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Sometimes it just hurts....

sammer818sammer818 member
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We were talking about something today at work, and my coworker replied "Trust us. We're all moms here...except Sam, but she agrees with us too." It never stops hurting when someone says something like that. *Sigh* I know she didn't mean anything by it but that doesn't make me feel any better.

TTC since April 2010
BFP #1 – March 2011, missed m/c April 2011
BFP #2 – October 2011, m/c November 2011
Surprise BFP #3 – December 2011, diagnosed as cornual, terminated January 2012
BFP #4 – June 2012, m/c July 2012
Diagnosed with bicornuate ute and MTHR gene mutation
BFP #5 – October 2012, missed m/c November 2012
BFP #6 – January 2013, m/c March 2013
No longer TTC. Diagnosis: Hostile ute. Heartbroken and bitter. Pursuing surrogacy.
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    Mmm79Mmm79 member
    Ouch.  It's tough when people thoughtlessly say things like that- especially when they come out of nowhere. I hope your day gets better.

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    KikiCohenKikiCohen member

    What a horrible thing to say.... :( 

    FWIW, I still consider myself a mom.  The way I see it, I carried my LO even though it was a few short weeks.  I'm still that baby's mother. 

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    luvsdogs2luvsdogs2 member
    What a b!tch!  Even if you hadn't been through what you've been through, why would somebody single you out like that.  And if she knows what you've been through, I would have had a big old "Fluck you" for her.
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    panacea05panacea05 member

    I'm so sorry your co-worker said that. I know how much it must have stung.

    Also, if she knows about your losses, she's a giant idiot.

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    kiki4kiki4 member
    That was so unnecessary...I'm sorry she said that. ((hugs))
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    ChloBubChloBub member
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    I'm so sorry your co-worker said that. I know how much it must have stung.

    Also, if she knows about your losses, she's a giant idiot.

    This. Although it's happened to me, too. (((((HUGS)))))

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    mgh2008mgh2008 member
    Ugh!  That's terrible.  I am so sorry.  People just don't think sometimes before speaking, or they do and are just idiots.
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    jenn0021jenn0021 member
    I'm so sorry. I've had this happen to me before too. My boss (who knows about both my losses) will say something like "you're not a mother so you wouldn't understand". It stings every time. ((Hugs))
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    big_noisebig_noise member
    Sad Sending a hug your way. That stuff hurts.
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    imwithrebelimwithrebel
    I'm sorry. The other day at work someone (who doesn't know about our IF or losses) pointed out "Oh every other teacher has kids at the school except for you, huh?" Yep, thanks for reminding me. :(
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    Gknauff79Gknauff79 member
    WOW.  People can be seriously insensitive, even if the intent isn't malicous.  Today must be STUPID COMMENTS day, it certainly seems to be going around. HUGS!!! I'm sorry.

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    I'm sorry you had to go through that. Unfortunately, others don't consider us moms. Everyone in my group at work (although they're all older) has at least 1 child. Thankfully, everyone but my manager knows what happened to me and never brings anything like that up.
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    minicheezburgminicheezburg member
    Wow what a crap-tastic thing for them to say. That is when I would have to say something, that's just me though.
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    DaisyZHDaisyZH member
    Ugh, I am so sorry that she said that.  That is very hurtful (( Hugs)) to you


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    Seriously?? Some people are just so rude, and insensitive. I hope she doesn't know about your lost, because then she's not insensitive, she's a witch (with a b).

    I am so sorry.

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