My SIL lets her toddler play with home items: safe kitchen tools, books, etc. She's not a fan of having tons of toys all around (I don't blame her) and since DS loves regular household items, she just lets him play with those.
Here's the problem. He's allowed to open cabinets and drawers at home (she puts the dangerous items higher up) but obviously when he goes to other people's homes, he does it there too (I haven't baby-proofed my drawers). So when he's here, we're constantly telling him 'No" even though he's allowed to do the same act at home.
Also, sometimes she'll put her phone or computer on a safe mode and let him play with it, but when she's working on her laptop, he obviously can't mess with it.
My question: I personally feel like this could be confusing for a child. To be allowed to do something at one house, but not another, and to be allowed to 'play' with something now, but not later.
What do you all think? Any experience from STMs? Even though I'm not a fan of brightly lit toys, I do think I want to have designated toys and clear boundaries about what they can and cannot play with, even if what they want to play with is 'safe'.