My husband and I are in the military, so neither of us are near our family. A friend at work offered to host the baby shower, so I accepted since I hadn't heard anything from either of our parents. I called my mother to tell her tha date of the shower and she said that she had been planning one for me in my hometown since everyone there wouldn't be able to come where I am to attend. DHs family, however, are going to come here and attend the shower where I live.
I don't want to be picky, but I'd rather have my mother come to the shower where I live, even if she is one of the only people who is able to attend from back home. I would prefer if she or MIL hosted and everyone was together at once to celebrate my first baby.
Re: Multiple Showers, Multiple Locations...
Honestly - if you want your family to be there, I find it rude to NOT have a shower that is local for them and to expect all these people to travel to you. They are being very generous to come to a shower for you and buy you a gift - dont' put it on them to travel to you too. That's asking A LOT.
Plus, you also have to realize- you and DH became a family. Yes, in a perfect world it would be wonderful for both your familes to be able to get together, etc etc etc, but there is no "rule" that your respective families now have to be one big happy family just because you and DH got married. AND logistically, being in so many places, it's not very probable.
I would recommend putting aside this expectation that your families will all get togetgher when they are so far and wide and focus on what's easiest for the majority of people.
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That's great and all, but it sounds like your mother doesn't want to come. Did you tell her what you told us?
This. I realize that you want everyone together in one place, but that is obviously not an option.
I will be going home for the shower that my Mother is hosting. It'll be on a holiday weekend so I'll have plenty of time to drive there and come back. Its simply that I would prefer one big shower over two small ones. My family doesn't come to see me very often so it wouldn't be that big of an inconvenience. I'll only plan to have a shower for my first baby so I would think it wasn't such a big deal.
Honestly, huge showers are overrated. You don't get to spend much time with people, stuff takes forever, and it's much more tiring. You need to be flexible here, let go of what your ideal is, and be happy with what you get. Consider it good training for motherhood.
Maybe your family doesn't come to see you often because it *is* a big inconvenience. Whatever the reason, it's much easier for you and DH to travel than for everyone else to do so. Either accept two showers with grace and gratefulness, or turn your mom down on her offer to host a shower. If you do turn your mom down, expect hurt feelings on her part.