Family Support

amyburkhart03

This is my first post on here and I am not sure how it works. My son is 5 weeks old. He is my first child and first grandchild on both sides of my family (my husband's and mine). My husband and I have been married for 9 years, and my parents have been pushing for us to have kids since before we got married. I guess in a nut shell, I was wondering how many people on here have support from their family? I am home with my son now, and go to school full-time. When I was pregnant, my sister promised she would watch my son (her nephew) on my school nights. Well, since he's been here in the world, she has come up with an excuse as to why she can't watch him while I am in school and has now told me that she no longer wants to even be counted on at all as a potential person to watch him at all. My parents have made it clear that they aren't going to give up their life, just because they have become grandparents now, so they are out too. My husband works full-time overnights and could watch him when I go to school (only one night a week from 6pm-10pm) but I know I would pay for that the next day because I would get zero help from him at all because of how tired he'd be. I can't afford to pay someone to watch my child right now because we are living on just my husband's income. My parent's-in-law have been very helpful but I don't want to over use their help just because my family is not being very helpful.

 I guess I just don't know what to do. I am feeling extremely overwhelmed. My son's entry into the world was a scary one. I had a c-section and he had some difficulties as well that kept us both in the hospital for 5 days. Then after being home for 2 weeks with severe high blood pressure issues, again doing it all by myself without my family's support, we went back into the hospital for 4 days because my son was having another issue. It has been 2 weeks now since we've been out of the hospital, but we had a close family member pass on last week. I am just having one hell of a time trying to get better, take care of my kid, take care of my house, take care of my husband, do my readings and other things for school and still trying to find time to sleep or at least brush my hair and change my clothes once a day.

So, my question really is, did you get support right away from your family after giving birth, or were you as let down as I am? For you single mother's out there, I really hand it to you! I don't know how you do it and go to school too. 

mrs07c

I was still in college PT, and working 30+hrs when I had my daughter (our first, on hubs side 3rd grandchild, on my 1st) all grandparents were amazing. SIL had said she would watch LO while I worked on Sat, every, then every other, then every third, there was always an excuse (I wish she would have just said no from the get go)...they say it takes a village and I agree, but not everyone's that lucky! Good Luck! 

Carebear12303

If you are a Christian, pray.  Pray to God to give you peace during this time.  Ask Him to give you strength to take care of your new baby boy and ask for strength for your husband as well.    He doesn't give us more than we can handle.  I wish you lots of joy and happiness with your new family.  

 Seems your parents or sister may have a bug up their butts.  I don't understand why they would be so supportive to have a child and then show no support.  Thats just wrong.  I am sorry you are going through that, but I am sure you have a wonderful beautiful baby boy.