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FyreFlyeRush
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Got Served Today...
FyreFlyeRush
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So, I got served today. He's petitioning the court for a paternity test, then, he's asking for custody, child support, medical support, and legal fees. I want to throw up.
EDIT: I think that might have just become my low for the week.
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Re: Got Served Today...
WHAT?!?!!? Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry.
He wasn't around for like any of your pregnancy right? and now all of a sudden he wants to be sole parent. I'm pretty sure he doesn't stand a chance at getting what he wants. Most states are very mommy friendly. I would get yourself an attorney, and fast. Other than that, I don't need to tell you what I think you should do. Your a very smart lady, as you give good advice on things like this all the time.
Again, I am so sorry.
Without any warning? Weren't you letting him (AND his mother) into your home to visit with the baby?
I'm so sorry. I know how tough the first few weeks are physically and emotionally I also know what it is like to have a huge psychological trauma thrown into the mix at that time too. I feel for you.
My four favorite words: THIS TOO SHALL PASS. Stay strong. xo
Also...medical support? You almost have to laugh, it is so ridiculous. YOU were just pregnant for 9 months. YOU just gave birth. And YOU probably haven't even had your 6 week PP check-up. But HE wants medical support for a baby that he wants to prove is his?
OK turbo...
Exactly.
okay sorry but he is seriously crazy if he thinks a TX judge is gonna rule in his favor for all these things. I want to slap him. Dont worry keep your head up!!
I've calmed down. I'm still an emotional wreck, but I feel better. I reread the paperwork, and it's actually 2 suits going. One is for paternity, and the other for everything else. I panicked because the initial court date is the 29th. I have four days to find a lawyer. First, I'm requesting a delay. 4 days is an unreasonable amount of time to find and interview an attorney. Plus, I'm applying for legal aid. Also, I'm only 4w postpartum. LO can't even go to daycare yet. What am I supposed to do with him during court?
Second, I have an open case with the AG with a FVI on it. We're going to see if the AG case will take precedence. I filed it 5 days after he did, but with the Family Violence Indicator on it, I think the AG will claim jurisdiction.
Finally, if this court gets jurisdiction, they can't do anything until the paternity suit comes back. At that point, he has to open a second case for custody...AFTER child support and medical support are granted to ME. I know he won't get anything else. He MIGHT get joint legal, but that's nothing. I'll get primary residence. He'll get visitation.
I'm so sorry to read this! You gave me some good advice when I posted last and I wish I had advice to give you in return.
All I can say is that you do really seem to have your head on your shoulders and I really think the court will side with you on this one.
Unfortunately, I have a VERY big feeling that this same thing is going to happen with my LO's father so please share any resources you find along the way!
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers!!!!!