FFFC

alove4chevys

I just heard about the shooting and it prompted my fffc. I HATE GUNS!! OK, I dont hate guns but hate some people who are allowed to carry them or use them. There is no way to stop people from having them but I wish there were. As a wife of a husband who has alot of them I understand the appeal but it still pisses me off that people use them in killing people...innocent people.

KellyR33486

I think that if you need to lie to your pediatrician you need to find a new one. 

My parents paid for my undergrad tuition and my wedding and part of my grad school tuition.  I also got a 75% scholarship. They also did they same for my younger siblings.  I plan on doing at least that for my son if not more.    

alber2am

Stakerz21:

My FFFC... I still nurse my daughter in the middle of the night 2-3 times. Our DR has told me to stop, but I haven't.... When we go back next month, I am considering lying to her about it to avoid the lecture.

I nurse my son 1-2 times/night, I thought that was normal. 

hockeyfan42

I lied to my bridezilla friend about A being sick in order to get out of traveling 5hrs to her shower.  I feel bad for the lie, but saving the $200+ in gas, food & gift costs was worth it.  

alove4chevys

ccip82:

hlc...I hate small talk too! I also hate the whole eye contact thing because I always think I'm I making too much eye contact or too little...I'm so weird!

Lol to the microwave, it was a reminder to clean mine. I never remember to do that and it's so gross cause we use ours a lot! 

I am the same way girls, I immediately look down and will not engage in small talk. I loathe it. I avoid it at all costs. I have a hard time meeting people and sometimes I wonder if I scare people because I am too forward and try to have a real conversation right up front lol.

kwinkle1980

KellyR33486:

I think that if you need to lie to your pediatrician you need to find a new one. 

My parents paid for my undergrad tuition and my wedding and part of my grad school tuition.  I also got a 75% scholarship. They also did they same for my younger siblings.  I plan on doing at least that for my son if not more.    

That is great if you are able to. I think we are throwing our stories out there in response to the posts about how it is irresponsible not to save for your child's future. Sometimes that is not possible when you are living hand to mouth. We are not saying that it is wrong to help if you can. 

alove4chevys

catlackey:

ccip82:

2. Sometimes during the day I talk to DD in a British/Scottish accent...I think it would be cool if she picked up the accent while we are here...how do I talk to her in an accent you ask?? I sing along with the new musical toys that we bought for her. I might buy more because I am getting tired of the same music..DH has no idea I do this...

This is hilarious and awesome!! 

I agree! I had this awesome picture in my head of this. Thanks for the laugh.

spacedolphin11

kwinkle1980:

KellyR33486:

I think that if you need to lie to your pediatrician you need to find a new one. 

My parents paid for my undergrad tuition and my wedding and part of my grad school tuition.  I also got a 75% scholarship. They also did they same for my younger siblings.  I plan on doing at least that for my son if not more.    

That is great if you are able to. I think we are throwing our stories out there in response to the posts about how it is irresponsible not to save for your child's future. Sometimes that is not possible when you are living hand to mouth. We are not saying that it is wrong to help if you can. 

Yep, definitely. DH's mom is a doctor and paid for his college, which was great. My parents are teachers with four kids who just make ends meet, so I always worked during college and took out loans. But they supported me in every way they could, and that's great too. 

My confession: I'm about to attend my third family gathering in three days (previous two were DH's side; today is mine) and as much as I'm glad to have family close by... I'm totally wishing I lived on the other side of the country. Family overload! 

Also, DH's cousin got a job in my dream place to live, and I am super jealous and having a hard time being excited for him.

Happily Overwhelmed

rlfonda:

We are not saving for DS college and I don't think that makes us selfish or rediculous.  

 We both had to pay for our college-with student loans-and I think it provided us with a strong work ethic . And we both have worked since we were 15. 

 

We have a small savings account started for him which we put any gifted money he receives into.

 I want my children to go to college and know they are paying for it. I feel if they pay for something (whether  it's something as small as a t-shirt,a cell phone, or as big as college) they will respect it more. 

 We will co-sign any student loan he needs and provide for any NEED. Even if he is married with children. It's part of being a parent! 

 

I'm way late to the show today! I completely agree though (same with weddings and cars). 

I think it's our job to TEACH our children how to get what they want/need out of life. It's not our job to buy it for them. We're responsible to feed, give shelter, clothes on their back, and love---at least until age 18. Everything else is just a bonus. It should never be labeled as irresponsible when you work hard to raise your children and just can't make it affordable to pay for their extras. And IMO (since it is FFFC) it just really hurts your child to pay their way for everything. Those who are going to whine and complain about so-and-so's parents not paying for a car, wedding, or college tuition just make themselves sound spoiled and ungrateful. 

brandywine2010

kwinkle1980:

I paid my own way through college, and I am really proud of it. I feel like I worked harder and have a deep work ethic as a result. My parents were not irresponsible, they were poor. 

My students loans are nearly paid off and I am saving for my child's future...however, I would like my kids to know what it means to really work toward a goal. 

I couldn't have said it better. We will save for our children's future as well, but what if my kid wants to be a doctor or lawyer? Will we have enough money set aside for that kind of education? No way in helll, not on the salaries that we make.  

brandywine2010

kwinkle1980:

rlfonda:

jvg6909:

 

 

  

ETA: I know someone whose massive princess wedding forced her parents to take out a second mortgage...and they divorced within 2 years.  

I know someone who told her parents that the would never see their grandchildren if they didn't pay for her wedding.

 

brandywine2010

Here's my FFFC- 

Since we are talking money a lot in this thread, I thought I'd throw this out there:

I am a teacher, starting my 7th year in the same system. DH is a carpenter and has been doing this for almost 10 years. We are both college educated, but if you look at our annual income, you wouldn't think so.

We saved money to cover our medical bills with DD. When she was born, I was still making payments on my surgery to remove endometriosis. After her delivery, I decided to apply for financial assistance through our hospital. I mean, what could it hurt? I didn't expect to get anywhere with it, but took the chance anyway. It turns out that DH and I are barely living above what the hospital considers the poverty level for a 3 person family. We got 15% of our total hospital bills (surgery and delivery) forgiven and the rest is financed at 0% interest. So, I am putting the money I set aside for the bills, into savings.

When I think about our current economic times and the economy since I've been out of high school, it really depresses me. I wonder if we'll ever be able to have the things in life that we work hard to achieve. I finished graduate school two years ago and the "raise" that I got is just enough to pay my student loan debt. I always thought I'd have such a better life than the ones my parents had. It seems we are no better off than they were when I was growing up.

EDIT: Spelling (barley instead of barely) LMAO 

ETA For clarification: If we had made about $4,000 less last year, I was told we would have qualified for 100% forgiveness (even with our insurance). And in case you are wondering, DH's income is almost the same as mine. 

xraychick07

I accidentally spent $370 getting my hair highlighted yesterday. I called Bellagio and made sure a partial highlight would be no more then $120.... Little did I know a tiny trim off the ends/shampoo/blow dry would add on an extra $250. I cried for two hours... I was PISSED. 

CountingUp

xraychick07:

I accidentally spent $370 getting my hair highlighted yesterday. I called Bellagio and made sure a partial highlight would be no more then $120.... Little did I know a tiny trim off the ends/shampoo/blow dry would add on an extra $250. I cried for two hours... I was PISSED. 

ugh. I've done this. I remember that gut wrenching feeling.

brandywine2010

xraychick07:

I accidentally spent $370 getting my hair highlighted yesterday. I called Bellagio and made sure a partial highlight would be no more then $120.... Little did I know a tiny trim off the ends/shampoo/blow dry would add on an extra $250. I cried for two hours... I was PISSED. 

Oh my Gah! I'd be looking for another place to go. I live out in the country, so this may sound foreign but the MOST expensive salon near me charges around $100.00 for a cut and highlights. I've only been there twice. I pay $45.00 for full foil highlights, cut and eyebrow wax. 

Greenbaby3114

xraychick07:

I accidentally spent $370 getting my hair highlighted yesterday. I called Bellagio and made sure a partial highlight would be no more then $120.... Little did I know a tiny trim off the ends/shampoo/blow dry would add on an extra $250. I cried for two hours... I was PISSED. 

Oh my goodness. That's insane. The big places are always so much. I go to a small salon near my house. It's not a bad place at all. It looks nice with private rooms for the customers. I pay $115 for full foil highlights with 2 colors, cut, shampoo, and style. I wouldn't go back to that place! $370 is ridiculous!

MrsT2008

I don't think having college paid for makes someone not understand the value of hard work. 

We worry about our retirement more than A's college right now, but I would love to be able to help her financially - in whatever way we can afford.  If we can afford to pay for all of it, then we will.  And if we can afford to pay for her wedding, we'll do that too.

I believe in giving my kids the best start to their adult life that I possibly can, and that includes avoiding debt.  I am extremely fortunate that my parents could afford to send me to college and pay for my wedding.  My dad's goal was to give me the best chance to succeed and part of that was making sure I had no debt when I got out on my own.  I am not a spoiled brat, I earn every penny I am paid, and my husband and I support ourselves 100%.  But starting our life together with zero debt certainly has been a huge help, but not something that has us taking anything for granted.

kwinkle1980

MrsT2008:

I don't think having college paid for makes someone not understand the value of hard work. 

We worry about our retirement more than A's college right now, but I would love to be able to help her financially - in whatever way we can afford.  If we can afford to pay for all of it, then we will.  And if we can afford to pay for her wedding, we'll do that too.

I believe in giving my kids the best start to their adult life that I possibly can, and that includes avoiding debt.  I am extremely fortunate that my parents could afford to send me to college and pay for my wedding.  My dad's goal was to give me the best chance to succeed and part of that was making sure I had no debt when I got out on my own.  I am not a spoiled brat, I earn every penny I am paid, and my husband and I support ourselves 100%.  But starting our life together with zero debt certainly has been a huge help, but not something that has us taking anything for granted.

I don't think you are a spoiled brat at all. I also don't think there is anything wrong with being proud of paying for something as massive as a college education though minimum wage jobs. 

My husband and I have virtually no debt. I have about 10k in student loans with a very low interest rate.

Again, I think the issue here is that people were calling folks in our parents' situation irresponsible. No one is calling your side of the fence bad by any means. 

xraychick07

brandywine2010:

xraychick07:

I accidentally spent $370 getting my hair highlighted yesterday. I called Bellagio and made sure a partial highlight would be no more then $120.... Little did I know a tiny trim off the ends/shampoo/blow dry would add on an extra $250. I cried for two hours... I was PISSED. 

Oh my Gah! I'd be looking for another place to go. I live out in the country, so this may sound foreign but the MOST expensive salon near me charges around $100.00 for a cut and highlights. I've only been there twice. I pay $45.00 for full foil highlights, cut and eyebrow wax. 

 I'm in Vegas on vacation and only went bc my roots were absolutely disgusting and I thought I would give myself a little "treat" while here! My stylist charges 85 every time!! Ugh! It literally made me sick to my stomach! 

brandywine2010

xraychick07:

brandywine2010:

xraychick07:

I accidentally spent $370 getting my hair highlighted yesterday. I called Bellagio and made sure a partial highlight would be no more then $120.... Little did I know a tiny trim off the ends/shampoo/blow dry would add on an extra $250. I cried for two hours... I was PISSED. 

Oh my Gah! I'd be looking for another place to go. I live out in the country, so this may sound foreign but the MOST expensive salon near me charges around $100.00 for a cut and highlights. I've only been there twice. I pay $45.00 for full foil highlights, cut and eyebrow wax. 

 I'm in Vegas on vacation and only went bc my roots were absolutely disgusting and I thought I would give myself a little "treat" while here! My stylist charges 85 every time!! Ugh! It literally made me sick to my stomach! 

I'm sorry. I forgot you were in Vegas. I hope you are having fun and that your DD is doing good while you are away. Maybe you can make that money back in the casino?  

KeyLime81

I'm late to everything today...just wanted to add my 2 cents...

~I also dislike social situations where I don't know many people.  I hate making small talk with people I don't know.  A friend of mine calls it "mandatory mingling" and I avoid it if I can.

~I love that LO sees a family dr instead of a pedi.  He's great and his nurse is fantastic, too.  (He's part of a large group of Drs, but it has a personal feel)  I never feel like I have to lie to him.  I've been honest with him about DS sleeping on his tummy and not sleeping/napping well.  He has never lectured me, but he gives great advice when I ask for it. 

~My parents were in a position to give me plenty of financial support.  I'm thankful for that.  However, they made sure that I knew the value of money and hard work.  I don't think that parents have to pay for their children's college education.  However, I do think that that it's irresponsible for parents to not teach their children about financial responsibility.

kennysbabymomma

xraychick07:

I accidentally spent $370 getting my hair highlighted yesterday. I called Bellagio and made sure a partial highlight would be no more then $120.... Little did I know a tiny trim off the ends/shampoo/blow dry would add on an extra $250. I cried for two hours... I was PISSED. 

sooo sorry one of the reasons as a local i tend to stay far away from the strip. a great place to make it back in a casino is the old hard rock on harmon lane.

my FFFC: since we're talking money, i have resentful feeling for my man when instead of looking for a job he goes and plays tennis

preciousmetal

I soooo needed to rage a bit today.

I am annoyed that my SIL signed my DD up for dance classes. I've been wanting to sign her up for them for ages, but having two other children and a full time job, I just couldn't make it fit into our schedule. SIL signed her girls up and volunteered to take our DD with her, since she would be taking her girls anyway. Now she wants me to go up there with her 3 days a week, drop her off, wait with SIL while the class is in session, and take her home. Umm, isn't that what I already COULDN'T fit into my schedule before? But we've already paid, so for the next six weeks, I'm going to be a very unhappy camper.

avehonduras

hlc820:

Stakerz21:

My FFFC... I still nurse my daughter in the middle of the night 2-3 times. Our DR has told me to stop, but I haven't.... When we go back next month, I am considering lying to her about it to avoid the lecture.

THIS, but usually 3-5 times a night!!

I am right there with you!! 

 

 

Me too!

FFFC -- My DH has decided that he suddenly doesn't want our DD to be in the pool until she's 10 months old.  WTF? 10 months?  She's been in the pool with me all summer, and now if we wait until 10 months, it's not going to be hot enough anymore.  He refuses to talk about it with me too which tells me it's like a power thing for him.  On top of all of this it's been in the 100's here, so I've had to just give her cool baths in the tub.  UGH.  I'm so annoyed with him.

babyzep

xraychick07:

I accidentally spent $370 getting my hair highlighted yesterday. I called Bellagio and made sure a partial highlight would be no more then $120.... Little did I know a tiny trim off the ends/shampoo/blow dry would add on an extra $250. I cried for two hours... I was PISSED. 

 

I know you're here on vacation but NEVER go to the Casino Salons!  They are SO expensive because they know a tourist will pay it.  I go to a small salon by my house and I usually pay around $170 for highlights, shampoo, deep condition, cut and style.  It is crazy what the casinos and resturaunts here charge people!  I hope you are having a good time though!

kanga47s

My FFFC:  Some of my friends are pregnant.  I look at there registries and secretly judge them for what I consider "bad decisions."  I over researched everything I bought for LO.  I do know that it's just my opinion...so I try to keep it to myself.

CountingUp

I bought an oball....and knock knock blocks

prairiegurl24

jvg6909:

Oooh, I have another one piggy-backing off of the parents not paying for college....

I don't think parents should be responsible for paying for their children's weddings. I think if you are an adult, you have a job and want a fancy wedding you should pay for it yourself. If you can't afford it, don't have a big wedding, or elope. If it's truly about getting married then the wedding itself shouldn't matter. 

Don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about helping out or contributing...when I got married my parents bought me my dress and paid for the rehearsal dinner. I was also 31and although it was hard we managed to pay pretty much everything by ourselves and had a beautiful wedding and felt extremely proud that were able to do it on our own.I just don't understand these people who have a 60-80k+ wedding that their parents pay for because they feel like they have to and are wiping out their savings or their 401k. I know people who have personally done this so it really irks me. A girl that I know just had one of these big fancy over the top weddings and she's already getting divorced, less than a year later. 

i could not agree more with this, i think its ridiculous to have big over the top weddings, if you love the guy, and i mean truly deeply in love, it really shouldn't matter about 'showing' off, it only makes you look selfish and greedy and 'goddy' (or however you spell that word). i watch rich bride poor bride, and i would say probably about 50 percent or maybe even more end up getting divorced quickly. my hubby and i pretty much paid for everything and the only thing my mother in law paid for was the food that WE prepared, it felt soo satisifying to do everything myself like the deocrations and whatnot.

 

prairiegurl24

KeyLime81:

I'm late to everything today...just wanted to add my 2 cents...

~I also dislike social situations where I don't know many people.  I hate making small talk with people I don't know.  A friend of mine calls it "mandatory mingling" and I avoid it if I can.

~I love that LO sees a family dr instead of a pedi.  He's great and his nurse is fantastic, too.  (He's part of a large group of Drs, but it has a personal feel)  I never feel like I have to lie to him.  I've been honest with him about DS sleeping on his tummy and not sleeping/napping well.  He has never lectured me, but he gives great advice when I ask for it. 

~My parents were in a position to give me plenty of financial support.  I'm thankful for that.  However, they made sure that I knew the value of money and hard work.  I don't think that parents have to pay for their children's college education.  However, I do think that that it's irresponsible for parents to not teach their children about financial responsibility.

so late to the party today so im quoting another person, i totally agree with the family doctor thing, we see a family doctor and he is AMAZING, and soo pleasant and nice, never judges, never flames me for anything, soo encouraging, and everyone love my Lil Emma. there is a BUNCH of doctors in that facility where we go, and the doctor that delivered Emma is there and she ADORES Emma soo much, and Emma LOVVVEEESSS doctors, don't know why. 

last time we went to the doctor Emma was laughing up a storm when the doctor was using the sethescope on her.

MrsRucinski85

I call the baby's DC every day at lunch to check on her even though they always tell me the same thing "shes good" I still call. I know they will call me if there is a problem, but I just feel comforted calling and check in on her.