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My fiance and I split at the end of Jan. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant and feel completely hopeless and lost. He refuses to speak to me, even about the baby. He told me to "let him know after he is born and we will talk then". He is the one who wanted things to end and accused me of several things that arent true at all, but wouldnt even give me the chance to say one word, literally! I came home, he screamed and yelled then walked out the door and went to the neighbors and had them come tell me that he wanted my stuff out that night! I thought things would be easier by now, but it seems like each day they get worse and worse and I end up more depressed about something. He didnt think he was his child, but I paid for a prenatal DNA test and of course he is, the day we got the results back all he did was send me a text and said "what now". I'm just so lost. He has told everyone I have hurt him and his family so bad and he will never love again, he didnt leave the house for several days straight, but has had another girlfriend for a few weeks! He makes me so mad that I think I am over him, but when I come back to my senses I realize I'm not at all....I guess I just need a pick me up from some of you in similar situations! Thanks 
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Everything Becca said! Also for him to just yell, and then walkout without even wanting an explanation from you sounds very iffy! Not on your part but part of me feels like this new girlfriend might not have been soo "new". To answer his question in YOUR mind "what now?", you focus on having the baby and then once you do, go to your child support agency office and file with them. They pretty much take care of everything for you!
Getting over him will take time, but its time you have to give. Good luck, and yes pretty much 50% of the women here have been through what your going through. Hang in there.......
I'm not so much worried about a romantic relationship with him as I am my son. He is 32 years old and a state trooper here, you would think he could at least have his stuff together enough to be a parent! I am too busy with my one daughter and getting ready for him to worry about that mess, but it just hurts because I NEVER expected him to completely turn his back on us like this. I sent him a text telling him we had some decisions to make like his name, doctor, and if he wants to even be on the birth certificate but he only responds by going off and making sure I know there will never be another "us", even though I have never even mentioned to him that I want another us. I do miss him, but I miss who he was. He has changed a lot in the past few months and is a stranger to me anymore. It just hurts because he used to be such a great person, but is the complete opposite now. It sometimes seems like he has gotten into something he shouldnt have...but I want to give him the benefit of the doubt and not think that.