is this weird?

ashlyn1584

Wanted to get some opinions- my MIL wants my husband to be at the baby shower for the entire event....at other showers I have been to, the husband typically comes halfway through or towards the end...what are everyone's thoughts on this?

RoxyLynn

Assuming that all guests invited are women, I think your DH would be bored out of his mind to be there for the whole thing.  Arriving a half-hour before things wrap up is plenty.

dufferoo

Sounds like she wants to throw the shower for both of you, and probably wants him there cause it's her own son. Yeah, it's kind of weird unless it's a co-ed shower, but I would just go with the flow since she's the one hosting. Worst case scenario, he's uncomfortable for a few hours. It will be good practice for the labor and delivery experience

quezzo

In my family, the dads are always there. 

CraftyKayla

I think it's normal either way. My SO actually wants to be there, and the last 2 showers I was at, the father was there the whole time.

punkrockabye

Dad helped make the baby. Maybe my husband is just weird, but he'd me more comfortable surrounded by women than men, as he tends to have very little in common with other men. He'd feel extremely left out if he wasn't at a shower and I'd be uncomfortable without him there. But regardless, people are giving gifts that are to be used for his child, so I think dads should be at showers. Ours are co ed to avoid issues though.

rhubarb123

I guess I am one that thinks dad to be needs to come in toward the end - maybe at gift opening time.  Most showers I've been to that were not co-ed but the DH's were there for the whole thing were awkward to say the least.  You could definitely tell the guys were uncomfortable.  Most DH's show up at the very end to load up the car.  My DH came in at gift-opening time (but I opened the gifts).  I knew most of the guests would want to see him since his family and friends all came from 3-5 hours away.  He didn't come until the very end at my church shower and didn't come at all for my work shower.  I loaded up stuff myself.  lol

naybird

I think you should ask your husband what he would rather do, and let him tell his mom what he has decided.

There's no way my husband would come near a baby shower, and I'm totally ok with that!

Cranang

My husband came to mine.  It was a super small one, mostly our best friends and his family.  It was awesome, and no one seemed uncomfortable.

eav2c

Could be a going shower which isn't weird to me. For both my wedding and baby showers we sys joint... Which I really enjoyed. If its all women invited though, it might be odd.

ryry1977

I have been to some showers where the DH was attending the whole thing.  It was fine and not weird at all.  If a bunch of his family is going to be at the shower it might be nice if he was there.  Although my DH didn't go to the shower I had that was all of his family!  Just at the very end.

PunkyBooster

I don't get this- I have recently been to 2 showers where the DH had to be there and they both seemed so bored and uncomfortable. I didn't understand why the MILs INSISTED on them being there.

With that said, I would leave it to your DH. 

danieliza1127

I don't like when the guy is there the entire time.  It's just weird to me because in my area, showers are women only events.  I think it's nice when the guy comes at the very end to say thank you and help load up gifts.

MrsPookaLuv

My DH will be at the family shower that his mom and my mom are hosting.  It's not even a question- just an assumption that he'll be there!  lol

dani2480

DH was invited to mine. I left it up to him to decide what he felt comfortable with. At first he said he wanted to attend then decided he would just come at the very end instead to thank the hosts and help collect the gifts. The shower went a little longer than anticipated, so he showed up right as we were finishing the last game (which worked out nicely, because it involved judging some "art" guests made, and I was able to have him help me). He was there through the opening of gifts, and we both thought that was really nice, after the fact.

Really though, it needs to be your DH's choice. Don't make him feel bad either way. But, it would be nice if he made even a brief appearance to thank the hosts at least. I'd also let him handle telling your MIL what he has decided. He's her son, and it's his choice.

tinyhumantoe

My husband would laugh in his mom's face.  Maybe yours is more mature!

apollonia10

My DH will be there. We tend to do things together (we had a joint bachelor/bachelorette party too) and when he didn't come to my bridal shower, we both felt weird about it. I'm happy that he will be there to greet people and open presents with me, and he's happy that he gets to be a part of the celebration