ago so it was nice to see some friends and eat at some of our favorite restaurants. I do feel like we'll have a little one by next Labor Day but, obviously, we have no idea! 

jillianmb

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? International / Russia / 2 y.o boy

2) In what phase of the process are you?  Just got our court date assigned!!  We will be traveling back to Russia the second week of October!! (second of three trips)

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? See #2

4) How are you feeling this week?Great since we got our court date!  We bought our flight tickets right away and have just about finished securing our accommodations.  Everything is moving right along.

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family? We did some house projects and went downtown for a coffee and a stroll.  There is a splash pad downtown where we live and DH and I both remarked about how we can't wait to take our little man there next summer to play!

lizlemmon19

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? Adoption from foster care, 2 sibs under 5

2) In what phase of the process are you?  Finally approved offically! On our 2nd call!

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? We are on our second "call." Sadly, we had to say no to the 1st call.  This call is about a 1 and 3 year old! We also looked at a daycare, and had a car seat demonstration at the police department.

4) How are you feeling this week?Feeling really positive!

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family? Had a BBQ at the IL's.  There were lots of kids there.  Hopefully we will have 2 at the next one.

IRR

jillianmb:

A day late since I have been traveling...

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? 

Newborn, domestic, 

2) In what phase of the process are you?  matched and waiting for a December baby. 

3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate?  

Finally had a conversation with our BM today.  Hadn't spoken to her in over 5 weeks and was getting concerned when she didn't return my call. 

4) How are you feeling this week?

 After talking to T today, feeling better.  Didn't ask her about her last U/S but everything looked better than the 20 week one so I finally have a little less stress.

5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family?

 It has been some weekend.  Carter's had a 50% off sale off of everything in the store, so DH and I went to buy a few things for our trip to IL for Baby P.  We now have onesies, PJ's, the cutest snowsuit, some swaddling blankets and an outfit for court.  Then I headed out out to Denver to meet a friend of mine who was driving from New Mexico back to CT. I left her in Pittsburgh this morning so that I could work this afternoon.  1,500 miles in two days.

slndr042305

1) What kind of adoption/fostering are you doing? Ages? Domestic infant2) In what phase of the process are you?  Almost signed up with agency #3...hopefully will be active with them in a week or so.
 3) Any recent accomplishments or milestones to celebrate? I made it through a 3 day vacay at the beach with 2couples, their toddlers and one announcing expecting #2 w/out losing it. Lol. It's still hard to stomach the pregnancy announcements even after 4 yrs of trying, IF and waiting...4) How are you feeling this week? So-so. Frustrated, little sad. Being around such fertile people brings back a little feeling of loss. But also grateful for my hubby. We've been through a ton and I couldnt do it w/out him.5) QOTW: What did you do for labor day celebrations? Anyone have a feeling like this was your last labor day before a new addition is welcomed into your family?  Beach w/ hubby and friends. I hope this is my last Labor day w/out kids!