Sad about not having anymore babies =(

angelwings111

I have been getting really sad about the thought that DD is my last baby. ( I have a DS 28m and DD 8m). My pregnancy was very hard physically and emotionally, and DH and I decided we are done. I really am yearning for a 3rd, but DH does not want anymore. I am just sad, and don't really have anyone IRL to tell. I am getting older, and DH is bugging me to donate the baby clothes =( =(

Under.the.Rose

You've decided to not have anymore children and you already have two that you clearly love. 

I understand the feelings of sadness that come along with thinking "I'll never experience pregnancy again...never have a newborn again..." etc. BUT we weren't made to be perpetually pregnant or caring for newborns. It's a short, wonderful stage in the life of a family that will always be a part of who we are as mothers. It's not about quantity (of babies/children), but quality (of life). Having more children will not suddenly be more fulfilling for you than having the two children you've already been blessed with. Focus on developing a mindset of contentment and excitement for the future of your family. 

As much as I love being pregnant and the miracle that it is, I love having my son here MORE and seeing him learn and grow and love. I know I'll feel the same about our daughter (who will probably be our last child as well).  

Time seems to pass far too quickly once you have children, I know. It can be tough!

Keep a few outfits as keepsakes and find another family to bless with those clothes.  

angelwings111

Under.the.Rose:

You've decided to not have anymore children and you already have two that you clearly love. 

I understand the feelings of sadness that come along with thinking "I'll never experience pregnancy again...never have a newborn again..." etc. BUT we weren't made to be perpetually pregnant or caring for newborns. It's a short, wonderful stage in the life of a family that will always be a part of who we are as mothers. It's not about quantity (of babies/children), but quality (of life). Having more children will not suddenly be more fulfilling for you than having the two children you've already been blessed with. Focus on developing a mindset of contentment and excitement for the future of your family. 

As much as I love being pregnant and the miracle that it is, I love having my son here MORE and seeing him learn and grow and love. I know I'll feel the same about our daughter (who will probably be our last child as well).  

Time seems to pass far too quickly once you have children, I know. It can be tough!

Keep a few outfits as keepsakes and find another family to bless with those clothes.  

So true! Thank you

JoannaJes

I really think you should give yourself more time to see the benefits of leaving the baby stage behind. When DD was the age of your DD, I thought I needed to have a third baby. I had been stuck in baby mode for years, so I thought it would be NBD to keep on doing it.

Now that my second is leaving babyhood, I am starting to see how awesome it can be. Two kids that can run around on the playground without me holding them. Traveling is much easier. Bedtime is easier. I am really looking forward to all of the fun "kid" things we can do this summer because we won't have an infant to take into consideration. It really can be fun to be done with babies.

Sometimes when I get that longing for a tiny baby, I realize I don't want another baby to impact my life that I have now. I just long for when my kids were babies themselves. But it's a fleeting thought. 

angelwings111

JoannaJes:

I really think you should give yourself more time to see the benefits of leaving the baby stage behind. When DD was the age of your DD, I thought I needed to have a third baby. I had been stuck in baby mode for years, so I thought it would be NBD to keep on doing it.

Now that my second is leaving babyhood, I am starting to see how awesome it can be. Two kids that can run around on the playground without me holding them. Traveling is much easier. Bedtime is easier. I am really looking forward to all of the fun "kid" things we can do this summer because we won't have an infant to take into consideration. It really can be fun to be done with babies.

Sometimes when I get that longing for a tiny baby, I realize I don't want another baby to impact my life that I have now. I just long for when my kids were babies themselves. But it's a fleeting thought. 

I know, it is so nice to have DS be more independent.  I am hoping in time my yearning will diminish.

MamatoA2010

I feel the same way. I'm 35 and going through a divorce and have one healthy 26 month old girl. I am VERY sad to never be pregnant again since I absolutely loved every single moment of being pregnant but I'm also not ready to experience the baby stage all over again. I'm happy with my one. Maybe I'll be a surrogate? Also, my sister might be getting married soon and wants to start a family so I will plan on living vicariously through her. LOL! GL with your decision!

jmlushbough

JoannaJes:

I really think you should give yourself more time to see the benefits of leaving the baby stage behind. When DD was the age of your DD, I thought I needed to have a third baby. I had been stuck in baby mode for years, so I thought it would be NBD to keep on doing it.

Now that my second is leaving babyhood, I am starting to see how awesome it can be. Two kids that can run around on the playground without me holding them. Traveling is much easier. Bedtime is easier. I am really looking forward to all of the fun "kid" things we can do this summer because we won't have an infant to take into consideration. It really can be fun to be done with babies.

Sometimes when I get that longing for a tiny baby, I realize I don't want another baby to impact my life that I have now. I just long for when my kids were babies themselves. But it's a fleeting thought. 

 This is such a great way to look at it. I have a 2 year old son and a nearly four month old daughter, and before Ruby was even born, I was struggling with this question. The newborn stage is admittedly not my favorite, but I loved being pregnant and I'm already mourning the loss of that stage. 

So glad to hear others' thoughts on the subject. Thanks, Mamas! So much wisdom out there... 

SuperThat1006

JoannaJes:

I really think you should give yourself more time to see the benefits of leaving the baby stage behind. When DD was the age of your DD, I thought I needed to have a third baby. I had been stuck in baby mode for years, so I thought it would be NBD to keep on doing it.

Now that my second is leaving babyhood, I am starting to see how awesome it can be. Two kids that can run around on the playground without me holding them. Traveling is much easier. Bedtime is easier. I am really looking forward to all of the fun "kid" things we can do this summer because we won't have an infant to take into consideration. It really can be fun to be done with babies.

Sometimes when I get that longing for a tiny baby, I realize I don't want another baby to impact my life that I have now. I just long for when my kids were babies themselves. But it's a fleeting thought. 

This is a great perspective.

I'm on the fence about more as well. We are in too small a space for a third, but - at the moment - I'm open to another in a few years (when we hopefully move).

At the same time, I LOVE the toddler stage and the "doing kid things" stage. It's so much more fun than a little blob you have to lug everywhere who doesn't do anything! I'm so excited to have this next baby, but it's not because I love babies, it's because we wanted another child.

I'm wondering if I'm just sad to be done altogether. Having 2u2, it will be a whirlwind of two pregnancies in 2 1/2 years and then nothing. I think I may just have my mind set on three because I am one of two and always thought it would have been great to have a second sibling.

AppleMomma

JoannaJes:

I really think you should give yourself more time to see the benefits of leaving the baby stage behind. When DD was the age of your DD, I thought I needed to have a third baby. I had been stuck in baby mode for years, so I thought it would be NBD to keep on doing it.

Now that my second is leaving babyhood, I am starting to see how awesome it can be. Two kids that can run around on the playground without me holding them. Traveling is much easier. Bedtime is easier. I am really looking forward to all of the fun "kid" things we can do this summer because we won't have an infant to take into consideration. It really can be fun to be done with babies.

Sometimes when I get that longing for a tiny baby, I realize I don't want another baby to impact my life that I have now. I just long for when my kids were babies themselves. But it's a fleeting thought.