Why keep a name a secret (until the birth)?

jamdv3

Worcbride:

salt78:

I guess I can see why some people wouldn't want to listen to other peoples' opinions on it, but we didn't keep it a secret because

A) I love the name so I don't give a crap what other people think. If someone didn't like it, it's not like it would have affected my decision.

I didn't care about the whole 'element of surprise' thing. I'm sure people wouldn't have been hanging on to the edges of their seats waiting to find out what name we had chosen anyway. I'm super excited for my friend to have her boy in a couple months, but I certainly haven't lost any sleep over waiting to find out what his name is.

 

I like how you worded this--at times I find it over-indulgent (and I'm talking from a personal perspective/someone I know)...like the mom did want people to lose sleep over it/it was an attention thing

I can see how it might seem that way with some people, but with us, this wasn't the case. I was not comfortable telling people what we were thinking because I knew their opinions would start flowing out of their mouths, and I didn't want any of that. THe fact of the matter is that I DO care enough of what other people think to be hurt by their comments, so I made sure that DH was not allowed to tell people. Plus, we typically don't settle on names until the very end. That, combined with being team green anyway, makes it easier not to tell.  I definitely understand that people could probably care less what I'm going to name my baby, and that their world does not revolve around my kid. Which is all good, because that would be creepy.