Pregnancy hormones? or just twisted co-dependency pattern?

Sigir

Something happened today where I found out that exh was unsuccessful in buying tickets to a school event for him and dc to attend, that I know dc would have enjoyed.  Exh is not supportive of dc being in this school, so it was unusual for him to actually support anything school related.  I am finding myself feeling very sad (almost feeling like crying) for him and for dc.  I can't tell anyone IRL about this because they all know what an a-hole exh is to me, and they would think I am crazy. 

I just feel sad because I remember when exh was a decent person to me, and that he is just a normal person deep down beneath all the anger- someone who wants to be happy, spend time with their dc, and just enjoy life.  I don't regret anything, but remember the good times when we were a family and that makes me sad.  I feel sad because we have to go through all these anger-filled emails and court battles when at heart we both really do love dc. And I feel sad that dc misses out on things that a child from a 'normal' family would not.

I really feel like breaking down about this, and it makes no sense at all.  Is it just pregnancy hormones, or is it just me slipping into that same old pattern of feeling bad for him?  it's very annoying.   Anyone ever feel this way?

socloudy99

IDK why you feel this way but 100 things could come up so a "normal" family can't attend an event.

You know this guy is a jerk and difficult to deal with. He has proven that time and time again. I am sure he doesn't feel bad about the things he says and does to you.

Your DC missed an event

That stinks

He will miss others

He will be okay

Just keep being a good mom and work on letting your exs crap be his crap.

Sigir

You're right!  I had to stop myself from trying to step in when I found this out, to try to help him get the tickets, because I know that it would end up backfiring on me somehow.  I guess it will get easier, as time passes, to step back and I won't feel this way anymore.