How to break the news?

kjbroad

We just had our first in November so she only 6 months old, and found out we will be expecting #2 around October. Its quite obvious that I'm pregnant, however I'm playing it off like I just haven't lost all my weight from the first pregnancy and I have been wearing bigger shirts... We haven't told anyone yet, mainly because we have been stressing about this whole situation and it all happened so fast and unexpected. I'm really excited about having another, but I'm not sure how to tell our family and friends. I've already had tons of comments about how we need to wait a while and how "grandma's not ready for another grandchild yet" and blah blah blah and I really just wish they would keep their negative comments to themselves. But honestly the more I think about everything they've said, the harder it is to find a way to tell them. Anyone else go through a similar situation or have any advice? Don't get me wrong, I am happy and will not let anyone bring me down. It's still just hard with my crazy emotions and all the stress we are facing right now. Thanks.

KimGuilbault

I found out I was pregnant with my second when my first was only 4 months old. This was very hard for me to take in let alone put up with everyones negative comments when I would tell them. My first child was a surprise too and after she was born we had some issues in our relationship and then things got better and I got pregnant again. Wasn't planned either but that what happens when you think o it can't happen to me. I waited until we were certain on our decision of what we were going to do. Then because I was not sure how far along I was ( I either could have been like 12 weeks or just got pregnant due to the situation I was in) so we waited until I was done with the first trimester. Mind you my family is very supportive and everything but just some situatiosn in my life they are not all for. They acutally took the news a lot better the second time around than they did the first time and they are just as loving to my son as they are to my daughter.

Tell them in your own time and don't let their negative comments affect your happiness. If you have to tune them out of your life for a little bit until they are positive about the situation then that is what you have to do.

Good luck! If you need anything you can PM me. I went through major issues with telling people about my second one.

freeatlast2014

Although we weren't preventing, I cried when I got my BFP because I was so nervous. I knew I would be met with opposition when I told certain family members. And, as expected, they delivered!

My mom and her mom were like "No way. Really? Already?" It was sad...

Some people on my husband's side thought it wasn't planned (even though I was a nervous wreck after I found out, it was planned).  

I feel like the thought of another so soon was exciting and then realizing it's happening was a bit different.

Anyway, I broke the news by having LO wear a "Big Brother" t-shirt and showing it off to our family. They couldn't get mad or upset at him!

Good luck - I know that us moms just do what we have to do and it all works out in the end. If you have to shut them out for a bit until they come around (whether that's now or in October) so be it...but they will come around and love your new LO just as much as your first LO. 

sxyhrdrssr

Every child is a gift, whether planed or not. We told at ds1's first birthday- I was 4 months alOng, but made sure to tell everyone how happy we were ( they don't need to know he was a surprise). If you are upbeat and tell everyone how loved the baby is already, it makes it difficult for others to say negative comments. Your children are yourfamily and ppl shouldn't make you upset for growing your family. Best if luck and h and h 9 months!!

kjbroad

Thank you all so much! Its so nice to hear about other people that have been in the same boat. I definitely like the idea of getting my daughter a "big sister" shirt or something. Everytime I see family they keep asking if I'm thinking about having a second or make some comment on when we might have another, and keep saying we should wait and take our time and I just bite my tongue and smile but deep down I wanna scream "helloooo I already am!" lol Surprise or not, and prepared or not, I am excited. End of story. I just hope when I do break the news they are supportive, but if not, I will have no problem without them and doing whatever we have to do with just our little family.