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January 2012 Moms
raefre
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UO Thursday
raefre
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Re: UO Thursday
Our dog is driving me crazy. The second I get 10 minutes to myself, all he wants to do is play. I feel bad because he's clearly not getting as much attention since the baby came so I end up half-heatedly throwing a ball to him. I'd never give him away, but I sometimes fantasize about it.
I have the same problem with our cat. I love her but I don't have the energy for her and the baby. She gets ignored a lot and she protests loudly and constantly.
My cat has started crying at the door when I go to bed. One night I felt bad and let him in, and he jumped on the bed and started playing with a toy. I was tired and had no patience for him, so back outside the bedroom he went. Poor kitty just wanted to play. I wouldn't ever give him away, but I do feel bad that he gets less attention these days.
My UO is I don't think body weight really matters. I think it does more harm than good to cut out all of your favorite foods and reminding yourself constantly that you're heavier than you should be. In my opinion, I think a better goal is to love your body. Food is fuel for your body, not the enemy. Besides, we only get to live once. I'd rather enjoy some chocolate cake every now and then than living on a diet of food I don't like in fear of getting fat.
I tend to agree except I guess my UO is that people who enojy that cake "every now and then" are nont typically the one with excess body weight. At some point the "you only live once" argument becomes a rationalization for an unhealthy lifestyle.
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I tend to agree except I guess my UO is that people who enojy that cake "every now and then" are nont typically the one with excess body weight. At some point the "you only live once" argument becomes a rationalization for an unhealthy lifestyle.
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Love your UO! I agree. I am not completely at the weight I want to be (close, but not there), but sometimes I stop and think, "I'm happy w/ the way I am. If it means I still get to indulge every now and then and be this size (as opposed to a bigger size), I should be thankful. & this size isn't bad, either."
My UO for this week is that I am having a hard time stomaching my friends who don't have kids. My so called best friends ( they are twins) have only been to see my LO once since she was born and they constantly compare their dogs to my baby. Now don't get me wrong, I love dogs, had dogs throughout my childhood so I understand that they become part of the family. But they in no way compare to having a baby. Also, one of them got married this past weekend and while I knew all along that it was an adults only reception, she had told me I could bring LO the church. Well, the day before, she changed her mind and told me that she didn't want any disruptions at her ceremony so it wouldn't be appropriate for me to bring my child. Needless to say, I was furious and I didn't go to the ceremony. If my child isn't welcome then neither am I. I didn't even want to go to the reception but I did because I had committed to going.
I know I can't expect anyone who doesn't have a baby to understand just how hard it is to leave them at all, I guess I just thought that since they are supposed to be my bff's, I had thought they would be more sensitive. There have been other things that have happened in the past 6 months to make me question the strength of our friendship and this last one is the final nail in the coffin. I just can't count on them anymore.
I don't get how people can compare their dogs (or cats or whatever) to someone else's kids. I mean, do they go around saying, "Oh my dog just rolled from back to stomach today" or "My cat giggled for the first time."
I understand how your friend wouldn't want a baby at her wedding but I also think it is wrong to say one thing and then change it a day or two before the wedding. Sometimes, it is difficult to find a reliable baby sitter on short notice.
As for weight, there is a difference between being 350 lbs over weight and 10lbs overweight. I don't think she was advocating having a BMI of 40+ and being happy with yourself.
I guess I interpreted the bolded part as not supporting being extremely obese, as I doubt the person who is 500lbs only eats cake once and a while. I might have been reading between the lines, though.
zachary happens! | little fish
I guess I just don't understand it because I think of weddings as family affairs and I would never tell anyone they couldn't bring their kids. I had kids/babies at my wedding and sure, the babies cried a little during the ceremony and the kids ran around like crazy during the reception, but never for one second did I consider it a disruption or did I feel like it took away from my day. It actually made it more special to me because I know for a fact many of my guests would have been unable to attend had I told them they couldn't bring their kids.
Having a sitter was not even the issue for me. My Dad would have been more than happy to spend the whole day and night with his granddaughter. My issue was that she knew how upset I was at the thought of leaving her for the evening and then she expects me to now leave her all afternoon too. I am EBF'ing and my baby loves her booby time. I don't think its fair for her to expect me to pump and bottle for the whole day.
Plus, a church is a house of God and to be told I can't bring my daughter is something I don't understand. My LO has been to church multiple times in her life and has never made a peep. And she usually goes to hour long masses, not 30 min ceremonies. I had planned to sit in the back with DH, and if she even started to act up at all, he would have taken her out before she started crying.
I think the biggest reason I am so upset is because these girls were supposed to be my besties and they have seen my daughter twice in her life. They have made zero effort to get to know her or to spend time with me. I had a rough first month as a mom and they knew about it and were nowhere to be found. I have definitely realized who is there when the chips are down.