Is this a normal feeling?

AlwaysMrsS

Let me start by saying I do love my baby. We're looking forward to meeting her, and we've started to prepare for her arrival.

With everything going on right now (dh is being unhelpful, dd is either throwing a tantrum or simply wants nothing to do with me, and my everyday tasks plus health problems) I find myself wishing I wasn't pregnant. I feel so guilty that this even crosses my mind. I'm just having a really hard time handling what's already on my plate. I get panic attacks in the middle of the night just thinking about how I'm going to handle 2. Please tell me it gets better.

smerka

I'd say it's normal to feel that way but if it's affecting you sleeping, you may want to talk to someone.  My second was a total surprise and it took until the second tri before I could really even talk about it.  I went back to my shrink and it helped a ton.  You will handle two because you have to.  It may not be perfect, but you'll make it happen.  And it does get better.  At this point, I can't imagine my life without two kids.

Kaiterz

Why is your H not being helpful?  To tie into the pp, maybe couples counseling is needed. 

jazzcrawford

it's a very scary time, I'm sorry you're feeling so worried and sad. 

Counseling is an awesome idea! I would also watch Joyce Meyers and pray a lot.

 

It will get better or you will find peace in the midst of a difficult time which means you will feel better.  

 

kagl08

My DS was 100% planned and I still wondered sometimes what I was doing having another one. I say it's normal but like PP said if you aren't getting sleep from it, I would definitely talk to a dr. Big changes are/will happen, so I think it's normal to have anxiety IMO.

As for your DH... You need to talk to him NOW! Tell him how you feel, tell him he needs to pull his weight. If that doesn't work, then maybe try couples counseling.

It was a lot of adjusting being pregnant then having #2. But I can honestly say I don't regret it for a second! I couldn't imagine not having both my kids. And I think the fears and worries about having #2 were WAY worse than the reality! I feel like a lot of my fears were unnecessary looking back, but what did I know?

littledream313

AlwaysMrsS:

Let me start by saying I do love my baby. We're looking forward to meeting her, and we've started to prepare for her arrival.

With everything going on right now (dh is being unhelpful, dd is either throwing a tantrum or simply wants nothing to do with me, and my everyday tasks plus health problems) I find myself wishing I wasn't pregnant. I feel so guilty that this even crosses my mind. I'm just having a really hard time handling what's already on my plate. I get panic attacks in the middle of the night just thinking about how I'm going to handle 2. Please tell me it gets better.

I just want to say you are not alone at all in feeling this way. I'm sorry you've been so stressed and I can totally relate to everything you said. When I was pregnant with my son, I kept wondering if we had made the wrong decision. I wondered if it wasn't fair to her that she wouldn't get as much one-on-one time with me as other kids her age do. I was so upset thinking that she might forget how loved she is and how much fun she and I had together, just the two of us. I was terrified to have the baby and the last couple weeks of my pregnancy, I was honestly starting to dread my upcoming c-section. Even as I was sitting in the hospital waiting for my surgery, I was so scared. I cried a LOT about it and my husband tried, but he just didn't understand how hormonal and emotional I was feeling about the all the changes.

When my son was born, those negative feelings DID go away. I'm so happy to have him in my life. My daughter adores him and I can't imagine our life without him. Life with 2 under 2 is tough but it's not at all as bad as I had worried it would be.

Please PM me any time if you want to talk... just wanted to make sure you know there are people out there who can relate!