the problem with having an eurasian baby

roaringrock

AND being "older," everyone thinks ginny is adopted. I get "the look" every single time I'm out with the baby. after all I went through -- hardcore stims with 4 IVFs, a SCH, a VERY difficult labor, episiotomy, jaundice, infected nipples and a UTI (did I forget something?) I want to hear "she has your eyes or nose or smile..."

nope. oh poop. 

maybe when we pursue adoption with our second child he/she will resemble me. yeah, right... 

marriedgirl05

Well, she is gorgeous none-the-less and I'm sure once she gets bigger she'll start to resemble you more!  We have the opposite problem.  DH is New Mexican (native american/hispanic) and we were all sure Evan would look exactly like him, but he it seems he got all the "whitey" genes!  :-)  Hopefully the next one will look more like DH!

SeaSoul

That's interesting - I can see how that could happen and how it would be frustrating for you.  Maybe you'll get used to it in time?  We will likely adopt #2, too...  maybe we will go through that journey together as well!!

wvagirl

she is one beautiful babe no matter who she resembles!

roaringrock

ginny is definitely ALL DAD. 100%!

good thing he's handsome.

 

Jen&John2005

marriedgirl05:

Well, she is gorgeous none-the-less and I'm sure once she gets bigger she'll start to resemble you more!  We have the opposite problem.  DH is New Mexican (native american/hispanic) and we were all sure Evan would look exactly like him, but he it seems he got all the "whitey" genes!  :-)  Hopefully the next one will look more like DH!

My SIL is Latina, and my nephew is white as white can be, looks exactly like my brother (very fair skin and red hair).  It'll be interesting to see what their next baby looks like.  DH and I, on the other hand, have almost the same eye (hazel), hair (brown), and skin colors so there's little question about how our babies will look. 

To the OP, Ginny's a cutie! 

doolin

In the 10 or so eurasian kids I know, almost all of them started out looking 100% asain, then slowly started to look like a combo.  I also have that kooky theory that almost all babies start out looking like dad and then slowly morph closer to mom (except for cutie Evan James above).  But I can imagine it's frustrating.  You certainly worked hard to have a bio child!!

I have one sortof funny anecdotal story: we have friends who are an indian/chinese couple.  After about 6 months, their daughter really started to look like a combo of the two of them.  In pictures, though, she would look one way or the other.  With the chinese family, she unmistakably looked chinese.  With the indian side, she looked unmistakably indian.  We've decided that she just looks nepalese and, therefore, her looks lend to either side.  You just never know.

 

somethingchangd

doolin:

 I also have that kooky theory that almost all babies start out looking like dad and then slowly morph closer to mom (except for cutie Evan James above).  But I can imagine it's frustrating.  You certainly worked hard to have a bio child!!

That's actually not a kooky theory at all - it's true!  Babies are born looking more like dad in a biological effort to keep dad around (and stop him questioning who the baby really came from).  Mom knows it's her baby so she is going to stay and care for the baby regardless, but dad doesn't really *know* it's his unless baby looks like him.  So our genes arrange it so that generally a newborn looks like his/her daddy.  Crazy, huh?

EverAfterinMi

When I was in college I nanny'd for a family where the mother was caucasian and the father was Chinese. They had two daughters who were just gorgeous. I loved those girls like my own and I even named my dog after one. I am sure yours will be just as beautiful so who cares what people think!!

mrsolsenk12

I think she is gorgeous no matter whom she resembles. She is lucky she will have beautiful skin as she grows up. My DH and I are both caucasian but very different looking ones. I am blonde hair, blue eyed, fair skined. DH is dark brown hair, darker skin (italian decent). I will be interested to see if our baby is blonde, brown, or some combination of the two.

leslieanne1003@yahoo.com

give it time!  dd looked just like daddy, super asian when she was born.  but now she is a good mix of both of us, although some people say she looks like me and some like him.  who knows!

BoxTer

Well, DH and I are both Caucasian and maybe one person has ever said she looks anything like me. They all say "she looks just like your husband." So you're not alone!

crystalgirl

My nephew is also eurasian.  I think some people just can't see past the asian features.  If you look closely though, he has a lot of my sister's features and expressions.  Give it some time.

I also think it's sometimes hard to see yourself in a baby.  I know I have trouble seeing myself in DS (other than his chin, which is exactly like mine), but other people can see it.