Our son is three weeks old tomorrow and my husband is not handling things well. We are obviously sleep deprived, but it's more than that I think. He's so tense all the time and he told me that he just looks at everything with the baby like a chore that he has to do. Change, feed, settle baby to sleep....repeat.
He volunteered to do night feedings because I was pumping. My supply was extremely low so we've had to switch to formula which means I can do some of them now. Last night was terrible. At 1, my DH got up for a feeding and was having a hard time getting DS settled back down. He got so upset that he was throwing pillows and he even hit the wall. I had no idea what to do. I tried to tell him to take a break and that I could take over but he told me no.
During the day we rotate jobs. He will volunteer to sit with DS while I nap or shower or eat, but I know he's not enjoying any of it. When it's time for feeding he just let's out this big sigh like "here we go again".
But then other times he's really loving and doting with DS.
I want to talk with him today, but I'm not sure what to say. I really want him to try to be less tense and anxious. I know the baby can sense it and it's not helping anyone. Can fathers get PPD?? Should he talk to a counselor?? Does anyone else have a similar experience?