I'm WAY further along than I thought.

Ami117

I swear the craziness never ends with me. My Dr. calls to tell me that he wants me to come in to review some test results. My. heart. sank. I rushed over and he sits me down to tell me that the test for down syndrome is coming back positive but upon further review they believe that its because my dating is off and that can cause false test results. OK???!!! So my question. How far am I off? The ultrasound tech proceeds to tell me that according to measurements I'm approx 34 weeks. WHAAAAAT? I thought I was 25 weeks. NOT 34 weeks. So besides the fact that my due date is now literally around the corner theres another hug problem. That changes who the father is. I don't even know how to deal with this. My baby shower is also this Sunday. I'm thinking it needs to be canceled... How the hell do I go about telling everyone and confronting the REAL father. I'm flippin sh*t right now. 

jellolz

ummm...

 

good luck with all that. 

melissascarfone

Breathe.  Breathe.  Breathe.  I can feel your anxiety through the post --> which is perfectly normal considering what's at stake here...not giving you a hard time but just trying to remind you to breathe with it all as it comes.  That's all you can really do anyways..panicking won't make it easier or less "sticky".  One thing at a time.  Are they sure about the timing?  If not 100%, then, don't cancel shower or anything yet.  If yes, just sit with it for a moment or two..the baby shower event is the least of things really in the full spectrum. Plus, I want to add that you will not be the first person in the history of pregnancies to be dealing with this.  SERIOUSLY!  REMEMBER THAT!

It's important that you keep somewhat calm and support yourself however that may look.  Hang in there honey!

 

boymomstrong

So your off by 9 weeks? That means when you went in for your first appointment you were not pregnant yet...

I dont think you can be off by THAT much, did you get an anatomy scan at 20 weeks? And what did they say then? Did you have a monster baby?

Late term ultrasounds are often VERY wrong on dating, and at 25 weeks you should be having an amnio to tell about downs, I believe the u/s are around 12 for the screening...

I think there is a lot of info missing... Can you fill in the gaps?

PenelopePond

kfdecarie:

So your off by 9 weeks? That means when you went in for your first appointment you were not pregnant yet...

I dont think you can be off by THAT much, did you get an anatomy scan at 20 weeks? And what did they say then? Did you have a monster baby?

Late term ultrasounds are often VERY wrong on dating, and at 25 weeks you should be having an amnio to tell about downs, I believe the u/s are around 12 for the screening...

I think there is a lot of info missing... Can you fill in the gaps?

No, when she went for her first appointment she was nine weeks further than she thought. So if she thought she was eight weeks she was actually seventeen weeks.

Ami117

melissascarfone:

Breathe.  Breathe.  Breathe.  I can feel your anxiety through the post --> which is perfectly normal considering what's at stake here...not giving you a hard time but just trying to remind you to breathe with it all as it comes.  That's all you can really do anyways..panicking won't make it easier or less "sticky".  One thing at a time.  Are they sure about the timing?  If not 100%, then, don't cancel shower or anything yet.  If yes, just sit with it for a moment or two..the baby shower event is the least of things really in the full spectrum. Plus, I want to add that you will not be the first person in the history of pregnancies to be dealing with this.  SERIOUSLY!  REMEMBER THAT!

It's important that you keep somewhat calm and support yourself however that may look.  Hang in there honey!

 

I'm trying to calm down and just sort everything out. I know things will turn out fine its just so much at once. Thank you.

 

 

Ami117

AndreaR1983:

kfdecarie:

So your off by 9 weeks? That means when you went in for your first appointment you were not pregnant yet...

I dont think you can be off by THAT much, did you get an anatomy scan at 20 weeks? And what did they say then? Did you have a monster baby?

Late term ultrasounds are often VERY wrong on dating, and at 25 weeks you should be having an amnio to tell about downs, I believe the u/s are around 12 for the screening...

I think there is a lot of info missing... Can you fill in the gaps?

No, when she went for her first appointment she was nine weeks further than she thought. So if she thought she was eight weeks she was actually seventeen weeks.

This exactly. I Went for my first appt when I was 18 weeks (well I thought I was). I only waited so long because I didnt have insurance yet. The following week I went in for an ultrasound. She tech mentions that he was a little larger than expected but NEVER mentioned that I could be off on dates. Its not anything I ever thought about because I knew exactly when my last MP was and she didnt really say anything beyond that he was a little large.

 

Also, both myself and my younger brother were very large babies so I just thought it was normal for my family.  

boymomstrong

AndreaR1983:

kfdecarie:

So your off by 9 weeks? That means when you went in for your first appointment you were not pregnant yet...

I dont think you can be off by THAT much, did you get an anatomy scan at 20 weeks? And what did they say then? Did you have a monster baby?

Late term ultrasounds are often VERY wrong on dating, and at 25 weeks you should be having an amnio to tell about downs, I believe the u/s are around 12 for the screening...

I think there is a lot of info missing... Can you fill in the gaps?

No, when she went for her first appointment she was nine weeks further than she thought. So if she thought she was eight weeks she was actually seventeen weeks.

OH that makes total sense! 8 week fetus' and 17 week fetus' look identical on ultrasounds... I can see the confusion now....

kelnyc

boymomstrong

Ami117:

AndreaR1983:

kfdecarie:

So your off by 9 weeks? That means when you went in for your first appointment you were not pregnant yet...

I dont think you can be off by THAT much, did you get an anatomy scan at 20 weeks? And what did they say then? Did you have a monster baby?

Late term ultrasounds are often VERY wrong on dating, and at 25 weeks you should be having an amnio to tell about downs, I believe the u/s are around 12 for the screening...

I think there is a lot of info missing... Can you fill in the gaps?

No, when she went for her first appointment she was nine weeks further than she thought. So if she thought she was eight weeks she was actually seventeen weeks.

This exactly. I Went for my first appt when I was 18 weeks (well I thought I was). I only waited so long because I didnt have insurance yet. The following week I went in for an ultrasound. She tech mentions that he was a little larger than expected but NEVER mentioned that I could be off on dates. Its not anything I ever thought about because I knew exactly when my last MP was and she didnt really say anything beyond that he was a little large.

Also, both myself and my younger brother were very large babies so I just thought it was normal for my family.  

There is a difference btwn a little large and 4 lbs! And if you know when your period was and the us tech had measurements that lined up with that, its most likely accurate.

Did you doc say what they want to do? What if he is wrong? What it they induce you at your new 42 weeks and your really only 33 weeks along?

Sounds like you need an amnio to clear this up ASAP.... And a second opinion.

Also you said in another post you started to feel baby around 17 weeks, if you were 9 weeks farther long than you thought.... Can you see how the math is just not working here?

Get a second opinion, and dont make any rash decisions until you do....

Grins04

Umm...wow.

Does your doctor only do one ultrasound at 20ish weeks?  I know this is the case for some people, but it seems to be less common these days.

If they did an ultrasound in first tri then they really should be going by that ultrasound....

 

KacieLeigh

kfdecarie:

AndreaR1983:

kfdecarie:

So your off by 9 weeks? That means when you went in for your first appointment you were not pregnant yet...

I dont think you can be off by THAT much, did you get an anatomy scan at 20 weeks? And what did they say then? Did you have a monster baby?

Late term ultrasounds are often VERY wrong on dating, and at 25 weeks you should be having an amnio to tell about downs, I believe the u/s are around 12 for the screening...

I think there is a lot of info missing... Can you fill in the gaps?

No, when she went for her first appointment she was nine weeks further than she thought. So if she thought she was eight weeks she was actually seventeen weeks.

OH that makes total sense! 8 week fetus' and 17 week fetus' look identical on ultrasounds... I can see the confusion now....

I think she's saying she didn't have insurance, and the a/s was her first ultrasound.  She was basing the dates off of (what she thought was) her LMP.

Although this entire thing screams of MUD.   

Grins04

KacieLeigh:

kfdecarie:

AndreaR1983:

kfdecarie:

So your off by 9 weeks? That means when you went in for your first appointment you were not pregnant yet...

I dont think you can be off by THAT much, did you get an anatomy scan at 20 weeks? And what did they say then? Did you have a monster baby?

Late term ultrasounds are often VERY wrong on dating, and at 25 weeks you should be having an amnio to tell about downs, I believe the u/s are around 12 for the screening...

I think there is a lot of info missing... Can you fill in the gaps?

No, when she went for her first appointment she was nine weeks further than she thought. So if she thought she was eight weeks she was actually seventeen weeks.

OH that makes total sense! 8 week fetus' and 17 week fetus' look identical on ultrasounds... I can see the confusion now....

I think she's saying she didn't have insurance, and the a/s was her first ultrasound.  She was basing the dates off of (what she thought was) her LMP.

Although this entire thing screams of MUD.   

 

Ami117

kfdecarie:

Ami117:

AndreaR1983:

kfdecarie:

So your off by 9 weeks? That means when you went in for your first appointment you were not pregnant yet...

I dont think you can be off by THAT much, did you get an anatomy scan at 20 weeks? And what did they say then? Did you have a monster baby?

Late term ultrasounds are often VERY wrong on dating, and at 25 weeks you should be having an amnio to tell about downs, I believe the u/s are around 12 for the screening...

I think there is a lot of info missing... Can you fill in the gaps?

No, when she went for her first appointment she was nine weeks further than she thought. So if she thought she was eight weeks she was actually seventeen weeks.

This exactly. I Went for my first appt when I was 18 weeks (well I thought I was). I only waited so long because I didnt have insurance yet. The following week I went in for an ultrasound. She tech mentions that he was a little larger than expected but NEVER mentioned that I could be off on dates. Its not anything I ever thought about because I knew exactly when my last MP was and she didnt really say anything beyond that he was a little large.

Also, both myself and my younger brother were very large babies so I just thought it was normal for my family.  

There is a difference btwn a little large and 4 lbs! And if you know when your period was and the us tech had measurements that lined up with that, its most likely accurate.

Did you doc say what they want to do? What if he is wrong? What it they induce you at your new 42 weeks and your really only 33 weeks along?

Sounds like you need an amnio to clear this up ASAP.... And a second opinion.

Also you said in another post you started to feel baby around 17 weeks, if you were 9 weeks farther long than you thought.... Can you see how the math is just not working here?

Get a second opinion, and dont make any rash decisions until you do....

Ugh. I know I need to see another doctor. I'm scheduling an appt first thing in the morning.  

Ami117

Grins04:

Umm...wow.

Does your doctor only do one ultrasound at 20ish weeks?  I know this is the case for some people, but it seems to be less common these days.

If they did an ultrasound in first tri then they really should be going by that ultrasound....

 

Yes and my insurance only covers one ultrasound unless they find that something could be wrong with the baby. I don't know if they'd make an exception in this case but I will surely check into it.  

boymomstrong

kelnyc:

Love!

judahsmommy1

I don't think it necessarily screams MUD. I've seen things like this happen before. OP, I agree about the second opinion. Trying to date off of an ultrasound done at 25 weeks is very difficult and not likely to be very accurate. Good luck!

boymomstrong

KacieLeigh:

kfdecarie:

AndreaR1983:

kfdecarie:

So your off by 9 weeks? That means when you went in for your first appointment you were not pregnant yet...

I dont think you can be off by THAT much, did you get an anatomy scan at 20 weeks? And what did they say then? Did you have a monster baby?

Late term ultrasounds are often VERY wrong on dating, and at 25 weeks you should be having an amnio to tell about downs, I believe the u/s are around 12 for the screening...

I think there is a lot of info missing... Can you fill in the gaps?

No, when she went for her first appointment she was nine weeks further than she thought. So if she thought she was eight weeks she was actually seventeen weeks.

OH that makes total sense! 8 week fetus' and 17 week fetus' look identical on ultrasounds... I can see the confusion now....

I think she's saying she didn't have insurance, and the a/s was her first ultrasound.  She was basing the dates off of (what she thought was) her LMP.

Although this entire thing screams of MUD.   

I was being sarcastic....

HrH33RN

MUD

wypadek

AprilAngie

jellolz:

ummm...

 

good luck with all that. 

 

 

mlf625

Right.  And I have a magical flying unicorn in my belly!

Sillygirl85

I can't believe there is anyone who doesn't think this is mud.

AprilAngie

SarahW44:

I can't believe there is anyone who doesn't think this is mud.

 

I think we all think it is MUD!  

bigbootyjudi

byrne15

MUD is fun!

JayandEmm

ThePolishHammer

Oh.

BabyShipp

Ami117:

I swear the craziness never ends with me. My Dr. calls to tell me that he wants me to come in to review some test results. My. heart. sank. I rushed over and he sits me down to tell me that the test for down syndrome is coming back positive but upon further review they believe that its because my dating is off and that can cause false test results. OK???!!! So my question. How far am I off? The ultrasound tech proceeds to tell me that according to measurements I'm approx 34 weeks. WHAAAAAT? I thought I was 25 weeks. NOT 34 weeks. So besides the fact that my due date is now literally around the corner theres another hug problem. That changes who the father is. I don't even know how to deal with this. My baby shower is also this Sunday. I'm thinking it needs to be canceled... How the hell do I go about telling everyone and confronting the REAL father. I'm flippin sh*t right now. 

I love hugs and hate it when I have hug problems.   You should elaborate on it, I think you forgot to in your OP.  

ShelbehhRawrr

mollybloom

Ami117:

I swear the craziness never ends with me. My Dr. calls to tell me that he wants me to come in to review some test results. My. heart. sank. I rushed over and he sits me down to tell me that the test for down syndrome is coming back positive but upon further review they believe that its because my dating is off and that can cause false test results. OK???!!! So my question. How far am I off? The ultrasound tech proceeds to tell me that according to measurements I'm approx 34 weeks. WHAAAAAT? I thought I was 25 weeks. NOT 34 weeks. So besides the fact that my due date is now literally around the corner theres another hug problem. That changes who the father is. I don't even know how to deal with this. My baby shower is also this Sunday. I'm thinking it needs to be canceled... How the hell do I go about telling everyone and confronting the REAL father. I'm flippin sh*t right now. 

I usually laugh at MUD, but I think this MUD is disgusting.

As someone whose DD had 5 soft markers during the anatomy scan, I don't think it is ever okay to joke about Down Syndrome or any other health issues. We went through hell and back waiting the 10 days for the amnio results to come back normal. Then we had to wait until she was born to see if there were issues that aren't tested for with the amnio.

You want to make your life a Maury show and entertain us with the MUD, fine. But, it is pretty fuckings low to bring Down Syndrome into it.

Jessfulller

Thank You for that. I made a comment months ago you can check on my board about how if people really waste their time with MUD why make a poke at genetic disorders. I actually had women reply " so what" like it was no big deal. Why would you willingly make fun of a child with any abnormality whatsoever. If this is true its unfortuante and if its MUD its frankly disgusting. And people who make this crap up I hope they scrub toilets the rest of their life.

judahsmommy1

I know that I've seen some messed up things, but I'm honestly not convinced this is MUD. Other than that this situation sounds bizarre are there other things that are making people think this is MUD? This type of thing doesn't happen very often, but it DOES happen and doing the A/S out of the normal range could cause "markers" to come up that would indicate genetic disorders if the scan were done in the correct range, but in reality are just different because the scan was done at the wrong time.

People who post MUD usually come back on the board a billion times to crank up the crazy level and prod people who are giving the reaction that they want. This particular poster has also posted about other things related to this situation. (The fact that she'll be a single parent, that her parents aren't supportive, etc...) If this is MUD (and I'm not convinced it is) then you're right it's disgusting to bring genetic disorders into it. (Although, really what would you expect from a troll/MUD poster?) I'm not convinced either way honestly. 

tinyhumantoe

kfdecarie:

KacieLeigh:

kfdecarie:

AndreaR1983:

kfdecarie:

So your off by 9 weeks? That means when you went in for your first appointment you were not pregnant yet...

I dont think you can be off by THAT much, did you get an anatomy scan at 20 weeks? And what did they say then? Did you have a monster baby?

Late term ultrasounds are often VERY wrong on dating, and at 25 weeks you should be having an amnio to tell about downs, I believe the u/s are around 12 for the screening...

I think there is a lot of info missing... Can you fill in the gaps?

No, when she went for her first appointment she was nine weeks further than she thought. So if she thought she was eight weeks she was actually seventeen weeks.

OH that makes total sense! 8 week fetus' and 17 week fetus' look identical on ultrasounds... I can see the confusion now....

I think she's saying she didn't have insurance, and the a/s was her first ultrasound.  She was basing the dates off of (what she thought was) her LMP.

Although this entire thing screams of MUD.   

I was being sarcastic....

Um.... Pretty sure everyone caught your sarcasm.  You're still not acknowledging your backwards maff in your first post...... And you still don't get it.  She didn't ever go to the doctor until her a/s and that is when they discovered she was much further along than she thought based on her calculations. 

judahsmommy1

tinyhumantoe:

kfdecarie:

KacieLeigh:

kfdecarie:

AndreaR1983:

kfdecarie:

So your off by 9 weeks? That means when you went in for your first appointment you were not pregnant yet...

I dont think you can be off by THAT much, did you get an anatomy scan at 20 weeks? And what did they say then? Did you have a monster baby?

Late term ultrasounds are often VERY wrong on dating, and at 25 weeks you should be having an amnio to tell about downs, I believe the u/s are around 12 for the screening...

I think there is a lot of info missing... Can you fill in the gaps?

No, when she went for her first appointment she was nine weeks further than she thought. So if she thought she was eight weeks she was actually seventeen weeks.

OH that makes total sense! 8 week fetus' and 17 week fetus' look identical on ultrasounds... I can see the confusion now....

I think she's saying she didn't have insurance, and the a/s was her first ultrasound.  She was basing the dates off of (what she thought was) her LMP.

Although this entire thing screams of MUD.   

I was being sarcastic....

Um.... Pretty sure everyone caught your sarcasm.  You're still not acknowledging your backwards maff in your first post...... And you still don't get it.  She didn't ever go to the doctor until her a/s and that is when they discovered she was much further along than she thought based on her calculations. 

This.  I have been present at ultrasounds where a woman thought she was 8 weeks pregnant and turned out to be 16 weeks. If you only have 1 ultrasound in your pregnancy and that gets scheduled late, and you miscalculate when your LMP was (it happens more frequently than you might think) this particular situation is actually very possible. I have seen women who are convinced that they are "very regular" and they're actually two months further along than they expected to be because they have break through bleeding during their early pregnancy that they mistake for a period.  I've also been present where a new date changes who the father is... those are awkward if the guy who winds up not being the father is actually present.

 

jesseandabi

SharkFarts:

 

OMG...my FAVORITE gif EVER!!!
HAHA

FezzesAreCool

mollybloom:

Ami117:

I swear the craziness never ends with me. My Dr. calls to tell me that he wants me to come in to review some test results. My. heart. sank. I rushed over and he sits me down to tell me that the test for down syndrome is coming back positive but upon further review they believe that its because my dating is off and that can cause false test results. OK???!!! So my question. How far am I off? The ultrasound tech proceeds to tell me that according to measurements I'm approx 34 weeks. WHAAAAAT? I thought I was 25 weeks. NOT 34 weeks. So besides the fact that my due date is now literally around the corner theres another hug problem. That changes who the father is. I don't even know how to deal with this. My baby shower is also this Sunday. I'm thinking it needs to be canceled... How the hell do I go about telling everyone and confronting the REAL father. I'm flippin sh*t right now. 

I usually laugh at MUD, but I think this MUD is disgusting.

As someone whose DD had 5 soft markers during the anatomy scan, I don't think it is ever okay to joke about Down Syndrome or any other health issues. We went through hell and back waiting the 10 days for the amnio results to come back normal. Then we had to wait until she was born to see if there were issues that aren't tested for with the amnio.

You want to make your life a Maury show and entertain us with the MUD, fine. But, it is pretty fuckings low to bring Down Syndrome into it.

I think you're turkeying this ribbon, molly. 

Ami117

Well I appreciate everyone's input. The gifs made me laugh so thanks for that. I need laughs today while 'm doing major damage control. If you think its MUD that's fine. I have no reason to prove anything to anyone. And to the poster who thinks I'm poking fun at genetic disorders, you are insane. No where did I do any such thing. 

pinitbaby

I'm not really sure what to think..but I would get over the fact of the baby being farther along than I thought and start worrying about the fact that my baby could have downs The baby daddy thing, well you will just have to figure that out and get it settled sooner than later. Good Luck

grr_aargh

I'm confused. 

Your ticker says 25 weeks, yes?

But in this post: https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/64199189.aspx#ctl00_mcr_ctl00___PostRepeater_ctl11_DivPost

you say you just found out you were 16 weeks along.  By my calculations, if you were 16 weeks on March 8th (3 days prior to the post) . . . you would be 36 weeks pregnant now.

Right?   

So if you JUST had an u/s and discovered that you're measuring at 34 weeks, I'd say your baby's just small from all of the cocaine you did back in January.  No worries.

Good luck with your impending L&D!  Guess this explains your contractions the other day.  Warm up! 

Kitiara5512

All I noticed is that this changes who the father is.