Haven't been here in ages...

maryoosa

Hi. So, I'm queer, and infertile (yes I've been posting on the infertile boards, but I just want to have some queer support)

 

Me: 35, PCOS, anovulatory

Partner: 41, wouldn't try to get pregnant if his (trans) life depended on it. 

We did two cycles with a Midwife, unmedicated, with no testing, both failed, because, I am anovulatory. 

We started working with a fertility doctor who supposedly took my insurance, but didn't take it for labs (a huge part of the fertility experience), so we moved to a different doctor. 

Since September then, I've had all the standard work-ups, and then started clomid. We did 3 cycles on Clomid, and only one of those cycles was worthy of insemination. That was back in December. We are now on our first cycle using Gonal-F. I am on day 8 of my cycle (I've had 3 doses of it) and I'm "not responding well" so my dose is now doubled for the next 3 days.

 This is all so stressful. I really had always planned on adopting but my partner really wanted us to try to have a child. But it's physically exhausting, I feel like a failure 'cause my body won't do what it should, and the poking and prodding is ridiculous. We will continue this cycle unless the endo cancels it, and I might do a few more, however we will not do IVF. 

 I'm just looking for some support/it'll be ok/etc. 

 

Really, just needed to vent. 

Thanks for reading. 

 

LolaBelle515

Welcome to the board! It's a supportive place--feel free to vent/seek virtual hugs anytime.  Sending one now!

Seagull2012

Hi Mary - welcome! I am a lesbian & infertile (dx: DOR) so have been posting here and on infertility board. This definitely makes you feel in between worlds at time. i'm in a similar situation to yours -- my wife does not under any circumstances want to carry - a choice i support (though using her eggs in the future is not out of question) so i hear you about the stress and feeling overwhelmed.

We never went to injectables b/c w/ my dx of DOR my RE suggested to jump straight to IVF. It was a hard jump and really blindsided us at the time (we also were not going to do IVF when we started out) But, now, it's the best decision for us. sounds like you guys don't want to go that route but it might be worth checking out.

Whatever your route to parenthood, know that you guys will be parents someday and it will be wonderful & amazing.

wishing you luck!

ball.and.chain

Welcome (back?).  Feel free to vent here anytime.  I'm not good with the "it'll be ok" stuff (sometimes it's not) but I do sympathize with you and wish you good luck with your cycle.  Just know that there are lots of LGBTQ women (and straight women) struggling to conceive with or without an infertility dx, on these boards and elsewhere, so you are not alone!

Kershnic

Welcome.  I have PCOS also and occasionally post on the trouble trying to conceive board, but mainly post here.  A few of the moms who post here were diagnosed with PCOS before they conceived too...so maybe some others will chime in.

I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time getting your ovaries to ovulate.  Does your RE believe in Femara?  It's not technically FDA approved for infertility, but it's commonly used and easy and cheap like Clomid and some women with PCOS (including me) have a better reaction to it than to Clomid.  TTC is a crazy ride and can take a while even for women with fully functioning reproductive systems, and it can be enough tougher for those of us whose reproductive systems don't want to cooperate. 

I know that it can feel hopeless when you're in it, but when you're able to take a step back there are lots and lots of success stories and in my experience not too many people dedicated to becoming parents who don't achieve that goal, it just sometimes can take a while to get there.  At least that's what I tell myself when I feel down. 

maryoosa

Thanks everyone. Just hearing from others in the same boat is helpful. I appreciate it!